Izingane zikopisha abazali bazo - futhi kwesinye isikhathi kuyasabisa. Kusukela ebuntwaneni, izitshalo zihlelwe ekukhuze kwethu ukuqonda, kamuva okuboniswa kumodeli yobudlelwano babantu abanabalingani babo, isimo sabo kanye nalabo abathandekayo kanye nabanye abantu bantu. Akunakwenzeka ukuzivikela kuwo wonke amaphutha, kepha kubalulekile ukunciphisa inani lazo ezintweni ezithile. Funda mayelana nokushiyeka kwezemfundo ongavuma ekufundeni kwethu.
"Shahlah!"
Mhlawumbe into yokuqala umama athinta ngayo isilinganiso sendodakazi yakhe emzimbeni wayo. Uma ungazange uvumele ingane kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuze iqhubekile ngisho nasekhaya, ihlala ilimaze izingubo zayo, yakhuza umzimba wakho futhi ayikaze ikhulume ngocansi, izinto zimbi. Intombazane isafunda ukuthi yini impilo eseduze, kepha ayinakumjabulisa aze afike kudokotela wezengqondo. Imfundo eqinile esezingeni eliphansi libeka umbono wokuthi ubunqunu, ubulili nezinye izinto ezijwayelekile zimbi.
"Yebo, akekho noyedwa ozoshada"
Indodakazi yakho izaliswa hhayi njengengezwa endodeni, kodwa njengomuntu ozimele. Mfunde ku-Iron, upheke futhi afeze ezinye izibopho zasekhaya ukuze azinakekele kuze kube yilapho ithola ngokwanele ukuqasha umsizi we-amateur futhi adle okudla ezindaweni zokudlela. Sifaka umcabango wokuthi impilo ingumsebenzi ojwayelekile, ukuze esikhathini esizayo ngeke esakhanisa umyeni othambekile, kodwa vele ushiye umlingani ongakwazi ukufeza ubuncane bezendlu.
Vuka indodakazi ethandweni nasekunakekelweni
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"Intsha ayipheli"
Hhayi! Intsha ihlala kakhulu njengoba uzizwa umncane. Bheka izithombe zabazukulu bethu: vele baneminyaka engama-30 babheke iminyaka embalwa ubudala, hhayi nhlobo amantombazane anamuhla. Ungacindezeli le ntombazane ngamagama ukuthi kufanele ashade, abelethe izingane futhi akwenze konke kufanele kube ngu-30. Uzokhula futhi anqume ukuthi hlobo luni lwe-hlobo lobudlelwano olunconyelwa kuye, noma ngabe lufuna izingane noma zithathe isinqumo hhayi ukuqhubeka. Into esemqoka ukuthi wenza izinketho uqobo futhi wayejabule.
"Yebo, ngokucophelela, ngiyakhuluma!"
Akunasidingo sokunakekela ingane - nakekela ukuphepha kwayo futhi ufunde imithetho yokuqapha, kepha ungavikeli amaphutha. Awufuni indodakazi ukuthi iphile nawe ekugugeni futhi icelwe ukuhamba nezintombi? Siyaqonda ukuthi mayena nje ukuvuma ukuthi intombazane yakho ikhule, kepha isivele isebukhoneni kuyadingeka ukumnika inkululeko eyanele yokumenza azenzele amaqhubu azenzele ikusasa.
"Uyihlo uyisiwula!"
Ukwakha isithombe esingesihle sikaYise, ukhula ezakhiweni zezingane. Okubi kakhulu, uma wenza bonke abamele amasilisa ekuthukweni komuntu siqu. Zama ukuvuma ngokweqiniso ukubaluleka komlingani bese uxoxa ngawo ngengane evuthiwe, kepha ungakhohlwa ngezinzuzo. Khombisa indodakazi yakho ukuthi ubuntu bomuntu buhlangene futhi abukho abantu abafanele. Ngakho-ke uzosindisa ekufuneni isikhulu, kepha futhi usinikeze ukuqonda ukuthi akufanele uhlangane nolokuqala obanjwe.
"Ngikwenqabe ukuxhumana nobaba!"
Lapho behlukanisile, bambalwa abantu abangagcina ubudlelwane obuhle. Uma umlingani, njengoba ucabanga, uyingozi enganeni, ancishe amalungelo akhe okubazali enkantolo. Kepha kwezinye izimo, ungalinganiseli ekuxhumaneni phakathi kwendodakazi nobaba, ngaphandle kwalokho ngokuzayo uzophonsa odakeni lokuqala elinde okungenani amaconsi okunakwa nokushisa. Amantombazane akhule ngaphandle kobaba ajwayele ukuthobeka ebudlelwaneni, avuse amahlazo futhi athole noma yini, ukuthola ukunakwa nokuzwakala kunesidingo. Ngikholwe, kunzima kakhulu kubo - ungahambelani nekusasa lakho elincane nentombazane yakho.
Noma ungeyena indodakazi yami nobaba, kufanele axhumane naye
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"Manje Ungitholela"
Hhayi ihlaya, hhayi owesabisa ngempela udlame lwezingane. Kufanele uchaze amadodakazi ukuthi noma yiluphi udlame oluvela kwabanye abantu alunampilo. Ukuthukwa, ukukhohlisa imizwa, ukukhohlisa - akukho lutho lwalokhu olungabekezelelwa, nakulo owonile kufanele uhambe ngokushesha. Ngenkathi eseRussia akukho mthetho ngodlame lwasekhaya, intombazane kufanele ivikele futhi ixwayise izimo eziyingozi endaweni yokulawula kwayo.
"Ingazama kangcono"
Kuyacaca ukuthi ingane ngeke ithole ubuciko njalo futhi izoletha ezinye ezinhlanu esikoleni. Kepha wena, njengoba umzali kufanele amdumise kuqala ngemizamo, bese enke nicosha ukuthi yini okudingeka uyilungiselele isikhathi esizayo lapho umphumela waba ngcono kakhulu. Kungcono ukubamba ingane kunokuthi ungamtsheli amagama okuvunywa nokusekelwa.
"Linda, angikwenzi kuwe"
Akunandaba ukuthi umatasa kangakanani, kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi umsebenzi ngeke uhambe noma kuphi, kepha ingane izokhula ngokushesha futhi izovimba isidleke. Ungalahlekelwa yisikhathi futhi unikele okungenani imizuzu eyi-10-15 ngosuku ukuze ukhulume ngayo yonke into emhlabeni. Ngesikhathi sokuxhumana, ingane ifunda ukucabanga, xhumana ne-interlocutor, ukuhlaziya umbono womunye umuntu, kuba nokubekezelela futhi unake. Uma unezingane eziningana, ngamunye wazo udinga ukuchitha isikhathi uwedwa, lapho zingadingi ukuncintisana nomfowethu / udadewabo ukuze unake, futhi ungaba ngokwakho.
"Bheka abanye, bukhoma kubo bonke abalungele"
Lapho unikeza le ntombazane esibonelweni seminye imindeni lapho imali encane, izingane noma abazali bayagula khona, awuzenzi kangcono ingane yakho. Umfunda ukuba namahloni ngalokho okunakho, futhi uzame ukuqhathanisa nabanye. Yebo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi unenhlanhla yokuzalwa emndenini ovikelekile, kepha awudingi ukudicilela phansi ukuze uzuze ngisho nangaphezulu.