Ungalufumana njani olona thando lwenene luthi yonke into kwaye ngokwahlukileyo? Akukho kupheka enye. Uthando emva kwako konke, umalunga nobudlelwane neqabane kwaye, ngokungaqhelekanga ngokwaneleyo, malunga nobudlelwane kunye naye.
Uthando. Xa imibongo ibhaliwe ngokwabo. Kwaye iphosa ubushushu kwingcinga yeqabane lakhe. Kunye nebhabhathane esiswini kunye nombuso xa amaphiko akhula emva komva. Ewe, yonke le nto yimzimba. I-Hormones idlala nendoda ene-dick joke. Zonke iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kunye nokucinga okuyingqongileyo kuvaliwe. Imvakalelo yolonwabo kunye novuyo, "uthando euphoria" uthatha ngendlela eqhelekileyo. Konke oku kumhle kwaye kuyamangalisa, kodwa kuphela imeko yothando lothando ingahlala ixesha elide kuphela kumgama. Nje ukuba abathandi baqala ukuhlala kunye, kukho ubomi obuthile, uxanduva, uxanduva, ukuzalwa, abantwana bayazalwa, baphela. Kwaye ixesha lokufunda elinye liza.
Ke ngoko, ukuba awufuni ukwahlukana nenkanuko yothando, kodwa ufuna ukuziva ufuna imfuno yakho, into oyithandayo, unomdla wesini kunye nomtsalane, ungafuni kuthatha uxanduva kunye nezibophelelo - musani ukuhlala kunye kwaye ungazaleli abantwana. Kutheni ikhuthaza abantwana kunye namava amaqabane amandla. Uninzi olunokwenzeka, unokuphila kwaye ngaphandle kokuthembana, ukuzithemba kwixesha elizayo, ngaphandle kokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo nangokufudumeleyo, oko kubizwa ngokuba luthando. Hlala eluthandweni nakwiminqweno yakho, iphupha lendawo apho, ukhona omnye umntu osifunayo kwaye ubalulekile. Ukuba ayikho malunga nawe, emva koko qhubeka.
Xa izithandi ezibini ziqala ukuhlala eluthandweni, kungekuphela nje i-idolity kunye nesidima, kodwa nenani elikhulu leempazamo lingabonakali. Apha, ukuphoxeka kokuqala kunye nemeko yokucaphukisa. Kwaye ke kukho amathandabuzo: kwaye ukuba ndikhawuleza. Usenalo ixesha lokubaleka kwakhona eluthandweni, kuba "chemistry wothando" akasasebenzi. Kwaye, njengoko kwakungekabikho ngaphambili, akusekho. Ezo nqaba epinki zilahlekile, kwaye ixesha leengxabano kunye nokucacisa ubudlelwane kuyenzeka. Wonke umntu ufuna i-is mbono. Kwaye ukuqonda nge-quy-quight, kwaye baqhuba yonke iminqweno, kwaye babenomdla, kwaye benenkathalo bahlala njalo. Ukuziva ngathi ufuna ukutsho okanye ukuqagela ukuba yintoni "ilanga elicacileyo", xa ligoduka. NjengoMama wakho othandekayo. Ukuba kunjalo kukho. Kwaye ukuba bekungekho mntwana ekudeni, iqabane linyanzelekile ukuba liqonde kwaye lizame, ibe mbini-ngokwakhe kunye nomama, abangazange bananise into. Kwaye mhlawumbi kuninzi kangangokuba akukho mntu unokuthelekisa nayo. Kwaye ke wonke umhlaba womnye umntu kufuneka ajikeleze ngentyatyambo yentwasahlobo entle ye-narcissa. Kwaye ukuba akukhange kubenjalo, oko kuthetha ukuba iqabane libi kwaye kuyafuneka. Konke oku kukudinwa kwabantwana kunye neembono zabantwana malunga nothando lomama ofanelekileyo okanye uswele, nokuba kunjalo. I-egoecerism yeli xesha lolwalamano ngamanye amaxesha inkulu kangangokuba umntu ovela kumaqabane anokwamkela okanye alingane ngelinye ixesha. Kodwa ke umntwana uya kukhula kwaye ahlukane nomzali, njengoko kufanele ukuba abe ngumzali okwishumi elivisayo aze afumane ubomi bakhe obutsha ngenxa ye-adventure yakhe entsha. Kwaye umntu uhlala enamatyala amanye abantu ngokweemvakalelo ukujongana nabazali babo kuphela kubo ngesizungu. Kwaye mhlawumbi sele kubantwana babo bokwenyani.
