Kunezikhathi lapho angiwuthandi umsebenzi wami. Into eyodwa ukweluleka abafakizicelo lapho bekwazi kahle abakufunayo. Futhi lokhu kuyintokozo: Kuyathakazelisa ukuthola uhlelo olungeyona olujwayelekile; Ukufinyelela ekuqasheni eyunivesithi elondoloziwe, lapho kuhlolwa khona imeyili hhayi isonto lonke; Ukungqongqoza iphepha elidingekayo elivela eyunivesithi ye-Creative University ("HH! Ukhohlwe futhi, uxolo buza ..."). Qhathanisa izinhlelo zokuqeqesha lapha nalaphaya, qondisisa ukuthi yikuphi okusemangeni amagama afanayo amakhono. Ngokuvamile, nginomsebenzi othokozisayo kakhulu. Okuhlukile.
Lapho ngiza kimi nginendoda eneminyaka engu-17, ngihlala kubazali bakhe futhi ngikhulume ngaye kumuntu wesithathu. Ucabanga, ake ucabange, akanawo umbono okufanele ukwenze. Yini enesifiso? . Kuthanda ukwenzani? Kungacacile. Iyiphi indawo ongathanda ukuyizama? Angazi.
Imvamisa, umfakisicelo wesikhathi esizayo ubhekana nalokho okuxoxwe ngakho, kube sengathi kuyizinkulungwane zamakhilomitha, futhi angahleki nalapha nathi. Imizamo yami yokunxusa kubazali nokumangala kwayo uqobo, ngesinye isikhathi ukwethuka ngisho ne-hysteria. Lapha kukhale okungenani, kuze kube sekupheleni.
Ngokuvamile abazali abakhanyisilanga futhi bangene kolunye uhlangothi: Yikuphi okukhethekile okuthandwayo? Yimaphi amanyuvesi akhetha ikakhulukazi? Angijabule lapho ezwa nge-Conservatory, Gastronomy, Cosmetology University, University of Ecology. Manje, uma bekukhona enye inyuvesi enjalo yemilingo, ehlonishwayo futhi efanelekile kunoma ngubani. Nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lwezinwele, njengoba bebhala kuma-shampoos athile.
Ngihlala ngilahlekile. Kubi kimi ukuthi umuntu unawo engqondweni, imiphi imicabango ngemuva kwama-bangs aqhakazile noma ancibilika. Lokho akuphupha ngakho ngokulala. Owayefuna ukuba sebuntwaneni. Okuthandwa kakhulu kubo bonke okufanele kwenziwe eminyakeni emi-5. Futhi ngiyaqonda ukuthi kulesi simo le mibuzo ingaphezulu kakhulu. Balengisa emahlasela amakhulu.
"Akafuni ukwenza noma yini ekhethekile." "Akazi ukuthi yiziphi izinto azithandayo." "Sinakho ... ukungaqiniseki, ungayeki nendawo yendawo." Futhi phakathi kwakho konke lokhu kukhalela kwemiphefumulo yentombazane: "Ngingathanda kanjani ukufunda ???"
I-Russian Intellicsizia ithanda ukubuza imibuzo "Ngubani okufanele asolwe?" Futhi "okufanele uyenze?". Ngombuzo wokuqala oqondakalayo noma ongaqondakali. Alikho indoda encane enempilo engathola lutho eminyakeni engama-2-3-4. Okuchithe isikhathi esichithwe isikhathi eside, sibheke ifoni. Ngeke ngibuze iminyaka engu-5-6 yaba yizinkulungwane zemibuzo ngosuku. Ukuxhumana nomhlaba wangaphandle kwenza kube yiyo kusukela eminyakeni eyi-17 ngaphandle kwamakhono akhethekile nezintshisekelo. Isikole esisithandayo kanye ... nomndeni. Thina ngokwethu sibulala okuthile enganeni yakho nsuku zonke.
Umbuzo othi "Yini okufanele uyenze?" Okuhlobene kakhulu nalabo abangahleleli ukusazama amabutho kulokhu kufundisa okulandelayo. Futhi wenze okuthile okudingekayo, ngoba empeleni silahlekelwa ngamaphesenti amaphesenti ezazi, zisebenza, abantu abasha obuzayo. Futhi uma singakwazi kakhulu ukwenza noma yini nesikole, khona-ke emndenini wakho ukuze ufake esahlukweni i-angle ye-angle ye-angle yokusizakala. Hhayi enganeni, imvamisa okuwukuphela kwento, okungukuthi komunye nomunye. Zibuze futhi uthande: "Yini ongathanda? Yini oyithandayo, yini oyithandayo? " Hlakulela ngobuqotho intshisekelo emhlabeni nakubantu kuyo. Ingane ingaluthanda kanjani lutho? Mhlawumbe ubukeka imibukiso namaphupho enkazimulo uJamie Oliver. Ingabe kukhona ukungqubuzana phakathi kokulindelwe ngabazali, izifiso zabo kanye nemizamo enamahloni yokudonsela ukunaka kwabo ezindaweni ezihluke ngokuphelele? Ukuhlekisa, utshele ukujwayela njengehlaya. Ukuxoshwa. Vet? Yebo, kahle, kuyahlekisa. Cosmetology? Induna induku? Kuthiwani kabi amahlathi, sicabanga nge-accounting kanye nokucwaningwa kwamabhuku, kusukela ngoMsombuluko umfundisi kwi-Mathematics. Mhlawumbe kukhona amacala anzima, kepha ngenkani aqhubeke nokungakholelwa kubo. Njalo into lapho: noma ngabe ayikho ebusweni, mayithululwe kakhulu njengoba isimo endaweni yezenhlalo yengane inomthelela.
Akunjalo kudala, ngafunda lesi sihloko ngento ebaluleke kakhulu esingasenzela izingane zethu ukubasiza ukuba bazithole. Qondisisa amandla abo nobuthakathaka babo, ukuthambekela kanye namakhono (hhayi into efanayo!). Awukho umqeqeshi, akekho umqeqeshi wokuqondisa umsebenzi owaziyo laba bantu kangcono kunabazali bazo. Akekho umuntu ozokweluleka ngokunembile, ngokususelwa ezintshisakalweni nasezintweni zengane. Lokho kuyiphuzu nje lokubuka ukuhambisa enkabeni yalezi zithakazelisa kakhulu nezici ...
Bese izinketho ezahlukene zingenzeka. Imibono eyamukelwe ngokuvamile mayelana "nekusasa elifanelekile" nendlela "yesokudla" ingahlala kwenye indawo ngakwehlangothi elikhethiwe. Futhi abazali balinde ukwephula. Ngabe ngamunye wethu ulungele kanjani ukuthatha imicimbi enjalo? Umbuzo ongathandeki okhipha abazali kusuka endaweni yokunethezeka, kodwa kulokhu ngibona uhlobo oluthile lombono, amathuba okuba aqhamuke nombuthano ovaliwe obizwa ngokuthi "abanandaba."
I-Ekaterina Mikhalevich, usomabhizinisi, inhloko ye-International Education of StudentPol