Kunzima ukusho ukuthi malini i-Girl Fatel ephule iphupho lendoda efanelekile, bangaki abafanelekayo, kepha abebefanelekile benqatshwa ngenxa yokholo ecaleni elikahle, zingaki izinzwa efuna lokhu okuhle. Futhi ngakho konke lokhu, akukho okuncane okuvela emcabangweni wokuthi ukwenqaba kunzima njengoba kuvela kumbono wokuhlangana namaphupho omuntu. Kepha kufanele wenqabe, futhi ukushesha ukwenze, okuthe xaxa kuzodingeka wakhe ubuhlobo obujabulisayo "empilweni yangempela."
Kuyamangaza, kunjalo? Kungabonakala sengathi, ngokuphambene nalokho, kufanelekile ukuhlangana nomuntu ophelele - futhi injabulo izofika, ukuvumelana nokuqonda okuhlangene kuzohlala ekhaya lakho, futhi uthando luzohlala kuze kube phakade, futhi ngaphandle komzamo wakho. Kepha akwenzeki. Futhi lesi yisizathu esisodwa esisindayo - akekho kithi olungile.
Ngabe ukholo oluqinile luvelaphi?
Hhayi kuphela izincwadi zasendulo namaqhawe alo asungulwe noma amafilimu anoHollywood anamaqhawe alo asungulwe noma amafilimu aseHollywood kwakufanele asolwe, kodwa futhi akhuliswa kahle, awatholi ukuyekethisa) . Indoda ephelele iyinkohliso, futhi noma yikuphi ukukhohlisa kuyingozi uma ufuna ukufeza okuthile emhlabeni wangempela. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi isidingo sokwenqaba umbono wokufuna okulungile akufanele nje siqonde, kodwa futhi samukele. Ngoba sivame ukuba sesihloko, siyaqonda, kepha asikwazi ukwamukela emphefumulweni futhi siqhubeke nokwenza kahle.
Ngabe lokhu kusho ukuthi udinga ukuvumelana ngobunye ubuhlobo nanoma yimuphi umuntu? Vele akunjalo.
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Ungakhetha futhi udingekile, kepha uqondiswe ngale ndlela yomsindo.
Okokuqala, ukuqonda ukuthi ufunani. Iziphi izimfanelo kumuntu ezibaluleke kakhulu, ezikhangayo kakhulu. Ufuna usomabhizinisi ovikelekile? Lungela lokho azonyamalala emsebenzini. Ufuna ubuhle obuhle nobumnandi? Mhlawumbe ngeke ube ukuphela kokuzilibazisa. Ufuna ubaba omuhle futhi onakekelayo, olungile ezinganeni? Lungela iholide lakho, uzosebenzisa hhayi eMallorca, kodwa e-Anapa. Yebo, isibonelo sehaba ngandlela thile, kepha sibukwa.
Okwesibili, mahhala kuma-stereotypes kanye nobandlululo. Yini okufanele uyikhulume naye uma engazi ukuthi ngubani uHenry Miller? Unemoto eshibhile - yini abangane bami abazothini? I-psyche yabantu ihlelwe kangangokuba yonke into ihle ibonwa njengokunikezwayo, futhi amaphutha wonke ahlala eshaya. Cabanga ukuthi lobu buntu bubaluleke kakhulu ngokumelene nesizinda sezinzuzo.
Okwesithathu, ungalindi ubuhlobo ngokushesha. Ngokushesha, ukuqalwa noma, kunalokho, ukungathandi, ukwenqatshwa kungenzeka. Futhi leyo mizwa neminye kungenzeka ibe nephutha. Ungenzi iziphetho ezisheshayo. Yebo, amadoda afanele, njengobudlelwano ofanele, akwenzeki, kepha izindaba ezinhle ukuthi ukudala ubuhlobo obujabulisayo nomuntu wangempela kungenzeka futhi cishe wonke amabutho.