Eli lixesha apho esi sibini siqala ukulwa kwaye siphinde siphinde siphinde sibe nenxaxheba. Kunye nokukhangela ubudlelwane obutsha, obunokubakho, buya kugqitywa kwakhona. Okanye, ukuba kumdala, kunye baxoxa kwaye bathethe. Qala nganye nganye ngeentsilelo zonke. Ke, kakhulu, kunokwenzeka, ixesha lokunyamezela liza kuza.
Ke ngoko, ukuba usagqiba kwelokuba uhlukane nothando lothando kunye nomntu omdala ukuba bakhe ubudlelwane, ke uyafuna okanye akunjalo, kuya kufuneka uye kwisithuba sokwakha ubudlelwane neqabane. Kwaye baqala ngokuthathwa kwempahla engalunganga. Kwaye mhlawumbi yintoni ecaphukisayo kwiqabane, ayinanto yakwenza nayo.
Kwaye oku kungowona mzuzu xa isibini sifikelele kuncedo lobugcisa boluhlu lwengqondo. Kwaye ukusuka kweli nqanaba ukuba izifundo ngokwalo kwaye iqale ukungakholiswa kwazo. Kutheni? phi? Ukunyamezela kwaye kulinde ukuba uSaba ngokwakhe yonke into ayinakwenzeka kwaye ayinamveliso. Yingxabano efihliweyo, kwaye wonke umthwalo wobudlelwane bodwa awunakuboyisa. Yonke into ehambelana nayo. Umonde-akuthethi ukunyamezelana.
Umonde uthetha ukunyamezelana. Esi sisiqalo sothando kakhulu. Kwaye ke i-egodism yaBantwana, ethi, njengoMlawuli, ilawula imeko: Khange kwaboni, akazange ave, akazange avume, andamkeli, mna Nika ngaphezulu-uphi umvuzo wam? Kunye ne-td ... iqala ukuguqula umntu. Ndithi kuwe, yindlela enzima nenzima. Ukuqonda into endiyikholelwayo nawayonga, nditsho kwaphela. Kwaye ukuqondeka ukungafezeki kwabo kwenzakala. Ulwazi kunye nokwazisa-izinto ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye iintlungu eziya kuthi zibangelwa nguwe-ngaphezu kwentlungu yomzimba. Asinguye wonke umntu, owomeleleyo, wanesibindi, uyakwazi. Ke yona le yindlela ekhokelela ekuthandeni nobuso kuye. Unokutshintsha iqabane, ngokuzama njengesuti, isibini okanye iminyaka elishumi elinambini, kwaye ushiye engaqondakaliyo kwaye engakhathalelwanga. Kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abantu abakwaziyo ukuba isini asithethi uthando, ukuthula akuthethi-ukuthobela, kwaye ukwamkelwa 'kuphela kukufunda, ukuqhelana' neempawu zakhe ezimbi " Ke kaloku, sakubamkela, sibafumane, beka apha, ngoku, baphendula imibuzo yakho, ngoba? -Ngaba abantu, bethatha isigqibo ngeemfuno zabo kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni kwaye bafunda ngovuyo kunye nolonwabo lokwabelana neqabane- landela ngaphezulu
Ndikholelwe, uvale ngokwaneleyo kumzuzu ofunekayo, kodwa usenokungakuthandi. Inkonzo ayisiyonto yothando. Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ndifuna kwaye andenzi kwindawo endizandithandayo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ndifuna. Kwaye andibuzi nantoni na ngembuyekezo. Apha kwaye iqala ngovuyo kunye nolonwabo. Kodwa ungafika kweli xesha lobudlelwane kuphela ngokudlulisela bonke abantu ngaphambili. Esi sisinyanzelo. Uthando alunanto. Ayisiyo imali, hayi ilungile. Ukuthuthuzela ngokweemvakalelo kunye nobushushu. Ukutshintshiselana ngokufanayo. Uthando kufuneka ulinywe kubo ngokwabo kwaye neqabane, hayi Ilibale ukuba amaxabiso awo kunye neemfuno abanye yaye ukuba ngandlel 'ithile, zibe zifana kwexesha, kufuneka emsebenzini kunye nomsebenzi. Kwaye ngamnye ngokwahlukileyo. Umhlaba kwitrafi kunye nokwenza entsha kubabini. Kwaye intlonipho iyavela. Kwaye iimvavanyo ezininzi zobomi abaphilayo, ngenkxaso, enokuqonda, nokwazi ukuba kukho umntu endinokuthembela kuye, kwenye indawo esondele, kwaye iphakamile kuphela. Kwaye kuphela emva koko kukho ukutshintshiselana ngamandla, iimvakalelo, iingcinga ... kunye nayo yonke loo nto yeyam, iba yinto eqhelekileyo. Iyonke, ngaloo mvakalelo inkulu. Uthando.
