Akukhe kube kudala kakhulu ukuba usebenze ngokwakho- nokuba ubuneminyaka engama-20, ubuncinci uneminyaka engama-50 ubudala. Kwaye iNqanaba lakhe elibalulekileyo, ngokutsho kwabanamhlanje psyadhotherapists, kukufumana ubuchule bokukhusela imida yabo. Abantu abatyekele ekuvumeni ngazo naziphi na iingcebiso kwaye bazobe ukukhubekisa abanye, benze impazamo engenakuthelekiswa nanto: bayayilibala into ephambili kubomi babo ukuba bangazikhubekisi. Iingcebiso ziya kunceda ukujamelana nengxaki kwaye uqalise ubomi kwiphepha elicocekileyo.
Chonga imida yomonde wakho
Thatha iphepha kwaye wahlule kwiikholamu ezimbini: ndiyayamkela kwaye andamkeli. Khumbula indlela abo ababengqonge ngayo - ukuba zenza ukuba zive ubunzima, kwaye ezingazange zibangele iimvakalelo. Buza, kutheni kubalulekile? Umsebenzi unceda ekugxileni kwiimvakalelo zabo ngokwahlukana nofakelo loluntu. Imida iquka ukusekwa komda wendawo evunyelweyo kwaye ayivumelekanga. Ke ngoko, intamo yabantu, iqabane liya kuba yingozi yengqondo, ngelixa abanye bengayi kubona nantoni na embi kwaye baqhubeke bahlala kunye.
Chaza ngokucacileyo imida ye-odrid
Jonga ngaphakathi ngokwakho
Qhubeka nokusebenza kwizinto ezikhutshiweyo xa usenza umthambo wangaphambili. Zibuze lo mbuzo: Ndivakalelwa yintoni ngalo mzuzu? Kutheni le nto le nto ikhathaza kakhulu? Into nganye inokukwenza umzobo ukusuka kwi-1 kuye kwi-10, ephawula amandla eemvakalelo ezikhoyo. Ngexesha lokuguqula ukuzihlalisa, unokuchaza imvakalelo esisiseko- ayisoloko ingumsindo. Rhoqo phantsi kwemaski yomsindo ofihlayo, uloyiko okanye ikratshi. "Xa umntu esebenza ngendlela yokuba uzive ungonwabanga, kuba lo ngumqondiso wokuba unokuwaqhekeza okanye awele umda," utshilo uNcedo lwe-Pschology yengqondo yengqondo. Emva kokuba esebenze ezi ngxaki, unokuzikhulula ngokufakelwa kunye nokuphendula ngokwaneleyo kwizenzo zabanye.
Thetha ngasekunene
Ndikholelwe, yinxalenye encinci yabantu ngabom ekukhubeleni ngabom, abanye bayayenza ngokungazi okanye bangaboni kwanto iliso elisongelayo kwisenzo. Ngokuzibiza iimvakalelo zakho ngokuvakalayo, umnika umntu ukuba aqonde ukuba ungade ube khona. Akukho mfuneko yokuba unciphise umnxibelelanisi: Ukuchaza ukuba isihloko asiyingxoxo ngokuthe ngqo kuye, akanalo ulwazi olwaneleyo ngengxoxo epheleleyo okanye ucaphuka ziingcinga zakhe-oku kuyinto ebalaseleyo. Andifuni ukuxoxa ngobomi bam nomntu, ngaphandle kweqabane. Masikhethe esinye isihloko sencoko? " -Ibinzana elingathathi hlangothi oluphambili iinjongo zakho kwaye ungavumeli iimvakalelo zomnye umntu.
Zive ngomntu osimahla Khupha ityala lakho
Susa uxanduva lweemvakalelo zomnye umntu. I-Psychologlogy yomnxibelelanisi iphakathi kwamakhuselo ayo, hayi yeyakho. Kubudlelwane obunempilo, iqabane okanye umzali akasayi kuba nalo umbuzo malunga nokuba ungala ukwenza okanye uxelele into - ibonwa njenge-axiom. Ngaba uphila ngenye indlela? Ndixelele umntu malunga neemvakalelo zakho kwaye uvumele ixesha lokucinga ngale meko - uyakuqonda ukuba unempazamo kwaye engasabeki uxinzelelo kuwe.
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