Ukucindezela ... Malini kuleliZwi! Sasijwayela lowo esikusebenzisayo endaweni hhayi endaweni. Kepha makube yilokho njengoba kungenzeka, iqiniso lihlala liyiqiniso: Empilweni yethu kudinga izikhundla ezivelele, futhi akunakwenzeka ukunganaki ubukhona bakhe, futhi kwesinye isikhathi kube yingozi. Kudingeka yini ngempela ukubhekana nesimo ngasinye esicindezelayo, kanjani ungasinda ezikhathini ezimbi kakhulu futhi ezinzima futhi ugcine impilo? Sizama ukuthola.
Kubukeka sengathi saqala ukucabanga ngokuthi ungazivikela kanjani ekucindezelekeni, muva nje. Kepha umlando wokufunda unenkinga cishe iminyaka eyikhulu. Kumashumi amabili ekhulu leminyaka elidlule, usosayensi uHans Senre washicilela umsebenzi 'wengcindezi yokuphila', lapho achaza khona ukuthi kwakuyini. Ukusho ukuthi sibhekene nengcindezi, sisho ukuthi sibhekene nenqwaba yokungabeki okuthile komzimba okuphazamisayo ngokugcwele. Ukuxineka kwengqondo - okungukuthi, impendulo ezinguquko ezenhlalo - odokotela baqala ukuvuma ngemuva kwesikhathi. Kepha ukuhlukaniswa 'kokubi' nokuhle "kwavela cishe ngokushesha. Umzimba uphendula kunoma yisiphi isikhuthazo sangaphandle noma isidingo sangaphandle cishe okufanayo: lapho sikhathazeka, sikhonkotha, sikhala noma sihleka futhi sikuthanda, noma ngabe silindile noma ngabe sisentabeni. Umehluko uqala ngokuchayeka isikhathi eside emzimbeni. Kukhona nomqondo wokuxineka okucashile, okusebenza njengenhloli - ngaphansi komhlaba, ngemuva, kanye nomthelela wawo siyabonana kuphela ngemuva kwesikhathi. Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka ngemuva kwempendulo engalungile ekucindezelekeni kokuqala. Futhi kanjani ukusabela kahle endaweni eguqukayo neyingozi esiphila kuyo?
Ukuqonda nokuthethelela
Isintu sifinyelele ezindaweni eziphakeme kakhulu emidlalweni yemvelo, futhi namanje aziwuguquli owakho umnyombo. Sihleleke kakhulu, sihlangene, izilwane ezifundisiwe, futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi ukusabela kwethu engozini, izinhlungu, ukukhathazeka ngokujwayelekile nakho kuyafana nokuphendula kwezinye izilwane ezincelisayo. Ungaphindisela futhi umelane - uhlelo "Bay!" Awukwazi? Ekuhambeni kohlelo "gijima!"
Bay!
Uhlaka luyimpendulo esemthethweni ngokuphelele ekucindezelekeni. I-Society izama ukuyishicilela, yingakho inani elikhulu labantu abanolaka. Wal in Your ngokwakho akusizi kakhulu, qaphela yena futhi umnikeze indlela yokuphuma!
Kepha izikhathi, lapho ekucindezelekeni kwethu kungenzeka ukuphendula ngalezi zinhlelo ezimbili, kwadlula. Ezimweni ezingavamile kakhulu, singakwazi ukuxazulula isivumelwano ngempi noma indiza. Kunzima ukucabanga ukuthi sizodinga ukugxeka inhloko ye-Chief, kungaba ukuzulazula enkonzweni yokubiza, noma siphenduke futhi sinikeze uDra. Siyakuqonda kahle lokhu, kepha uhlelo lwethu lwezinzwa alunjalo. Lapha konke ukusabela kwethu kwengqondo kuvela. Siyesabeka - inhliziyo yangena ezithendeni. Ngakho-ke umzimba usilungiselela ukugijima isikhathi eside. Sithukuthele - manje igazi linamathela ebusweni, entanyeni, ezandleni, ezandleni, linikeze isibonakaliso: "Isitha se-Bay!"
Gijimani!
Ukwesaba nokuthuka - nokuphendula okuqondakalayo kakhulu. Ukuthweswa umqheleko kusuka ethukile noma ophoqayo - ngobuqotho, ku-Child, ngawo wonke umzimba, - wenza lo mzimba ube yisipho esikhulu, "ukuhoxisa" imizwa engaphezu kwemingcele yawo. BHEKA BANGAKHANGELA - okungcono! Ungangabazi.