Ukonwaba nokuvuya kwinyaniso yokuba lowo ukufutshane aze angathethi, kwaye sele ecacile into ayithethayo. Kwaye yonke into yenziwa, ngaphandle kokuxoxa. Iqabane lakho liba sisipili sakho, kodwa hayi ijika- njengoko ihlala yenzeka. Isibuko esibonisa imiba emangalisayo engabonakaliyo yomphefumlo wakho kwaye ikuncede ukuba uqhubeke ngakumbi, ohlukileyo kwaye uyayinyani kwindalo yakho kunye nokusondelelana ngokomoya. Kwaye olu thando lufanayo olukhangelwa iminyaka emininzi kwaye lidlula kwaye lihamba ngamanye amaxesha emva kwabo babemthanda kwaye likufuphi. Ngokutshintsha inkanuko, kumdlalo eluthandweni, kumdlalo kubudlelwane, umdlalo "wefashoni" nanjengo wonke umntu. Akunakudlalwa, kodwa ukuze uphile, uphile, ungaguli, kuya kufuneka ufunde okwenzekileyo, kwake kwakho, kwaye ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo zilahlekile. Ngapha koko, uthando lunengxaki yonke, lukholelwa kuyo yonke into, yonke into iyanyamezela kwaye ingapheli ukuba. Unoxanduva kwaye uyawazalisa. Kwaye mhlawumbi ukuba ubuhlobo bokwenene, ubuhlobo bokwabelana ngesondo, ukunyamezelana, ubulungiseleli, imbeko kunye nokuzithemba ngobuchule ngokwakho, ungafika kwinto obizwa ngayo uthando lokwenene.
Kuyenzeka ukuba ungadlula kuwo onke amabakala ngaphandle kwelahleko yamabhongo kunye namava, kufuneka wazi kwaye uziqonde. Yiba nakho ukuziva uzithanda kwaye uzihlonele. Ndikwazi ukuthanda abantu nje. Fumana indawo yakhe kuwe, kwaye hayi njengakwintsomi endala: "Inaliti kwiqanda, iqanda eDuck, eDuda kwi-hare" ... thanda ngaphakathi kuthi. Isinikiwe njengenzuzo enkulu kunye novavanyo olukhulu. Njengendlela eya kuwe.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ngokuzinikezela okuthile, hayi ngemvakalelo enyanisekileyo, bazinyanga, kwaye akuyi kubakho nto. Ukuba uvela esikhundla ukuba umhlaba uphela ubhabha ngakum, kwaye ndenza into endiyifunayo, kwaye andiyi kuthatha nantoni na kwaye ndinyamezele, ke uthando alunakufunyanwa. "Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, iglasi kwaye igcwele-i-egcections kuwe" nothando lutshintshiselwano. Kodwa yintoni ekufuneka uyitshintshe?
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, unokoyisa iingcebiso ezinqwenelekayo:
Ukwazi ukuwa eluthandweni. Musa ukoyika ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ukwazi ukuba kuzo.
Ukwazi ukuyeka i-fantasy yakho yokuba uthando lukhona ngonaphakade
Ukwazi ukuba uthethathethwano kunye nokunyamezelana. Vumela ukuba ziimpazamo zakho. Kunye nokungalunganga komnye umntu.
Ukwazi ukukhetha kubantu abaninzi abantu abaninzi. Kwaye oku-yazi kwaye uyaziqonda ngokwakho. Ukuqonda nokuziva ubuthathaka babo. Ngamaxesha onke, yonke imihla ndisebenza kuwe.
Ukwazi ukuziva ngentlonipho, ukuthemba kunye nokuzive ngemvakalelo kwisizungu sakho ngokwakho. Nyaniseka ukwabelana kwaye utshintshiselane kubudlelwane. Kuba ukuba uza kuzalisa omnye umntu, ayiyithandi, kodwa kuxhomekeke komnye umntu okanye into.
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Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uthando yimvakalelo yokuba sonke sibonisiwe, kodwa ayisosipho esingenamsebenzi. Lo ngumvuzo wemizamo, umnqweno wokuloyisa ubunzima kunye nokukwazi ukwenza umsebenzi omninzi kuwe kunye nobudlelwane kunye, kunye neqabane lakho.