Uyini ontanga yakhe kumuntu osemusha?
Ontanga osemusha kuyisibuko lapho ukufana kwawo kuboniswa khona nabo nokwehluka kubonakala; Ibhentshi, asonta ngalo izindinganiso zalo; NgoLwesithathu, okubaluleke kakhulu kuye, lapho afuna ukwamukelwa khona, lapho amaphupho okuqondwa khona futhi wesaba ukwenqatshwa.
Izazi zezengqondo zaseMelika zabamba isivivinyo esinelukuluku. Banqume ukuthola ukuthi kusetshenziswe isikhathi esingakanani sontaba nabazali babo. Umuntu ngamunye obambe iqhaza wanikezwa i-pager lapho imibuzo evela kubacwaningi beza phakathi nosuku. Ngomyalezo ngamunye, intsha kwadingeka aphendule ngokushesha, lapho futhi akhona. Kwavela ukuthi ingxenye enkulu yesikhathi (50%), izingane zesikole zibanjelwe nabangane kanye nabangane afunda nazo kanti ama-30% kuphela wesikhathi anikezwe wona.
E-Movement ngoLwesithathu, osemusha udonsa amandla okubhekana nezinguquko kulo, futhi ufuna amabhentshi amasha ngokuziphatha kwawo. Uhlala esemboza isenzo sakhe ngeqiniso lokuthi abanye bamlindile, bezama ukuletha umbono wakhe, imizwa, indlela ehambisana nezinkambiso ezamukelwe phakathi kwabangane. Ngokusebenzisa enye ingane osemusha, ungazitholi kuphela, uyaqhubeka. Ngokwabo, ukufundisa, ubudlelwane nothisha nabazali baya ngemuva. Ngakho-ke, intukuthelo engokomthetho kanye nemibhikisho ibamba umama nobaba, okuyinto oyela abaphendula ngayo abanye babangane.
Namuhla, kunzima kwanamuhla, kunzima ukukhumbula ukuthi inkampani eyeve eshumini nambili yake yaba nokubaluleka kwayo nokuthi yimaphi amakhono abalulekile esiwathengile. Isibonelo, ku-Psychology Kunomqondo onjalo - into ethi "Into Yesibopho Sokubophezela", lapho umuntu ethola ilungelo lomunye enkampanini ukuze abeke umthwalo wemfanelo wempumelelo noma ukwehluleka kwebhizinisi elihlanganyelwe. Ungayenza kanjani ngaphandle kwekhono kunoma yiliphi iqembu labantu abadala ngokuzayo? Isibonelo, uma iqembu lalingahlambiseki kakhulu, ukwehluleka kuthiwa ngumuntu kuphela, futhi uma kukhona ukuxhumana okusondele kulo, khona-ke umhlanganyeli ngamunye ubamba iqhaza ekwehlulekeni noma ephumelele konke okuzuze kukho konke.
Ngobuhlobo bobungane nontanga, abazali bangakuqonda ukuthi yini ngempela ingane ethola ekuxhumaneni futhi ayidingi usizo lwabantu abadala. Kungani futhi lokho osemusha efuna kulabo abangahle bangesabi ukwamukelwa ngabadala? Kungani kuthakazelisa kuye futhi yini enganxephezela isifiso esinjalo?
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Sinjani bangani?
Ubungane phakathi kontanga buvela okungenani ngenxa yezizathu ezine.
Uma osemusha ekwazisa amandla, ukukhuthazela, ubuqili, ngokuqinisekile kuzoqala ukuhlanganisa nabafana abanalezi zimfanelo. Lolu hlobo lobungani luthi "phansi-up" - kususelwa ekuphakameni kanye nokuhanjiswa ngokwengxenye. Osemusha ufuna ukufana nabanye, azame ukulingisa ngokwengeziwe - ezingutsheni, indlela okufanele ubambelele ngayo, khuluma. Futhi ubungane obunjalo - ingane izokhula ibheke ngendlela efanayo nezintandokazi zayo.
Inketho yesibili yobudlelwano obunobungane inyunyana nalabo ababonga kakhulu ikhwalithi onayo. Osemusha uzizwa edingekayo, azibona umuntu wangempela, ngoba enkampanini iyaziswa ngolwazi namakhono (ngokwesibonelo, okuthile okufanele asungule, adlale kahle ibhola noma aqonde ngokushesha izinketho zegajethi entsha). Ubungane obunjalo buthuthukisa amakhono okuphatha nomyalo, futhi futhi ufundisa ukuzwa ukuzethemba. Lolu hlobo lobungani "lunwetshwa kusuka phezulu kuya phansi" - luqukethe ukubuswa kothile, obonisa imithetho ngenkathi abanye kufanele balalele.
