UMingazova Elmira Nurislamna - uSolwazi, udokotela wesayensi yezokwelapha, uchwepheshe oyinhloko ezinganeni zokuhlanzeka nasezentsheni zoMnyango Wezempilo weRiphabhuliki. Ilungu le-presidium ye-Russian Society School kanye nemithi yaseyunivesithi.
Eminye yemisebenzi ye-Elmira Nurislamna ngumhlangano namantombazane - intsha evela ezindlini zezintandane, lapho abuza khona imibuzo ehlukahlukene nebalulekile kudokotela wesayensi yezokwelapha.
- Elmira Nurislamna, yini imibuzo esondele kakhulu ekubuza amantombazane kulowonyaka?
Imibuzo ihluke kakhulu, kepha munye, ozwakala njalo: "Kudingeka ulahlekelwe ubuntombi bakho?". Kubukeka ngathi lo mbuzo uyahlekisa, futhi kubona ukuthi le ndabuko iyi-acute kakhulu. Ngithi kuyo yonke intombazane: "Oyoba mdala, kulapho uzofudumala khona ngokwengeziwe empilweni, ngakho-ke ungajahi. Funda ukusho ngokuzethemba ngokuthi "cha". Lokho okwenziwayo kuzoba nenjongo, kukhulu amathuba wokuthi uzojabula ngokwengeziwe. Manje, lapho usemuncane futhi ungahlosiwe, wena njengentombazanyana ungavele usebenzise. Ake sivumelane nawe, "Cha", inani lakho ngokwengeziwe. Futhi lapho usuneminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalombili - uzoma ngezinyawo zakho, uzocabanga okuningi empilweni, khona-ke kuzoba lula ukwenza ukukhetha. "
Kuyesabeka kakhulu ukuthi la mantombazane awakhohlisi, ngoba manje akhohliseka, futhi nabo bangenza noma yini. Ngemuva kwalokho balahlekelwa ithemba kubantu, baba izisulu, baqale ukuzizwa belahliwe, akudingeki, baqale ukuphuza. Manje kuyadingeka ukutshala imali emakhanda ukuze kutshale umqondo wenani lazo elihlukile ukuze lingaphuthuthi kulo lonke elasemugqeni afunde ukuthi athi "cha" futhi wacabanga ngobudlelwano obuguqulwa emndenini.
-Ufundisa amantombazane ukuthi athi "Cha", futhi alinde "umshado othintekayo", futhi namhlanje "nanamuhla" futhi izazi zomshado wezengqondo zincoma kuqala ukuba ziphile umuntu wakho. Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi kulungile?
- Ngeshwa, kuyinkohliso futhi hhayi isimilo sethiyori yethu yezwe. Ezweni lethu lezizwe, naphezu kwezizwe namasiko ahlukene, njalo, njalo ngeminyaka emfihlo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, kwakuyinto yokuqala emshadweni nasemshadweni. "Okunciphisekile" njengoba usho umshado, ufundisa ukubekezela kwabesifazane, nemishado yokuqulwa kwecala ayikufundisi.
Sikhuluma namantombazane uma usuvele ushade nawe umyeni wakho futhi uma uthola umuntu enginqume ukuthi aqhubeke nokuphila, udinga ukulandela imithetho ekhona amakhulu eminyaka. Kuyadingeka ukuthi yonke intombazane inakho ezingeni elingokomoya elinde umkhosi womshado.
Ngikholwa ukuthi isiko lezidingo zomshado empeleni, ngoba kungumsebenzi, kanye nesikhundla sombango futhi uma ufuna isinqumo ezulwini. Uma umshado usabhalisiwe, kuvumela umuntu ukuthi aphathe umndeni, empilweni yomshado, ngonembeza. Futhi lapho umshado wesilingo, ukhuluma cishe, "Namuhla sizodlala ebhokisini elilodwa lesihlabathi, kwa kusasa sivulwa futhi sihambe siyodlala elinye ibhokisi lesihlabathi." Akulungile.
Njengochwepheshe, ngiyaqonda ukuthi abantu bangahle bafane, kodwa uma kunokuxhumana okungokomoya okungokomoya phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane - le nkinga ingaxazululwa. Futhi-ke manje sekunezinga eliphakeme kakhulu lezokwelapha lezo zinkinga eziphilayo uma zingahlotshaniswa ne-pathology ejwayelekile noma ububi buxazululwa.
Ukuchithwa komshado kungaba sezingeni lokungalingani ngokuphelele, kepha zama ukuhlangana kwezikhathi eziningi kowesifazane kuyalimaza, ngoba i-Psyche Perche. Lapho ivumelana nomuntu oyedwa, kwenye, kuya kwelesithathu, kuya kowesine, ilahlekelwa yisikhundla sokudla okulungile. Owesifazane kufanele anikelwe kumlingani oyedwa, ubekelwe ohlelweni lwakhe lwemvelo.
- Kuyavela ukuthi kumane nje kungukukhohlisa kwamabhanali kusuka kwabesilisa?
- Impela. Lokhu kungukukhohlisa kwamadoda nokukhohlisa ngebhizinisi, ngoba owesifazane okhuthele ngokobulili uyathakazelisa wonke umuntu, kuba ngumthengi wokuvimbela inzalo yama-hormonal, kanye nezinsizakalo ezahlukahlukene zasepulazini. Intombazane emsulwa ngeke isebenze ngezikhungo ezahlukahlukene zokuxilonga, okuthile ukunquma, okulungile, ukulungisa. Akuthakazelisa kangako, ngakho-ke ibhizinisi lilungiselelwe emantombazaneni liyasebenza ngocansi, futhi phambili, okungcono. Nakani, manje kuthelevishini ukukhangisa okusebenzayo kwezintombi zentombi. Ngikholwa ukuthi lokhu kuyinto engenangqondo, akumbozwanga, ibhizinisi lokukhohlisa. Kungani kufanele thina i-kale yobusha? Nginombono ocacile hhayi ngochwepheshe - ama-gynecologists, kepha angeke kwenziwe ngokucatshangelwa kwenkolo. Futhi, kubangela ubulili bokuqala ezinganeni.
