Ukuvukela umbuso okuyinkimbinkimbi yinto esemcimbini yasendulo njengesikhungo somshado uqobo, kepha lokhu akukubi kakhulu kulabo abake bahlangabezana nokuziphatha kothandekayo. Kukhona abashadikazi abangakaze bashintshene, kepha hhayi imishado evamile evamile, lapho kwenzeka khona iziphikiso ngezikhathi ezithile, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ziholela nasekubhujisweni kwemindeni. Yini eyenza abesilisa nabesifazane bashintshe ngisho nasemindenini ephumelelayo?
Ubulili obuphakeme nokucindezela ukwehlukahlukana
Abantu abaningi abanenzonzo esiphakeme abanelisekile ngomlingani oyedwa. Bafuna ukwamukela injabulo enkulu ngokobulili ngangokunokwenzeka futhi bahlukane, ukungena ekuxhumaneni nabo bonke abalingani abasha nabasha. Abantu abanjalo bangamthanda ngokweqiniso futhi bathokozele umkakhe noma umyeni wakhe, hhayi ukuthi bahlangane ukuze babhubhise umndeni noma baye komunye umuntu, kodwa bomile ukukhaphela kwabo. Futhi kuyanda ngezinye izikhathi, uma umlingani wesibili noma owakwakho "amagama abuthakathaka" ezocansi - awanele ngokushesha okushonile, alondoloze futhi angathambeki ekuhlolweni. Ngemuva kwalokho umlingani onjalo uzoya ngakwesobunxele.
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"Indima eyodwa" yowesifazane - isizathu sokuvukela umbuso
Isizathu esibaluleke kakhulu sowesilisa - ukulahleka kwenzalo kowesifazane. Futhi iphuzu alikho ekukhangelweni ngokocansi, kepha iqiniso lokuthi owesifazane wagxila kunoma iyiphi indima eyodwa eyeka ukuba ngumyeni othokozisayo. Uma unkosikazi eshiya ikhanda lakhe emsebenzini noma kwisayensi, emisebenzini yezenhlalo, noma egxile ngokuphelele ekunakekelweni kwengane, ukusuka kumyeni wakhe. Futhi kungekudala leli banga liguqulwa liguqulwe lihlukaniswe futhi liholele ukuvukela umbuso.
Shintsha lapho "konke kuhamba kahle"
Sibona ukuthi amadoda aphumelela kakhulu aphumelela kakhulu abayeni nobaba abahle - ashintshe ama-halves abo, hhayi lapho kunamahlazo ahlala khona futhi acacise ubudlelwano obuthembekile kanye nenduduzo ethembekile. Futhi-ke owesilisa, ezolile emndenini wakhe, uthunyelwa ukunqoba "ama-Heights amasha", anqobe inhliziyo yowesifazane omusha.
Nakekela Ukusuka Kwemvelo
Imvamisa, isizathu sokubheja kwabesilisa ukunyamalala "ngokwemvelo" ngokuvela kowesifazane. Uma owesilisa eshada ngowesifazane ophelele, isifiso sakhe esiphikelelayo sokwehlisa isisindo, aziguqule, uma kwenzeka kusetshenziswa, kuholela eqinisweni lokuthi umuntu uyayeka ukubona lo wesifazane naye, lapho awela khona othandweni.
Isizotha
Okuxakile ngokwanele, kepha ukuthobeka akusilo njalo, kusukela ekubukeni komuntu, "kuhlobisa" owesifazane. Futhi lapho indoda iqala ukukhula ngohlelo lobuchwepheshe, ithola okuningi, yakha ibhizinisi lakhe, ifuna ukubona owesifazane okhanyayo eduze kwakhe, futhi oyelala kahle. Kepha akubona bonke abesifazane, ngeshwa, bangashintsha ngokushesha ngokuhambisana noshintsho ezingeni lokusekela umyeni wakhe. Isizotha ngokweqile komkakhe, saba khona ubuhle, baphendukela enkabeni ecasulayo futhi bamphoqelela endleleni yokuthola umfazi okhanyayo futhi onesibindi "ohlangothini".
Kunoma ikuphi, ukuvukela umbuso kuvame ukushiya imiphumela emibi kakhulu. Futhi ukubhujiswa kobudlelwano obujwayelekile emndenini noma emndenini uqobo akuyona into embi kakhulu, ekwazi ukuletha ukuvukela umbuso. Nsuku zonke emhlabeni kunamacala amaningi avela emzaneni, okubandakanya nokubulawa okunonya, okwaba khona izisulu zakhe ziba ngabalingani abashintshile noma abashadikazi, kanye nalabo abashintshana nabo, kanye nabazali bangaphandle kwabo, kanye nakwabazali.