Uhlobo lwesithathu lobungani bentsha lwanele, luhlala lubalulekile iminyaka eminingi. Isibonelo, ama-grada athanda kakhulu nge-mathematics anekhono ngokulinganayo, imisebenzi ixazululwa kahle futhi izivivinyo zizama ukufeza imisebenzi eyinkimbinkimbi ngokwengeziwe. Ngasikhathi sinye banesifiso sokuxhumana ngaphandle kwekilasi nangaphandle kwezifundo. Ubungani obunjalo buthatha uhlobo lomdlalo noma umzabalazo, oba umgomo wangaphakathi, yize ubudlelwano bakhelwa ngokulingana kwamaqembu.
Kunohlobo lwesine lapho abasebasha bexhumana khona, bebusa noma abangaphansi koyedwa, bese kuthi omunye. Ukungazinzi kwangaphakathi kwezingane ezinjalo kwenza kungazinzi nobungane babo. Lolu hlobo lobudlelwano luzonikeza ama-rolls futhi lubangele izingxabano, futhi okungenzeka ngokushesha nje, osemusha uzowulalela aqine eqenjini. Maye, uhlobo olunjalo lobungani luyiphutha kakhulu, luphethe icala le-hooliganism, ubusolwazi, isihluku.
Uma ingane ingenzi ubudlelwane nontanga futhi abukho abangane, empeleni idingeka ngosizo lwabazali nodokotela bezengqondo ukuze baqonde ukuthi hlobo luni lwenkinga luxhumeke ngalolu phawu lokungathandeki. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma, ngaphezu kwezindaba zesikole nasekhaya, ingane ayazi ukuthi kufanele yenze kuphi nokuthi yenzeni, uma ezizwa engamukeleki esikoleni, angangena enkampanini ekhona.
Ngikhumbula le ndaba eyenzeka eminyakeni embalwa edlule. I-Natasha yathula ethule futhi enesizotha, eyakhula emndenini ochuma ngokuphelele ngokubukeka, yayingenazo zonke izintombi. Wafunda ngokungalingani, wayesaba ukunakwa kwakhe. Isimemo sothisha sokuphendula eBhodini sabangela ukwesaba. Intombazane kaningi bekufanele yezwe izinkulumo ezibukhali ekhelini lakhe kuthisha wesiNgisi, ngakho-ke akayithandi le nto, njengabanye okwakunzima ukuyenza. Lo mndeni wawungakhathazeki ngokukhethekile ngokuvalwa kwendodakazi nezinyembezi zawo njalo. Kunoma ikuphi, abazali bahlala bengenandaba. Ngesinye isikhathi, umakhelwane onobungane umeme uNatasha ukuthi avakashele, lapho iqembu lentsha labuthana khona. Babekhuluma ngempilo, mayelana nothando, mayelana nobudlelwano. Kwakuheha, futhi isivakashi esisha sasabela ngokunakwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, wamenyelwa ukuba ahlangane futhi. Ngakho-ke uNatasha waba yinto evamile yale nkampani. Kakade ezinyangeni ezimbili, izinguquko zazisobala: ezolile futhi zizethemba, waqala waqala nokufunda izincwadi ngesiNgisi. Wathola lezi zincwadi ezivela kubantu abamaziyo abasha. Phakathi kwabo, wahlangana nomuntu, uthando lwakhe. Konke kulungile uma bekungelona iqiniso lokuthi inkampani entsha yayiyiqembu laseMunitov. Ngokushesha uNatasha wasuka endlini, wazinza emhlanganweni waphuka nabazali bakhe abathatha izinto ezibalulekile nokonga. Njengokulandelanisa okuthembisayo, kwaqala ukuyithumela nezintshumayelo zezimfundiso zenyanga emazweni ahlukene. Wamemezela ubudlelwane naye nabazali bakhe futhi wayeka ukubekela nabo.
Kuyasiza ukufundisa osemusha ukuba enze ebudlelwaneni nabantu ngokucabanga, ukumkhumbuza ngesaga saseRussia "amahlandla ayisikhombisa okufa, imali engenayo." Okokuqala, cabanga, bheka kusuka ezinhlangothini ezahlukene, isisindo, khetha indlela futhi kuphela lapho besenza kuphela. Ukuthembela ekuhlolweni, ukubukwa nezinkolelo ezamukelwe enkampanini lapho zingezona khona, kwesinye isikhathi ziholela ezobeni ukulungela ukuba nemibono yabo, futhi kungavikeli izinkolelo zabo kanye namagugu.