- Imicabango iphakama ukuthi lokhu kunguhlelo oluthuthukiswe ngokusobala?
- Impela. Isibonelo, bheka, kusho u-Astakhov, kuyadingeka ukuthi uvikele uhlelo olubeka imfundo yangokocansi kusenesikhathi ezikoleni, futhi wethule into eyayikade: "Izimilo kanye ne-psychology yempilo yomndeni."
Futhi manje ngezinga elikhulu ezikoleni ezikoleni zifundisa intombazane ukuthi ingavikeleka kanjani ekukhulelweni okungafuneki. EYurophu naseMelika, sebenqabile kudala lezo, ngoba kukhombisa ukuthi lapho sikhuluma ngokwengeziwe ngemfundo yezocansi, okuthe xaxa kuholela ezokucansi kwezingane nentsha.
Ngikholwe, lesi yisihloko esithi multiconompon ngokushesha nje lapho kubhekwana khona, izingqimba ezahlukahlukene zivuka, kuyadingeka impela ukuvuka ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Futhi ngithanda kakhulu ukuba ngibe selezwa, Ukubizwa kobilo akuzange kuzalwe hhayi kusuka ekuqaleni, lo muntu uyakwazi akushoyo.
Uma singakwazi ukubhekana manje, sinesimo sabantu kancane kancane, kepha siyehla ngokuqinile, futhi sinaso esimweni esidabukisayo. Ngithanda no-Astakhov, ngokumelene nokubeka imfundo yezocansi ezikoleni. Amantombazane amaningi aneminyaka engu-15 - 16 ubudala anesizotha kakhulu. Abacabangi nakancane ngempilo yezocansi.
Ekuqaleni, phakathi nengxoxo ngalesi sihloko, baqhosha, kodwa-ke bacabanga: "Kungani ngingeyena ngisho nangokwesimanje, emuva, mhlawumbe kukhona okungahambi kahle kimi?". Futhi lapha ungakwazi ukukhohlisa intombazane ngendlela othanda ngayo futhi uyiphoqelele noma yini.
- Futhi indlela amantombazane axazululwa kanjani emibuzweni enjalo?
- Uma ngisebenza neqembu, angizami ukuthinta izihloko zomuntu siqu, nginikeza amantombazane oxhumana nabo bese sixoxa ngaphandle koFakazi, futhi hhayi amahloni. Imvamisa icela usizo. Nginikeza izincomo ezisebenzayo, ziqala nge-physiology. Futhi ezifundweni ezijwayelekile, ngithi hlobo luni lomdlavuza webele, hlobo luni lokuvimbela okufanele lube. Isibonelo, amantombazane anawo angazi ukuthi isifuba kufanele sivikelwe ekulimaleni, akunakwenzeka ekubenihlweni yilanga nokunye. Bathola imininingwane enikezwe umama wendabuko. Kulokhu, imodeli eyaziwayo ye-Oksana Fedorovov iyasiza kakhulu, esibonelweni sakhe sowesifazane ophumelelayo nonina ojabulayo, iba yinto elungele intsha eningi. Amantombazane ngenxa yezenzakalo ezinjalo esemncane ziyaqonda ukuthi ubuhle nempilo kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi kukhona owesifazane.
- Kuphakamisa ukuthi isiphetho siwukuthi emihlanganweni uphakamisela ukuzethemba kwamantombazane ezindlini zezintandane? Futhi uphansi kakhulu?
- Akuyona into ephansi, incekile. Bangemuva ngokomzimba nangokoqobo ngemuva, besaba ukubuza izinto eziningi. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyadingeka ukuphinda kaninginingi into efanayo, angifuni ukusho ukuthi bathuthuka ngendlela ehlukile, kepha badinga ukunakekelwa okwengeziwe, ukunakwa okwengeziwe, nabo udinga ukukhuluma hhayi kuleli cala, futhi kufanele ukhulume ngaphandle kwaleli cala, bese unaka ngokuhlelekile.
- Lawa mantombazane aphonsa omama ebuntwaneni, ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene zokuwashiya esibhedlela. Futhi amantombazane anawo kanjani, amathuba okukhula, futhi angaphindi isiphetho sikanyoko?
- Uyazi, ngeshwa, izibalo zithi abesifazane adlule endlini yezingane abahlali bezibona ngokuphelele empilweni. Lokhu akuyona imfihlo futhi ngizoba yi-hangeh, uma ngithi bonke baba nabesifazane abaphumelelayo. Kepha manje umsebenzi wethu, kule mihlangano, ukubenza bazilungiselele kule mpumelelo, ubanikeze ukufakwa okulungile. Impumelelo akusonge kube yimodeli enomqhele ekhanda futhi ancome wonke amadoda azungeze. Injabulo yabesifazane komunye lapho unomndeni ojwayelekile, ozinzile, umyeni omuhle, umntwana onempilo.
Kuyadingeka ukusho ukuthi injabulo yowesifazane iyinto emncane futhi iyanteka kakhulu. Kuyadingeka ukusho ukuthi ngenxa yamaphupho akhe kuzofanele asebenze kanzima, abe yimodeli yansuku zonke yansuku zonke. Dala isithombe somndeni ojabulayo, kwabonakala sengathi amagama alula, futhi kunomsebenzi omningi ngemuva kwawo.