Kwenzekani uma singasebenzisi isifiso somzimba (futhi cishe asisoze sakusebenzisa)? Ukucindezela okuhloliwe ngeke kunxeshezelwe sengathi kuzolenga emoyeni. Uma isimo siphindwa kaningi, umzimba ngeke unake. Uma uhlala unganaki ukucindezelwa okungacaciswanga, izinkinga ze-psychosomatic zingaqala. Lapha nakho konke ukuhlaselwa kwakho okuthandayo ukwethuka, kanye nama-phobias angazelelwe.
Kungenxa yokuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda nokuthatha izimo ezinzima ngaphandle kokuzama ukwenza sengathi awekho. Ukumelana nengcindezi yangempela yikhono lokuphila ukusabela komzimba kwisikhuthazo sangaphandle, nikeza lokhu kusabela indawo bese uphuma. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ukumelana nokucindezela kwakho kungumbuzo wesikhathi. Uma uhlelo lwezinzwa nokukhuliswa kukuvumela ukuthi uqhubeke isikhathi eside, uma ulimele, uzokwazi ukumelana namafuphi.
Yiba!
Abanye basiza ekuphileni konke ukusabela komzimba kuya kokucasulayo, ukuba obonayo uqobo, ukulalela izinguquko, ukuzama ukubamba izifiso nezidingo, ngenkathi kungaphazamisi inqubo. Into esemqoka ukukwenza ngokweqiniso.
Ngakho-ke, kuthiwani ngezimo eziningi lapho umzimba unikeza ukusabela ekuvuseleleni? Konke kulula: kuzofanele ufeze i- "Beat" noma "Run" ngokwemvelo. Ngokwemvelo, asikukhuthazi ebudloveni, udinga kuphela ukukhetha inketho yokuyeka i-adrenaline kanye ne-cortisol, engena egazini ngezimo ezicindezelayo. Uma ukhetha inketho ethi "Beat", kanye "nokugijima", udinga ukushintsha ukusabela ezingeni langaphandle. Zihlele i-Jog, zimemeze, shaya umcamelo, ukudansa, ukhuphule ukujula futhi kancane, ekugcineni. Ngengcindezi, i-bridget ehlekisayo nenezinkinga ezivela ochungechungeni lwamafilimu yabhekana ngokuphelele nengcindezi. Ukudansa, okumnandi, utshwala ngemithamo elinganiselayo - nazo zonke izinsalela ezimbi esikhathini esedlule.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungashayeli impendulo yomzimba ujule ngaphakathi ukuze usheshe ngendlela ye-psychomatics engafuneki, kodwa ukuze uyidonsele lapho. Izinyembezi zisiza, futhi ngenxa yalokho abesifazane bezivumelanisa nezwe elishisekayo elinesihluku kangcono kunabesilisa. Umphakathi "uvumela" ukukhala. Abafana kusukela ebuntwaneni bafundiswa ukucindezela imizwa, ukusakaza izinto eziyingozi ezinjengokuthi "hhayi uNowa ukuthi uthanda intombazane", futhi ubafundise ukushayela izinhlungu, ukwesaba nosizi ngaphakathi kwakho.
Ukuxineka kwansuku zonke okwenzeka ukuphendula izimo eziningi zasendlini, kuvame ukuqongelela, ngoba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi "setha kabusha" i-counter bese uchitha isikhathi esisezingeni eliphakeme, ukuyosebenzisa isikhathi sakho esisezingeni eliphakeme, ukukhokha isikhathi sakho kanye nezidingo zakho . Kungcono ukufaka ingane yangaphakathi: ukucabanga ngayo, iphalishi i-doodle, phumula umzimba emculweni, uhlwanyele otshanini noma eqhweni. Kulabo abangasetshenziswanga ukuze "bazihlukanise," ifilosofi yaseDashi yaseNicsen, eyakhiwa ubuciko obucashile baseNososhenia.
Ukucindezelwa kwansuku zonke okwenzeka ukuphendula izimo eziningi zasendlini, kuvame ukuqongelela
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Lapho izivunguvungu
Maye, zenzeka ezimpilweni zethu zezimo ezikwazi ukuthonya impilo yethu engokwengqondo nangokomzimba, ngemuva kwesikhathi esivulekile sokuxineka, sakha isikhathi esifihliwe, esiveziwe. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bakhuluma ngezigameko ezinhlanu ezinjalo.
Ngamunye wethu ngandlela thile ubhekana nezinye "ezinkulu ezinhlanu" - ubunzima bokuphila, ukusabela kwesinye isikhathi esingakwazi ukukubikezela noma ukusinda noma ukusinda. Sikhuluma ngokulahlekelwa okusondelene, isehlukaniso, siphoqelelwa ukuhamba, ukuxoshwa nokuzalwa kwengane. Akunandaba ukuthi bangakanani kubo baphuma kubo, kungekudala, okungenani esinye salezi zimo sizosithinta. Bonke bahlotshaniswa nezinguquko ezinkulu empilweni yakho, ngokwethuka kwezisekelo, nomhlaba - kusuka ngaphansi kwezinyawo. Lokhu kuvivinya kwangempela kunoma yikuphi okuphilayo. Kubhalwa inani elithile lezincwadi ngokuthi lihlale kanjani sonke, sizosho kuphela ngezimiso ezijwayelekile nezinyathelo ezibalulekile.