Silinganisela kanjani ikhwalithi yobungani bengane? Kuyavela, kulula impela. Iwusizo ngempela ingabizwa ngokuthi yibudlelwano kuphela lapho abafana bekhululekile khona; Bazizwa bezethemba, banganqamuki ngemingcele yengozi efanelekile, bahloniphe imithetho eyamukelwe emphakathini, gcina ukusondelana nokuqonda nabazali, azakheki izimfihlo zobugebengu noma ezi-erotic. Ukuqalwa okuqinile kusuka kokujwayelekile kufanele kubangele ukukhathazeka.
Ubukhulu bobungani bentsha aliqukethe hhayi kuphela eziphathimandla ezishintshayo. Ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwentsha kuhlale kunendawo yokuyimfihlo, ukuthula, ukuvuma, ukubekezela nokuthula kwengqondo - "bonke ngesigamu, bonke ababumbano." Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile abazali bezwa: "Ngikhuluma kalula ngakho konke ngayo yonke into," ngihlala ngithemba umngani. Ngiyakwazi okucabangayo, noma ngabe uthule. " Ubungane obusondelene kakhulu nobuqine, izihloko eziningi ezixoxa ngabo bonke abasebasha, ezingenasifiso semizwa nemibono yabazali.
Izazi zezengqondo zinqume ukuthi ama-20% kuphela wabasebasha akhetha isizungu. Kuyinto evamile uma ingane inothando ngomsebenzi: ukudweba, umculo, ukubhala, - okungukuthi, yimisebenzi enjalo edinga ukugxilwa. Isizungu siphenduka inkinga futhi siletha okuhlangenwe nakho okuqinile lapho kuphoqeleka uma osemusha engazange amukele inkampani ayikhethile (bheka isahluko "osemusha onesizungu"). Iningi lentsha - 80% - Funa ukuthola umuntu onomqondo ofanayo, ama-buddies ambalwa (chofoza) noma ngisho neningi (inkampani). Imvamisa badonswa kulabo abasondele kubo ngemvelaphi, izintshisekelo, zinedumela elifanayo noma izici. Umuntu omdala eba yintsha, ebanzi kuzoba nombuthano wabangane bakhe, futhi abafana bobulili obuhlukile bayofakwa kancane kancane kulo.
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Isithakazelo ngakolunye isitezi sivela ezinganeni isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuthola ubusha. Sibona isifiso sokunakekela ukuheha kwakho vele phakathi kwabafundi abancane; Esikoleni esiphakeme, intsha inentshisekelo yokuthi ngubani othanda futhi ngani, futhi kuqala futhi nokuvinjwa. Ukuphawula ushintsho kwaqala kontanga okuhlukile, osemusha uyazibeka zona uqobo. Ubungani phakathi kwentsha yobulili obuhlukahlukene buba yisikole sangempela sokufunda mutual. Futhi lapha kufanele usho ukuthi hlobo luni lolwazi oluthola intsha ngesikhathi semihla ngemihla: bafunda ukufunda umuntu wobulili obuhlukile, baxhumane naye, bezama ukuqonda izindlela ezahlukahlukene zokuqonda, nokuthi yikuphi ukuhola ekuqubukeni kwezinkinga ezingadingekile; Avivinya ngesimo sabo ("bangibona enkampanini benomfundi omuhle kakhulu noma umfana ophelelwe yithemba"); funda ukuba qotho neqiniso; Izama ukudweba isithombe sendoda noma umfazi noma unkosikazi wesikhathi esizayo. Mhlawumbe manje kufanelekile ukukhuluma nentsha yokuthi izindinganiso zokuziphatha zabafana namantombazane sezishintshile kanjani namuhla. Uma ekuqaleni amantombazane ngaphambili ahlelwe yindima yezimo eziguquguqukayo, ezithambile, zowesifazane, manje abizwa ngokuthi umsebenzi, inkululeko kanye nokuphatheka kabi kwecebo elihlonishwayo. Kuvame ukuba khona isimo namuhla, lapho ukuqala kobudlelwano obuseduze kuvusa amantombazane agcizelelwa ngokomzimba ngokwesilinganiso eminyakeni emibili edlule kunasesidlangalaleni. By the way, njengoba ucwaningo selukhombisile, intsha enengqondo - ingqondo ayithambekele ekungeneni ubudlelwano obuseduze - okungenani ngoba kunemiphumela yabo eminingi.