Kutshanje ndixelele iphupha, elilikhanyisiweyo nesaziso, nceda ungafundanga. Nangona kunjalo, utoliko lwakhe, endiza kunikezela, likude nenkcitho enentsingiselo.
"Umyeni wam wandixelela ukuba kufuneka sibulale umntwana wethu. Ndizisele iimpikiswano, kodwa andizikhumbuli. Umntwana wagqiba kwelokuba anike ityhefu. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana uza kufa ngaphandle kokuthuthumbisa, sabulala umntwana omnye komnye umntu, sibeka kwibhokisi elula kwaye wangcwatywa.
Ndacinga ukuba ndiza kuba nexesha lokuphanga umyeni wakhe okanye ndifihle umntwana, kodwa ngequbuliso ndabona ezandleni zakhe ibhokisi yakhe encinci nehle kakhulu kwaye ifune ukuba isele ixhelile. "
Kukho iinguqulelo ezintathu zokutolika ezinokutyilikwa iphupha lokukhetha kuzo.
Eyokuqala yeyona icacileyo. Sithetha ngongquzulwano lokwenyani, uthethathethwano kwindlela yokuphila nokufa komntwana. Mhlawumbi sithetha ngokuqhomfa. Malunga nokuba okanye ukungakhulelwa. Mhlawumbi ukuba kwakungekho mava kubomi bamava anje, ke ngephupha ubona ungquzulwano lwentsapho eyongezelelweyo apho ukufikelela khona. Mhlawumbi olu lulwazi lwayo luphila ubomi bakhe / hayi ubomi, ababethetha ngayo abazali bakhe. Okanye ngaba olu mbambano lomnye umntu kusapho ukuba lufikelele kulo.
Inguqulelo yesibini Inxulumene nesibakala sokuba abazali bangaphakathi bafuna ukufaka umntwana wakhe. Imfundiso yakhe, ngokuziphatha ihlasela inxalenye yakhe, inxenye. Le mbambano iyaziwa ngokubaninzi abadlulisele ukhula ngokungqongqo kunye nenkqubo entsonkothileyo yezithintelo, izohlwayo xa babenjalo abantwana, abakwishumi elivisayo, abafana.
Inguqulelo yesithathu Ngokoluvo lwam, eyona nto ingaqondakaliyo. UKarl Jung wathetha ukuba kwinkqubo yokukhulisa iinxalenye zethu ezithambileyo, okanye ezona zifa zifele zomphefumlo, okanye zokufumana. Ukuthamba kwethu, ukukhululeka, ukulukhula, ubomi ekwenziweni kwabantwana kufuneka banikezele kwindawo yokugqibeka, uxanduva lokwenza izinto kunye nokumelana neziphumo zezi zenzo.
Mhlawumbi ngaphandle koloyiko lomxholo, iphupha lamaphupha yinto nje yokuba iziqwenga ezithambileyo zomphefumlo wayo ziyafa, zinika iindlela zokuhlala zikhule. Yonke le nto yenzeka ngenxa yeengxaki ezibalulekileyo kwaye uzithandabuze kwindlela yobomi. Shiya iphupha ngokhetho, leliphi kwiinguqulelo ukuba inokwenzeka.
Kwaye ngawaphi amaphupha akho?
Imizekelo yamaphupha akho ethunyelwa ngeposi: inforhit.ru. Indlela, amaphupha alula kakhulu ukubhala phantsi ukuba uza kubhala phantsi ukuba uza kubhalwa khona ukuba uza kubhala phantsi ukuba uvule kweli phupha.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin