Isihloko esinzima siwukuthi, ngisho nangokwejwayelekile, mayelana namaphupho, kepha umlando oyinkimbinkimbi wobudlelwano obukhona obusezingeni eliphakeme busemuva kwabo.
"Sawubona. Nginesimo esinjalo. Cishe ngonyaka owedlule umyeni wami eshonile, noma kunalokho, wanquma ukushiya le mpilo - wazilengisa. Ngaphansi kwempilo, umuntu akakwazanga ukuthola indawo, efana nomsebenzi omuhle, futhi ingane isivele ingumuntu. Kungadingeka ukuthi baphile futhi bajabule, kepha cha, wayefuna konke okuzoba ngcono, kodwa njalo bekungikhumbula. Ngaphambi kokuba afe, sesihambile uhhafu wonyaka ngokwahlukana, kwesinye isikhathi safika, kwaba khona uthando, futhi sazisola ngawo ngaya kolunye. Kepha akazange aphile nangenyanga, waqala ukungibiza, wacela ukuba abuye, ngamthethelela, waya yena uqobo. Wabuya, konke kuhamba kahle, kepha waba nomuzwa wokuthi uzomthatha, akamnika ukuthula. Kwakufanele ngiye kugogo wami, wayenomsebenzi, akazange ayeke. Ekuseni, ngemuva komsebenzi, ngangifonela, ngakhuluma, wathi bengiya ekhaya, ngabe ngiphumule. Ngashiya ugogo wami ngomphefumlo ozolile. Kepha kusihlwa lezi zindaba ezesabekayo zeza, umama wakhe wamemeza wathi weza, wakhuluma naye, wathi wakhathele kakhulu, waya ekhishini ukuyolungisa okuthile okumnandi. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi wamcasula impilo. Ngemuva kokushona kwakhe, ngangihlala, noma ngikhona kulempilo. Wangiphupha ngami, wangicela ukuba ngibe naye, ngihlale ngidonswa ezandleni zakhe, ngihudulwe kwenye indawo. Waphupha, wanga, wathi ngiyamthethelela kangangokuba waphila kahle. Noma bekukhona iphupho lapho emi phambi kwesibuko, likhulekelwa futhi liyangibona, licela ukuthwebula izithombe ngokushesha, khona-ke konke aseyikho manje. Ukuvuka, okokuqala ngabheka ifoni ngabona isifinyezo esimnyama sifakwe - akucaci ukuthi yini eboniswe lapho. Futhi manje akunjalo kaningi, kodwa ngiphupha ngokukhuluma naye, ukhuluma ngaye, ngikhuluma ngami. Wonke umuntu uthi angimvumeli ukuba ahambe, futhi ngenxa yalokhu sinokuxhumana okunjalo. Kwesinye isikhathi ngiyasaba ngesaba ukuthi uzongisusa. Ungaba kanjani? "
Ukuzibulala ... ngasikhathi sinye ngesihloko esivamile nesinqatshelwe. Isihloko lapho kungenzeki ukwelapha ukunganaki. Konke ngaphandle kokungafani nokuhamba ngokuzithandela ngokuphila, noma yikuphi ukuvuma izono kwenkolo kunendawo yako enzima kulo mcimbi, ngokubheka isono esikhulu kunazo zonke. Futhi ngasikhathi sinye kwenzeka.
Imibhalo embalwa edlule, sasibheka esigabeni nawe, lapho ukufa komunye umuntu kudlula khona. Leli qiniso lichoboza kakhulu, libuhlungu, libuhlungu, lingabekezeleleki kwabathandekayo, akunakwenzeka ukusinda kulo. Inqubo yezengqondo inakekela impilo ingathatha unyaka, futhi kwesinye isikhathi okuningi.
Ukukhumbuza kafushane ukuthi abantu bahlangabezana nosizi olunamaphethini athile: okokuqala baphika ngokwenzekile, ngoba umcabango uqobo ubonakala ungamukeleki, ongokoqobo, ngoba intukuthelo iza eshintshiwe: odokotela, kuwe, kwabanye abathandi noma abaphathi abaphathi. Sithukuthele nalokho esikushiyile. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, sithukuthele nalowo owashona futhi ngasishiya kanjalo.