Uma sikhuluma ngesimo esivamile esinjalo (kepha kulokhu asinasimo esibuhlungu futhi esisindayo), njengesehlukaniso, kubalulekile ukukhumbula: noma ngabe konke kuhamba uthando, kuyinto enhle ngcindezelo. Impilo yakho isishintshile, futhi ngokungathi sína: lapho ubhekana khona, manje wonke umthwalo wemfanelo uwela emahlombe akho. Izindlela ezijwayelekile zezinto zashintsha, futhi udinga ukujwayela. Umqondo oyinhloko okufanele sisebenze nabo nabalingani - intukuthelo. Akunakunakwa, noma azinake. Umgomo esiwuphishekelayo ukuvuma ukuthi uyakhubeka futhi uvuthuke, uqonde ukuthi unawo wonke amalungelo alo, ujabulele leli phutha (ukushiswa yilokho okushiye ngalo ukuthi ubufuna yini) - futhi umnikeze phuma. Ungabambeli kukho, ngoba kungenye yezindawo ezibhubhisayo. "Qonda futhi uthethelele" inketho ephelele, kepha uma ingatholakali, ungathukuthela, uthuthumela, ukuze uthukuthele - konke kungcono kunokulimaza icala. Ekugcineni, thumela i-imeyili ukubhala okuthukuthele noma ukuthi ungaxoxa kanjani ngezintombi ngemuva kwengilazi yewayini.
Ngecala, esinye isimo esivamile sokuxineka siyaxhunyaniswa - ukuxoshwa. Uma kungenzeki ngentando yakho, umuzwa wokuthi wawulahlwa, kungathi awusiyona igceke, lingakuhlupha ngenyanga ende. Indlela ephumelela kunazo zonke yokucabanga ukuthi ayikho, - ukuthola umsebenzi omusha. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo abaluleki ukwenze ngokushesha ngemuva kokuthatha incwadi yokusebenza. Le nto ukuthi ngenxa yentukuthelo kanye nesifiso sokubonisa ukuthi yini okwaziyo, ungavuma ukungabi namukeleki kahle, isikhundla sokuqala esweni. Futhi-ke kungekudala isimo noma kamuva isimo ngokuxoshwa sizophinda. Futhi lapha futhi ngikhumbula uJones weBridget Bridget, obekumele ashintshe umsebenzi ngenxa ye-adventure engaphumelelanga. Le ntombazane yamnika isikhathi sokukhala izinyembezi, yabe isizama ukuqonda lokho akufunayo ngempela. Ungaba kanjani kithi? Landela umthetho oyinhloko ekusebenzeni ngengcindezi: Ukubona imizwa nemizwa yabo futhi "basebenze", banikeze i-physics. Sitshele ngenhlamba yakho, ubhale ngaye encwadini eya eBoss noma uzakwabo, ukudweba noma ukonakalisa iculo ngakho. Futhi isiza ngokuphelele ukubandakanyeka ekuzilisheni okuhamba kahle nawe - ngakho-ke uzobuyela okholweni lwakho ngokwakho
Amathuba namakhono.
Ngamunye wethu ngandlela thile ubhekene ne- "Big Five" - ubunzima bokuphila, ukusabela kwesinye isikhathi esingeke kungabikezeli noma ukusinda noma kuphile
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Ukuhamba, enye indaba yokucindezela, noma ngabe isenzo esifunekayo, futhi usukulungele konke futhi wacabanga ngemininingwane emincane kakhulu - inhlekelele yangempela yohlelo lwezinzwa. Indlela yakho yokuphila ejwayelekile ihlehliselwa ezimpandeni. Kuyasiza umphakathi futhi kukhumbuze ukuthi izisekelo azikho ezindongeni, kodwa ngokwazo. Ukuzwa ukuqina nokuma kuyo yonke imilenze, kuyadingeka ukumboza ngemuva: zibe nezinqolobane zezinto ezibonakalayo, izixhumanisi ezivela ezweni lasekhaya, abangane noma abantu obajwayele endaweni entsha. Njengokugcina kokugcina kuwo wonke amadolobha amakhulu kunezikhungo zenhlekelele lapho ama-tonspeople amasha afikile angaheha khona.
