Muva nje, kufike incwadi enjalo, okuthi, okungukuthi, ayibuzi umbuzo, kepha ivula isihloko. Ukuphupha empeleni akubuzanga lutho, kwahlulela ngobuningi bakwa-ELLOS, kungobuthongo lobuthongo ngokudideka nesisindo.
"Amaphupho ahlukile ... Kepha lapho iphupho elilodwa liphupha ... ukuthi indlu inebhokisi likagogo ofile ... futhi lalikuphila kwami ... ngivuka emjuluko obandayo ekwesabeni .. . Ngiyaqonda ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwezingane ... kodwa angikwazi ukulungisa isimo ... "
Ngicabanga nje ukuthi izimo ezembulayo zokuphila kwakhe nokulahleka kukagogo kubantwana kudutshulwe. Isihloko sokufa, kunjalo, sikhubazeka. Ngeqiniso lokufa okusondele, akukho okungenakwenziwa, umbuso ophethwe futhi ongasizi ngalutho uqinisekisiwe izinyanga eziningi, futhi kwesinye isikhathi iminyaka, ngoba ukufa kuhilelekile kanye nokulila, nokuthobeka impilo ngaphandle kokusekelwa lo muntu.
Mhlawumbe, i-Dreamy yethu iye yabhekana nalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho ebuntwaneni, lapho umqondo ochazayo wokufa usabuthakathaka kakhulu. Ingane ingcono ithole imizwa yokwesaba nokulahlekelwa kuyo yonke inani kunokuba ihlelele futhi ichaze ukuguqulwa komuntu kwelinye izwe, cela imibono yezenkolo noma yefilosofi. Wakhe, ingane, angathatha ulwandle lwemizwa ehambisana nokufa kothandekayo.
Ngasikhathi sinye, u-Elizabeth Cübler-Ross, owabhala incwadi emangalisayo "ngokufa nokufa", athi esikweni lesimanje lokufa bazama ukubheka ukubukeka okungenangqondo. Upende oshonile, ukugqoka, unikeze umuntu olele ukulala kunokuba ushonile. Futhi empeleni kudlulisa ukuhlupheka kwabathandekayo, ngoba kunzima kubo ukuthi bathathe ukunganakwa kanye nokubhujiswa kokufa. Iphutha elikhulu kakhulu ukungabikho kwezingane emngcwabeni nasengcwabeni, okusolwa ukuthi i-psyche yabo ngeke ime. Kodwa-ke, esikhundleni salokho bathi "umkhulu ushiywe kude, egula kakhulu noma ebukeka ezulwini" kunokudala inhlabathi yokukhohlisa, imicabango kanye nokwazi, esikhundleni sokwazi ukuthi impilo inempilo. Izingane zikubona lokhu ngesibonelo sezilwane ezifile nezinambuzane ezithola, bheka kumafilimu namakhathuni, kepha umhlaba wangempela kanye nenganekwane futhi ummangali usheshe ulahlekelwe amaphuzu okuxhumana naye ngendlela yokufa. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi izingane zigcina ukungeneka kanye nokugcwala kunoma yiziphi izinqubo ezifana nokufa: ukwahlukanisa, ukuhamba, ukuhlukana.
I-Irwin Yal, i-American Psychotherapist, esinye seziphathimandla ezaziwa kakhulu futhi ezinethonya emkhakheni wazo manje, zibhala ukuthi akukho okugcwalisa impilo yethu echaza ukufela, kanye nokuqwashisa ngezitho zempilo yokuphila ezinye kanye nezalo. Ukube besilinde iminyaka engama-300-500 ngaphambili, manje besingeke siphuthume ukuhlala, sihlehlise imisebenzi ebalulekile, silinde isikhathi esingcono. Kodwa-ke, siyazi ekujuleni komphefumlo ukuthi isikhathi sethu silinganiselwe, futhi sikhathazeke kakhulu ngakho. Ukwesabeka phambi kwe-limb yobukhona bayo, ngokusho kokubonakaliswa kwesikhafu kanye nezinye izinto ezikhona ngokwengqondo, empeleni kusiphoqa ukuthi siphile ngekhoyili ephelele. U-Yal wabhala ukuthi izifo ezimbi, ezibuhlungu neziphelele zilindele labo abaphila izimpilo zabo akunangqondo, banqotshwe ku-izikhuthalo zesibili, ngaphandle kokudala abathandekayo babo, akukho lutho olubaluleke kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukushona kwelanga kwezimpilo zalabo abaphila ngokuzuzisayo, kugcwele ukwamukelwa nothando lwamaphrojekthi abo nobudlelwano babo, futhi okubaluleke, ukuze babonge ngokuphila kwabo nokuthi yini eyadedelwa.
Manje ake sibuyele ephusheni lethu. Lapho umuntu osondelene naye, lona ngasikhathi sinye nomuzwa wosizi nokulahleka, kanye nokwesaba ngaphambi kokufa akungisebenzisi futhi kusondele kimi. Mhlawumbe, i-Dreamy yethu ingacabanga nokuthi ukungavikeleki kokufa kwayo kuyayiphothula manje. Yiziphi izinyathelo empilweni yakho anganquma ngazo, azi ukuthi amathuba afa futhi abizayo, abantu abaseduze?
Imibuzo yokujula kithi kungasiza ekuthatheni isinqumo ngokuthile okunesibindi futhi okufisayo.
Ngiyazibuza ukuthi uphupha ini? Izibonelo zamaphupho akho athumela ngeposi: [email protected]. Ngendlela, amaphupho kulula kakhulu ukuwaveza uma encwadini eya kumhleli uzobhala izimo zokuphila okwandulelayo, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu - imizwa nemizwa ngesikhathi sokuvuka kuleli phupho.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin