Imodeli yakudala ye- "Nonmennnitsy" emphakathini wethu nayo iyindlela ekhanyayo kakhulu.
I-Syndrome "NADDAnnica" inesisekelo sezinhlelo eziphindwe kabili: "Ngakwenqatshwa ngumhlaba wesilisa" futhi "ngibalulekile emhlabeni wesilisa." Akekho noyedwa wendodakazi kaNogudlel of Ogudallova abakwazanga ukudala ubuhlobo obujabulisayo nendoda. Izinhlelo ezibhubhisayo eziqondiswa amadodakazi akhe zithatha isiqalo ohlelweni lwezimpande ze-Ogudalloy yabesifazane. Isibukeli singumfelokazi onomfelokazi, onohlelo lwenqatshelwe yincwajana elibonakaliswe ngendlela egcwele. Ukusebenza okubhubhisayo kwalolu hlelo kungazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene: ukuvukela komuntu okokwakho, ukuncika (utshwala, ukudlala, ukudlala i-workiolism), ukunakekelwa komlingani. Izinhlelo ezijwayelekile zizuzwa njengezinga lezolwana futhi zisebenza ngezigaba ezithile zempilo.
U-Ostrovsky wakhombisa ukubonakaliswa kohlelo lomuntu ojwayelekile ebudlelwaneni nomuntu wesilisa kwelinye lamadodakazi. Indodakazi endala ka-Ogudlalova yakhipha umshado umdlali wekhathuni kanye noShulera, ominyene nobuhlobo bomshado ngenxa yomlutha wayo wokudlala. Unksz Ogudlalova wanikeza indodakazi yakhe ephakathi nendodakazi kaGeorgian Prince enesibindi, engazange alethe ngisho naseTiflis, yambulala endleleni eya emzaneni. Isiphetho sendodakazi encane, uLarisa, uchazwa ngokuningiliziwe kwifilimu i-Eldar Ryazanov: amakhono amahle, intombazane enhle eyaziyo ukuthi angazifaka kanjani emphakathini, akwazile Nqoba izinhliziyo zamakhosi amaningi omuzi.
Larisa Guzeyev kwifilimu "Enqunyelwe"
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Ukuxhumana nezwe labesilisa, uLarisa wezwa umuzwa wokuthotshiswa kanye nezwe labesilisazi ngokungazi. Uyedwa naye, wayevame ukuhlukunyezwa ngokudabukisayo nangobuhlungu esiphelweni sabo. Uhlelo "Ngalwenqatshwa ngumhlaba wesilisa" lumholela ekuthandeni kuMnu Paratov, ongawabozi umuzwa wothando nokubonakaliswa kokuzwela kowesifazane. Izindinganiso zakhe "ziphila ngokugcwele" nokuzijabulisa, kufaka phakathi abesifazane. Kumadoda avimba imizwa ejulile ebudlelwaneni, njengomthetho, kukhona uhlelo "ngiyenqaba umhlaba wesifazane." I-blocker ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa, ngakho-ke lolu hlobo lwamadoda lugxile ebuhlotsheni besifazane nabesifazane. Ubudlelwano buhola ingqondo, i-Emotional Sphere ivinjelwe futhi ayinawo amandla wethonya.
ULarisa noMnu Paratov bakhangwa izinhlelo "zenqatshwa", ngakho ubudlelwano babo akuyona incazelo efanele. U-Ostrovsky wabhala umkhiqizo wokuphila ngendlela emangalisayo, echaza izinhlelo zeRussia Nureaman, ngaleyo ndlela aphendule umphakathi kwinqubo yokuxhumana kwezinhlelo zabantu.
Ngakho-ke, ungaphilisa kanjani "ukungabonisi"? Ubuqili yisisulu sezimo - "Ubaba waphila impilo"; "Abazali abakwazanga ukudala inhlokodolobha yomndeni futhi babele", "ubudlelwano babazali obungathandeki." Uhlelo "ngiyisisulu sezimo" namuhla luhlala lutholakala ekwazini kwentombazane yanamuhla. Isinyathelo sokuqala, esingenziwa ukwelapha lolu hlelo, ukubona inkolelo yayo yokubhubhisa 'yomhlatshelo'. Futhi uthathe isisekelo sokuzisebenzela ithuluzi elihle lokusebenza ngokuthuthukiswa kwempilo yakho - Idayari yokuzindla ngempilo, eyaguqulwa ibe yidayari yokuqonda komuntu ngenxa yokuqwashisa komuntu okukhona kanye nokufaneleka emakhulu eminyaka.
Ungathatha umsebenzi impilo yakho noma ngaphezulu kwempilo yakho futhi uchaze yonke imicimbi (isenzo noma ukungasebenzi) maqondana nanoma yisiphi isihloko, khona-ke imizwa, khona-ke. Ngenxa ye- "Diry" Therapy ejwayelekile, ungaya ezingeni eliphakeme lokuqwashisa ngempilo yakho bese ume endleleni yokuphulukisa izinhlelo zakho zokuphila!