U-Anna Plenev wayengakaze esaba ukungafifuzi esiteji, yize ethola izibuyekezo eziningi ezingezinhle mayelana nezinkulumo zakhe: ababukeli abaningi badidekile ngokubhujiswa ngokweqile komculi. U-Anna uqobo obizwa ngokuthi ama-UNFRRRIDS abukeka ejulile futhi angahluleli lokho abantu abakubona esiteji, ekugcineni, kungumfanekiso nje.
Futhi, umculi wahlanganyela amehlo akhe ngocansi awonke. Umculi watshela ukuthi ebusheni bakhe kwakuyindida enkulu futhi yeluleka bonke abangane bakhe ukuthi bangathetheli abantu abakhaphele, kepha manje le ntombazane inethemba lokuthi konke kuncike esimweni esithile, futhi "ukushisa amabhuloho" akulungile.
Sinqume ukuthola indlela yokuphatha ukuvukela umbuso, nokuthi kufanelekile yini ngakho.
Mhlawumbe into enzima kakhulu ukuthethelela. Noma ngabe umfazi enquma isinyathelo esinjalo futhi azoqhubeka nokuphila nendoda eyayenza okungenani kanye, njalo iyophazamisa ukungabaza, nokuthi kuzokwenzeka futhi ukuthi kuzokwenzeka futhi. Buyisela ukuzethemba kunzima kakhulu kunokumane uthethelele.
Lapho kufanele unikeze indoda ithuba lesibili?
Uma usanquma ukuthethelela owesilisa, kunengozi yokulahlekelwa ukwethembana kwakhe: Uyobonakala sengathi uthethelela noma yini. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke nobuhlobo nale ndoda, cabanga ukuthi izisekelo zakho zingakanani.
Izizathu ezibalulekile zingabhekwa njengokubakhona kwezingane kanye nanoma yikuphi ukuncika kumlingani. Uma owesifazane ewa ngaphansi kwenye yalezi zinto, futhi usanquma ukusindisa umndeni, kufanelekile ukuxoxa ngezikhathi ezithile, ngokwesibonelo, ungenza uhlu lwezimfanelo zomlingani olubi futhi umcele ukuba enze into efanayo, ngemuva kwalokho onayo Ukuze uhlale phansi bese uxoxa ngokuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokho ukuze kube yilowo nalowo kini ehlala ndawonye ngokuhlala ndawonye ngemuva kokwenzeka, nokuthi umlingani wakho abona kanjani ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano obengeziwe.
Lapho kufanelekile ukusho okuqinile "Cha"
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ikilasi elikhokhelwa isikhashana cishe lingaguquki, ngakho-ke akukufanele ukuzondla izinkolelo ze-akhawunti yakhe - udinga nje ukuklebhula bonke othintana nabo.
Indoda ayizizwa inecala phambi kwakho. Uma umlingani wakho engaboni icala lakhe futhi asola ukuthi wenzeke, qiniseka ukuthi kufanele uqhamuke namanga kulobu budlelwano.