Yini oyaziyo ngokuzithemba kwakho?
Ingabe unayo ephansi noma ephezulu? Noma mhlawumbe kuncike?
Mayelana nokuzethemba manje basho lukhulu futhi babhala. Kunikezwa njengesitsha esikhulu nokuthi ungayenza kanjani. Futhi kaningi, zonke izingxoxo zincishiswa ukuthi ukuzithemba okuphansi yi- "FU", futhi kudinga ukuqeda.
Okokuqala, ake sinqume ukuthi yini le - ukuzethemba?
Ukuzihlola kungukufanekisela komuntu ngaye nokuzihlola, izimfanelo zalo, imizwa, izinzuzo nokubi.
Kwenzeka ngokwanele (kwesinye isikhathi kubizwa nangokuthi "bushelelezi") futhi akwanele - kungaphezulu noma okweqile.
Le ndatshana inikelwe ukuzethemba okuphansi, kepha ngasikhathi sinye ngizobe ngisazokunika izimpawu zabantu ngokuzethemba ukuze uma uhlangana nabo oye waqonda naye.
Umuntu onokuzethemba okweqile:
- Njalo ekuboneni, uthanda ukukhombisa futhi unikeze izeluleko;
- Akakuboni ukugxekwa kwabanye, ukucasha ngemuva ukuthi empeleni uyayazi intengo;
- UTHANDA ukukhombisa amakhono awo emphakathini;
- Zidumisa njalo ngokwazo;
- Akaziboni ukushiyeka kumlingiswa wayo.
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Siza abantu abanokuzethemba okweqile banzima kakhulu, njengoba bengazi nje ukuthi banenkinga ethile.
Futhi namhlanje - mayelana nalabo abaqonda ukuthi kunenkinga - ngabantu abanokuzithemba okungaphansi komhlaba.
Umuntu onokuzithemba okucashile:
- akuvamile ukukhulisa izwi; Futhi uma kukhula, kwenzeka njengokuqhekeka;
- Engxoxweni kuvame ukucela izeluleko, zidinga ukuvunyelwa;
- Kwesinye isikhathi kungaba yinto encane nokuziphindiselela;
- Imvamisa umuntu ofuna ukuphelela (umfundi omuhle kakhulu);
- Qopha ezenzweni nasezahlulelweni zakho.
Ukuzethemba okuthuthukile kuncike futhi. Ngoba uma umuntu onjalo edumisa - uqhakaza phambi kwamehlo akhe, futhi uma bezwakalisa ukungamukeleki, khona-ke imizwa yakhe iwela, ukuzifisela kuqala, okuvame ukuholela embusweni ongabizi.
Kunezinkinga ezinkulu ezi-5 ezibhekene nabantu abazethembayo okuphansi:
1. Ukungazinikeli
Lokhu kungafana nokwehluleka kwezingxenye zomzimba noma ubuso babo, kanye naso uqobo. Futhi, kungaxoxwa ngakho ngokwehluleka ukuba namakhono alo, amathalente, izinga lokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo nendlela yokuveza, ngokwesibonelo.
2. Ukushintshwa okungokomzwelo, noma uboya
Lapha sikhuluma ngeqiniso lokuthi umuntu ohlala enokungalingani okungokomzwelo - kusukela enjabulweni ukuqeda ukunganaki, umuntu angahamba endabeni emahoreni. Kwabanye, kunalokho, kunokukhanyiselwa isikhathi eside komunye umuzwa owodwa, noma ukunganaki imizwa ngokujwayelekile - ukulawula kwabo okuphelele.
3. Ukuncika emibonweni yabanye
Abantu abanokuzithemba okuphansi ngabo bangashintsha ngokuya ngalokho abakuthola ngempendulo kwabanye - ukuvunywa noma ukuvuselelwa.
4. Ngokuncika ebudlelwaneni
Lapha sikhuluma ngokuncika kokubili okungabalulekanga futhi okuphelele kumlingani. Icala ngalinye lingumuntu ngamunye, kodwa empeleni liyenzeka uma uke wazethemba.
5. Ukwehlisa wena kanye nezimpumelelo zakho
Indoda enokuzithemba okuphansi ayihlali ngayo ngokwakhe futhi yonke indawo inombolo 1. Angabeka izifiso nezidingo zabanye ngaphambi kwezakhe, futhi akubonakali kuye ngokuthile okungahambi kahle.
Funda ukwazisa wena kanye nezimpumelelo zakho.
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Yini okufanele uyenze ukuvumelanisa ukuzethemba kwakho?
Kunezinyathelo ezi-5 ezibalulekile ezizodlula:
1. Funda ukuqonda nokuveza imizwa yakho.
2. Lahla ukuncika okukhona ngokomzwelo nangokomqondo.
3. Susa ukwesaba "yiba ngubani" noma "indawo engenalutho."
4. Funda ukwazisa wena kanye nezimpumelelo zakho.
5. Zithathe njengoba kunjalo manje, futhi uqonde ukuthi ufunani ngokweqiniso, hhayi ngoba kumiswe ngumphakathi.
Ukudlula lezi zinyathelo ezi-5, uphakamisa ngokuphelele ukuzithemba kwakho ukuze uthole izinga elifanele! Futhi abantu, bakufuna, bayokuthokozela ukubika ngokuthi: "O, yeka ukuthi owesifazane! Mina b ngakho! "