Lapho singena ebudlelwaneni bomshado, sethemba ukuthi lowo oshade naye uzokugcina ukuthembeka kithi, agweme ukukhathazeka ngasohlangothini. Kepha kwenzeka, ngeshwa, hhayi njalo. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyenzeka ukuvukela umbuso, kwesinye isikhathi "ohlangothini" ubudlelwano obuqhubekayo obuqhubekayo buvela ngisho naseqinisweni, emindenini yesibili. Abesifazane abaningi bahlushwa umbuzo wokuthi umyeni uyiqiniso yini. Yize kunjalo, ukungaziwa kuvame ukuba kubi kakhulu ngisho nezindaba ezimbi kakhulu. Kepha ukuthola kanjani uma umuntu eshintsha noma cha? Uma ungenalo ubufakazi obungamaphesenti ayikhulu, khona-ke ukuphela kwendlela yokufuna usizo kusuka kumseshi wangasese. Kodwa-ke, imali yezinsizakalo zochwepheshe akuyona yonke, futhi othile akafuni ukuthwala okubolile kwiHut. Ngakho-ke, ungazama ukuthola ukwethembeka noma ukungathembeki kwabalingani kuwe.
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Okokuqala, naka uxhumano ngocingo kanye nezinkundla zokuxhumana "ezimnandi." Siphila emphakathini wolwazi, kanye nokuxhumana ngamadivayisi eselula kanye ne-Intanethi kudlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu kithi. "Izingcingo" zokuqala, okufanele ziqaphele, kulokhu kuzoba: ukubukeka kocingo lwesibili oluvela kumyeni wakhe, angakhangisi; Isifiso sokukhuluma ocingweni sodwa, ngaphandle kokuthi "izindlebe ezingadingekile"; Ukuvela kwamakhasi angamanga ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi; Ukuphuma kwaphakade kusuka ekhasini lakhe kunethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu, noma ngabe umyeni eshiya kafushane egumbini.
Kwesinye isikhathi kungaba nokuhlaziywa okuningi kwenethiwekhi yezenhlalo - "ukuthandwa" ngaphansi kwezithombe, ukuvela kwabantu abasha kubangane. Kuyafaneleka ukunaka izinombolo zocingo ezintsha ezingafihlwa ngokuqondile njengeziginesha njenge- "Vova Autoservice" noma "kolya" - Amadoda amaningi awafani ngobuhlakani obunjalo futhi akholelwe ukuthi abesifazane ngeke banake okufakiwe.
Okwesibili, indoda eshintshayo ishintsha indlela yayo yokuziphatha, imikhuba yakhe. Isibonelo, uma lowo oshade naye wayenomkhuba ngoMgqibelo ukuhamba nabangane ukuze aphuze ubhiya emgqonyeni, futhi manje kuyaphindisela ngokusobala ngaphandle kwezimpawu zokuphuza utshwala, kodwa kushiye ngokuguquguquka ngeMigqibelo. Kungenzeka kube nezintshisakalo ezihlala njalo nezintsha, ngokwesibonelo, uma kungazelelwe umyeni eqala ukutadisha isitayela esisha somculo noma afunde izincwadi, lapho afanele ngaphandle kokuzivumelanisa nalokhu umculo noma imibhalo ethandwayo ye-assia entsha.
Uma owesifazane ethanda ngempela futhi uyazi umyeni wakhe, ngokwakhe uqobo uyabonakala, uzozwa izinguquko ezikuwo
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Okwesithathu, okuningi kungasho ushintsho emikhubeni yasendlini. Isibonelo, uma umyeni enganaki kakhulu ukubukeka, wabe esekhuluma ngesidingo sokusetha kabusha isisindo, waqala ukudlala ezemidlalo, ugeze ngaphambi kokuhamba ngaphandle futhi ujabulele iCologne nemimoya. Kuyacaca ukuthi phakathi kwenoveli, wonke umuntu ufuna ukwenza umbono omnandi kakhulu.
Ukuncipha okungalindelekile kokuhehayo ngokobulili kuzoba yisibonakaliso se-alamu, ikakhulukazi uma umyeni ehlala ehlukaniswa umoya ophakeme, futhi muva nje awuzange ubuhlungu, awuzange usebenzise kabi utshwala, okungukuthi, azikho izimfuneko zangaphandle zokuwohloka kwangaphandle.
Kodwa-ke, uma owesifazane ethanda ngempela futhi uyazi umyeni wakhe, uqobo, ngokweqiniso, uzozwa izinguquko kulo futhi uzokuzwa ukuthi uvele nje, kungabina nentshisekelo komunye wesifazane. Uma ubufakazi obubhalwe phansi balokhu buzodingeka, lapho-ke ungabuka umyeni wami, athi, zama ukumlandela, ungambizi ngohlobo oluthile lokungabi nalutho, ngaphandle kwalokho. Kepha indlela ethembekile kunazo zonke yokufunda ngokuvukela komuntu umyeni wakhe, yiqiniso, isicelo sokucela usizo kumphenyi wangasese.