Ukulahleka kokuvalwa kuyinto embi kakhulu futhi esindayo kuzo zonke izimo ezinhlanu. Kunzima ukukhuluma ngakho. Futhi nokho kubaluleke kakhulu ukufeza eminye imisebenzi ezokusiza ukuthi ubhekane nakho, okwenziwe ngesazi sezengqondo uJ. William Wearder. Isinyathelo sokuqala kule ndlela enzima ukuqashelwa kokulahlekelwa. Qaphela okwenzekile kunzima kakhulu, kepha kubalulekile ukuzwa iqiniso elidabukisayo ngokwakho. Isinyathelo sesibili kwabaningi bayesabeka kakhulu - bajwayele ngokuqondile kubuhlungu bonke kusuka ekulahlekelweni. Khumbula ukuthi awudingi ukuvala amehlo akho kulobu buhlungu, zama ukushelela esigabeni sosizi, zama ukuminza ukuphuma, hlukana nomsebenzi, dissive. Kepha ungacela usizo lwezihlobo. Khetha imvelo ngokucophelela: Ukuze uyeke ukukhuluma nalabo abeluleka ukuze baphile ngenjongo yezingane, bayeke ukukhala, ngoba ukufa kulungiselelwe wonke umuntu, hhayi ukubala. Usizi lwakho ludinga inhlonipho, ungazazinga imizwa yakho.
Izinyathelo zesithathu nelesine ezenziwe ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile: Kubalulekile ukusungula impilo yakho entsha futhi wakhe isimo sakho sengqondo kumufi. Imisebenzi eyayise emahlombe ayo manje ikuwe. Uma ungenawo amandla nesifiso sokubhekana nabo, buza izihlobo zakho noma izinsizakalo ezikhethekile. Khumbula into ebalulekile: Uma uqala ukuthanda omunye umuntu, ushade noma ushade, uzokwazi ukuxhumana noma uhlangane nabangane abaphilayo, akusho ukuthi uzokukhangisa inkumbulo yomuntu osondelene naye futhi uzoba ncamashi ukuthanda. Ukuzinikela kuthatha unyaka ukusuka esigabeni esibuhlungu esigabeni esizolile samabhere akhanyayo.
Lapho kulahleka khona, kukhona ukuzalwa - akumangalisi ukuthi ukuvela kwengane kuqhathaniswa nomthambeka wentshiseko nomthwalo wokucindezela ngokulahleka komuntu ongokoqobo. Iqiniso alikho nokuthi impilo yakho iphenduka imilenze. Kufanele uqale ukufeza enye indima yenhlalo - indima yomzali, obhekele kakhulu futhi enzima kusuka kungenzeka. Cabanga, anqume ama-2, ukukhathazeka, ukutshala imali, njalo "esigabeni" - lokhu kudinga ukutholakala okukhulu kwempilo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubalalela wena, ungazinaki izimpawu eziphazamisayo zokudangala futhi ufuna usizo, kufaka phakathi uchwepheshe. Inhlangano Yezihlobo, abazali, abangane kanye nabajwayelene, ukusekelwa kwabo kuwumuthi omuhle kakhulu ovela emiphumeleni yengcindezi. Thola umthetho ukuze uzinikele okungenani ihora ngosuku, lapho uzonqamula kuzo zonke izindima zomphakathi, kufaka phakathi nendima yomzali, futhi uvuke wedwa nawe. Ukunciphisa izinga lokuxineka, ngaphandle kwesikhathi sokulala ukuze ubuke amahlaya ngezingane nabazali bazo abangavumelekile - ukwelashwa okunjalo kuzosiza ukukwenza ubunzima ngokumamatheka.
Impilo igcwele izehlakalo ezijabulisayo nezihlelayo, futhi siyaphoqeleka ukuthi sizivumelanise nezimo ukuze sibakhathaze, sigcine isifiso sokuqhubeka. Isimo Sethulu Sami, ikhono lokulalela nokuzinika ithuba lokuzizwa nokuphendula ngaphandle kokudlala ukuphelela - Le yimfihlo egcina impilo yengqondo nangokomzimba iminyaka eminingi.
Igxathu emvakwe gxathu
– Qala ngokuvuma: Sonke sisenkingeni, futhi nawe. Ungazami ukudlala ku-Stoic ephelele, phika lokhu okusobala noma ukufihla izinyembezi zakho emcameni. Nokuthi wenzeni?
–Khipha umnyango futhi ubambe iZen . Simane siyindawo eyi-microscopic endaweni yonke engapheli, futhi zonke izenzo zethu zizothinta iphakade le-Echo ethule. Ifilosofi Eningi Kakhulu? Yize! Lokhu ukwamukela kubizwa ngokuthi yi-psychology ukukala inkinga. Musa ukudida ngokuncipha lapho sigqoka imizwa nemizwa yethu.
– Hlanza i-physics yakho yokucindezela : Yigcine, faka umoya kusuka kumcamelo ofanayo, yenza ukwelashwa ngobuciko bese udweba okungemihle.