Isigaba esilandelayo, singena ezingxoxweni namabutho aphezulu kakhulu, siqala ukuphupha uma kungenzeka ukubuyisa konke, khona-ke ... abaningi ngalesi sigaba benza izinkondlo, izingoma, izithombe eziphrintiwe zomufi. Onke amabutho azama ukwelula ubukhona bayo kulomhlaba. Ukushintshwa kwalesi sigaba kuza ukudabuka kwangempela, ukulangazelela, ukudabuka, ukuphelelwa yithemba, ngokumelene nalemuva esikuqondayo ukuthi yonke into ayisizi ngalutho futhi ngokungenangqondo. Lapho, sibhekene neqiniso ngokweqiniso nomuntu oshonile. Futhi emva kwalokho, ukutholwa, ukuthobeka kanye nokugcwaliswa kwempilo ngencazelo entsha. Siyaqhubeka nokuphuthelwa futhi siyazulazula, nokho, bayakwazi ukuphila, bakwazi ukukhumbula izinkumbulo ezihlukile zobudlelwano bethu. Ngezindlela eziningi, sibucayi ngokwengeziwe, siqala ukusho impilo yakho ngenjongo, sazi ukuthi akunamkhawulo.
Esimweni lapho umuntu azibulala, izigaba zokuqala ezi-2 zishaqeka ngempela kwabathandekayo. Ukuphaphama kwethu kubhala ukuthi wayephila futhi akazange aphile ngasikhathi sinye. Yazi iqiniso lokuthi umyeni wazenzela ngokuzithandela - nali iqiniso elichobozekile. Ngokunokwenzeka, umama wakhe, nomkakhe, i-heroine yethu, bahlukumeza kakhulu abangela umuzwa wecala. Njengomthetho, izihlobo zendoda eyazibulala zingumuzwa obuhlungu ngosayizi wamaselula. Bazama ukubhekana naye, ukuthunyelwa okuningi ku-TV bazinikele ngisho naseqinisweni lokuthi wonke amaqiniso futhi okungelona iqiniso ukufakazela ukuthi akwenzile ngokwakhe. Lapho bezama ukubhekana nomuzwa wecala, futhi eqinisweni, ngokufutheka kulowo owabashiya, amaphupho angaphenduka noma yini. Amaphupho ethu we-heroine anengqondo ngokuphelele, kube sengathi umyeni wakhe ephila ngokuphelele, axhumana naye, ayaqhubeka nokumbiza kuye.
Umcabango owonakalisayo owawutshelwa ngumqondo wokuba necala kungenzeka ukuthi lokho kwenzeka, kwenzeke, iphupho, iphupho alinakufanele, "alizange lisindise," alizange lisindise, "alizange lilindise umyeni wakhe. Ngakho-ke, uzophupha ukuthi umyeni wakhe 'udonsa kanye naye', kube sengathi uzokuthatha ukuze akugcine kulomhlaba nangomsebenzi, futhi manje ufuna ukuba khona kwaKhe ngakho. Izihlobo eziningi zalabo abazibuleleyo ziyaqhubeka zikhona, kodwa impilo yangempela, egcwele izincazelo, uthando, ukuzisebenzisa, kunzima ukubiza. Kubukeka sengathi bafa kanye nalabo abazibulala. Bajwayele ukuzibheka ngokusebenzisa intengo yalokho okufanele bakusole futhi bafanelwe okubi kakhulu.
Ngingasho ukuthi nge-heroine yethu kwakuyisinyathelo esinesibindi sokubhala le ncwadi. Ukuzibulala kuyisihloko esivinjelwe, okuyihlazo. Kusukela amakhulu emindenini okwenzeka kuye, abambalwa kuphela abakwaziyo ukukhuluma ngakho, ngaphandle kokwenza izimfihlo zokuzibulala, abanye kuphela ukuhlupheka kwabo okuningi, zigweme ngosizi oluhlelwe olunesizungu. Ukulindela wena, uma uthatha isinqumo, ungqimba oluphelele lokuhlangenwe nakho okunzima: ulaka, umuzwa wecala, ukucasuka emyeniyeni ongasekho. Ezimweni ezinjalo, kulula ukwenza lokhu ngokusekelwa okuphezulu: i-psychotherapy ingenye yezinketho. Mhlawumbe kunamaqembu emihlangano yabantu eyenzeka ngayo, ngokweqiniso ukuthi kunemiphakathi kwi-Intanethi, lapho abantu abasinda khona okuhlangenwe nakho bahlukaniswa ngezindaba zabo. Mhlawumbe kukhona amaqembu anamasonto noma amathempeli, lapho izihlobo zinosizo olwengeziwe. I-beacon yempilo entsha ingaba yiqiniso lokuthi amaphupho, lapho umyeni "azihudulela khona," kusho ukuthi umuzwa wokuba necala usaphila impilo yakho, ukwenqaba. Awungeke wenze noma yini noma ithonya, ngoba lesi sinqumo wazithatha, akekho noyedwa okwakumelwe umsindise, akugcine, ikakhulukazi wena. Unempilo eyodwa kuphela lapho ubhekene khona - eyakho. Akukho ukuzidela okuzoguqula isikhathi, kepha ungaqala ukugcwalisa impilo yakho ngomunye umqondo, ukwazisa umzuzu wejubane langempela, futhi amaphupho azoshintsha.
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UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin