Iminyaka emi-2-4: musa ukuphazamisana nomntwana
Kwiminyaka emi-2-4, abantwana babonakala bemfihlo kwindalo. Ihlala ibonakaliswa ngexesha lomdlalo. Kubantwana, umdlalo luhlobo lwentsimi, apho kuyavela ilizwe labo. Ke ngoko, umntwana akafuni ukungena nomntu ngaphandle kwabazali bakhe, nkqu nabazali bakhe. Ukuba ngelo xesha lomdlalo uza kumntwana ngokwembono yomntu omdala kwaye ubuze: "Ewe, wenzani apho?" -Umntwana wakuvala kwangoko. Okukhona uya kubonisa ukuba uza kuzisa umhlaba wakhe ngemibuzo yakho, ukuthula kuya kudlala kwaye iiseli "ezingakumbi ziya kuvela. Ke ngoko, eyona nto ichanekileyo kukubonisa ubuhle kwaye babukele nje umntwana upapashiwe.
Iminyaka emi-4 ukuya kwe-6: Ubuchule obungaphezulu - ixhala elincinci
Kweli xesha, umntwana uyaqonda ukuba kukho izenzo ezingayi kuvunywa ngabazali babo. Akayi kuviwa, kuye kuya kugxothwa okanye kusisihlwele. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana udalwe yi-niche yengqondo, apho aqala khona ukubakho, ongazibopheli kubazali bakhe. Eyona ngxelo ingako, kokukhona ihlala inesiphene kunye nokuthula kwezinye izinto. Ekugqibeleni, umntwana uqhela ukufihla into, kwaye ubomi bakhe buvele. Kwenziwe ntoni? Ekwazi ukuba umntwana akuxelela wona, ngokunjalo, mveni yena ngenyameko, mnike ixesha kwaye ubonise ubuchule ngakumbi kunye nexhala.
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Iminyaka eyi-7 ukuya kweli-14: Musa ukoyika ukunxibelelana nengcali
Kweli xesha, kukho ukususwa ngokuthe ngcembe kubazali, kuba inani leemfihlo ziyakhula ngokuzinzileyo. Uninzi luhlala luhambelana nolwalamano oluninzi kunye nothando lokuqala. Eli xesha, ngokweenkcukacha-manani, sesona sicwangciso sinzima sengqondo: umntwana onolwalamano oluthembekileyo nabazali, enokufihla izinto ezinzulu, eqala ngeengxaki zoluntu kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo esiyaziyo , bonakalisa ubomi babantwana ingozi. Ke ngoko, ukuba umntwana uziphatha ngokukrokrela, kuyimfuneko, ebonisa ubuchule, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ubuchule bokufumana, ukuya enyanisweni. Musa ukoyika ukutsala oochwephesha bezengqondo.
Iminyaka eli-14 ukuya kweli-18: kunye neshumi elivisayo ukuba ibe kwi-wave enye
Umntwana sele eziva ngathi ngumntu omdala. Kukuqonda kuphela kunye nawe, uya kulawula ukulungisa unxibelelwano naye. Ndikunye nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo, kufuneka ube kumaza afanayo, kuba ngokulinganayo, inani leemfihlelo lifikelela kumanqaku aphezulu. Onke ifihla: Iingcinga, iimvakalelo, amava. Injongo yomntwana kukuvala imaski kwaye akukho mntu ubonakalisa nantoni na. Ukuze wazi okungenani inxenye yale mfihlakalo yobomi, abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba umntwana ukhulile kwaye ungavumelana naye. Kwezi minyaka le, kubalulekile ukuba banike ithuba lokuphendula into, oko kukuthi, ukumnika indawo yokuphila, umzekelo, inkqubo yokufunda, umsebenzi wethutyana. Ke ngoku kuya kuqala ukukhusela ukuzithemba ngamandla abo, kwaye akasayi kuvakalelwa nje ngabantu abadala, kodwa ke nokuqonda ukuba uyazi ukuba uziva abantu abasecaleni.