Ukungaqiniseki kwenzeka kuphi?
Kunezizathu okungenani ezintathu eziphazamisa abantu abazothuthukisa:
- Ukuhlonza umuntu nabanye.
Umuntu we-Hypersocial kanye nobuntwana bamukela imodeli yokuziphatha kwabazali, okubandakanya amakhophi nokungaqiniseki.
-Ukuthola ukungasizi ngalutho.
Ingane ethola impendulo engemihle noma eyakhayo evela kubazali bayo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, iyaqonda ukuthi akukho lutho kuncike esenzweni sakhe. Lesi simo sakha ukuzithemba okuphansi, ukungaqiniseki nokungabi nasizo.
- Iyinkimbinkimbi yokungaphansi.
Umuzwa we-hypertrofied wobuthakathaka bawo nokukhohlisa uhlobene kakhulu nokuzethemba okuphansi, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukholo luyalahleka ngamandla alo.
Le miqondo emithathu iqala ngokuzenzakalela isenzo sethempulethi esihleliwe lapho uhlangana nama-trigger.
Ukwesaba umthwalo wemfanelo
Umuzwa onjalo uhambisana ne- "impostor syndrome". Umuntu wesaba ukukhombisa isinyathelo kuqala futhi uthathe eminye imisebenzi, ngoba uzibheka hhayi omuhle noma onekhono. Ekuxhumaneni nale ndawo ezungezile kwesaba ukuba, khombisa umbono, ukuvikela imingcele. Ishintsha isibopho sayo kwabanye futhi ithatha indawo ebonakalayo lapho yenza izinqumo.
Ubumbano
Ngenxa yokungabaza othandweni olungenandaba nolunye lwabantu, umuntu kunzima kakhulu ukusho ukuthi "cha". Ulungele ngisho nokukhuthazelela isimo sengqondo sokuxoshwa. Iningi labo bonke sesaba ukuthola ukuhlolwa okungekuhle futhi bajabulele okubi, ngakho-ke kuhlale kushesha ekubizeni komngane kuya komunye umngani. Futhi lapha injini enkulu akusona isifiso sokusiza, okungukuthi ukungakwazi ukwenqaba.
Ukuqhosha
Akunakwenzeka ukusho ukuthi ama-100% anamahloni kanye nokungafakwanga kuhlale kuwuphawu lokungavikeleki. Kwenzeka ukuthi nje isimilo sokuziqhenya nokuzikhukhumeza nje sokuzifakazela i-akhawunti yomunye umuntu kunikeza umuntu onjalo. Ubona ngokungathi sína ukugxekwa, ukulahlekelwa. Uma kuzwakala ukuthi othile ufuna ukufaka ubukhulu bakhe, kuqala ukuziphatha ngokusobala ekuphenduleni.
Isifiso sokufakazela ukuvumelana kwayo emhlabeni wonke
Umuntu uzama njalo ukuzithuthukisa ukufakazela abanye lokho akulungile. Kuhlala kungeneliseki ngokubukeka kwakhe, impumelelo, amathalenta. Ukusuka ekuzithembeni kuba phansi ngisho nangaphansi, futhi ukungaqiniseki kuqina kakhulu.
Izingodo
Umuntu angacabanga kuphela ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukwenziwa ukunqoba ukunqoba. Njalo ngephutha, bapheqa ekhanda kaninginingi, bazethuka ngezenzo zabo.
Umona
Umuntu uhlala esaba ukulahlekelwa yilutho, akazizwa inhlabathi ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakhe. Lokhu akuyona nje kuphela ngomhawu maqondana nobulili obuhlukile. Kungaba yintombi, isilwane, ikhanda emsebenzini.
Ziqhathanise nabanye
Akuqinisekile ukuthi abantu bathande ukuqhathanisa idatha yabo yangaphandle, isimo sezimali, ubuhlakani namakhono nabanye. Futhi isiphetho asikaze sibe semvumeni wabo. Umkhuba onjalo ugxile kakhulu ukufakwa okuthe xaxa "angiyilutho" futhi izimpande ziside nokukholwa kimi.
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Izindlela ezi-5 zokungathathi hlangothi ngokuziphatha okuhle
1. Musa ukusebenzisa amathiphu ohlangothini, futhi uzame ukuzimela ngokuzimela.
Njalo ukuthembela kwiseluleko sabanye abantu, wenqaba ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthola okuhlangenwe nakho okusha okubalulekile. Noma ngabe ngemuva kokukhetha kwakho, thola umphumela omubi, khona-ke akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokho. Kepha phuma esimweni sengane bese uqala ukwenza okuthile.
2. Ziqhathanise kuphela nawe izolo.
Hlaziya izimpumelelo zabanye abantu ngokulahlekelwa kwazo. Awusoze wasibona isithombe ngokuphelele ukukala konke kahle. Mhlawumbe umuntu oziqhathanisa naye, phuma ngokuphelele emsebenzini, kepha uthumela umkhakha womndeni. Bonke abantu bahluke kakhulu futhi wonke umuntu muhle ngendlela yabo.
3. Khumbula isimo lapho uqinisekile.
Ngokwengqondo ubuye ngesikhathi lapho ubonise khona isibindi. Xhuma nawe kwinqubo yokubona ngeso lengqondo futhi uvuselele le mizwa kwimemori yemisipha. Zama ukwenza lo msebenzi kaningi.
4. Thola uphawu ngendlela ozozizwa uqiniseka ngayo.
Isibonelo, amakha, ukhiye, i-keychain, ishubhu elishisayo, ukuma okuqondile. Vumela ube ne-mascot ethile, ezoba nesibindi.
5. Qala ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo kuma-Trifles.
Kwabanye abantu, ngisho nemisebenzi yasekhaya ejwayelekile kakhulu ibangela ukucindezela. Uma ungazi ukuthi ukhokhele kanjani izikweletu zokusebenzisa futhi wenza omunye umuntu, kufanele ufunde. Ukuzithemba kwakho kuzoqala ukukhula kancane kancane.
Uma ufuna ukukusiza ube nomuntu osondelene naye ukuze uzethembe ngokwengeziwe kuwe, bese ubona impumelelo yakhe engasho lutho, imvamisa idumisa. Zama ukuthola inani lomngane wakho, umlingani wakho, ngakho-ke uzoqinisa amandla alo futhi ugcizelele isithunzi.
Half ingxenye yokuphumelela kokungaqiniseki ngokwayo kuncike ekuqwashiseni izimbangela zempande kanye nekhono lokulandela indlela yokuziphatha enesendlalelo. Hlola imikhuba yakho ngalesi sihloko bese uqala ukusebenza kubo.