Phantse kuzo zonke iintsapho, kuzalo mzuzu xa kuncinana, bekuya kubonakala ngathi ngabantwana, nokuba kutshanje ke, ukhathalelo, lukhule. Bahlala befuna ukuthatha izigqibo zabo ezizimeleyo, bakhetha izifundo zabo kwesinye isixeko okanye ilizwe, badale usapho lwabo olutsha. Kuza iqonga lahlukile kwindlu yabazali yobomi. Ngaphandle kwendalo yale nkqubo, ihlala idlula kubuhlungu wonke umntu. Kutheni yenzeka kwaye njani ukuyiphepha?
Yintoni "i-ndhy syndrome" kwaye ngubani onesisindo
Ukukhathalelwa kwabantwana kubuntu abadala kuzisa abazali ukuba bangoyiki, ukonakala, imvakalelo yosizi engathethekiyo, ngamanye amaxesha ukucaphuka ngenxa yokungathintelwa imeko, usizi, ukungabi nakhohlakalo.
Konke oku kunokukhokelela ngokulula kuxinzelelo. Le ngxaki yengqondo ibizwa ngokuba yi "Fond Rondrome." Ngokomndilili, abazali bahlupheka kwiinyanga ezininzi ukuya kwiminyaka eliqela.
Uninzi ngempazamo lubonisa ukuba babonakalise abafazi kuphela. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezithile, umntu unesifo se-syndrome akaphantsi.
I-Nidezhda Korneeva - I-Psychologist, uMqeqeshi wokukhula komqulu, umqeqeshi welizwe jikelele, ingcali yemfundo yabantwana
Ungayisusa njani i-syndrome
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uthambile amava abazali? Bafumana phi amandla ukuze uphile "isifo se-syndrome yendlwane engenanto"?
Into yokuqala yokwenza kubo bonke oomama nootata kukulungiselela eli xesha lingenakuthelekiswa nanto ngaphambili. Ungaqala ngeminyaka elishumi elivisayo yomntwana ngelixa ehlala nawe. Kodwa okwangoku ayisebenzi, kodwa malunga nokudluliselwa kolwazi. Funda ngobomi obuzimeleyo obuzimeleyo: indlela yokugcina uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali, indlela yokucwangcisa ubomi, indlela onokuthi ube noxanduva ngayo kunye nabanye. Ngamanye amaxesha le nkqubo iyafuneka kubazali nangaphezulu kwabantwana. Iya kunciphisa ialam kwaye ibuthathaka umnqweno wolawulo lwexesha elizayo. Inqaku lesibini elibalulekileyo kukuqalisa ukucinga ngobomi babo obutsha, buyisela unxibelelwano olunxulumene noko, luhlobo olunobuhlobo, jonga abantu ababaziyo abatsha.
Ukuba "i-syndrome" engenanto "ikuhlekisa, musa ukuphelelwa lithemba. Into yokuqala onokuyenza ngokwakho kukuzama ukuthatha imeko njengoko kunjalo, ngazo zonke iimvakalelo ezikhoyo (usizi kunye nokulingwa, ukungakwazi nokuloyika). Oku kusebenza kungekuphela nje kwabasetyhini, kodwa nangamadoda.
Ulwalamano phakathi kwamaqabane lunokwandisa okanye, ngokuchasene noko, ukufikelela kwinqanaba elitsha lokusondela. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba uyeke, musa ukubumba ngakumbi kumava akho, jonga ngeenxa zonke kwaye, mhlawumbi, funda ukuphinda unxibelelane, ukuthembana, ukwenze imithetho yobomi entsha kunye nezithethe zosapho.
Lixesha lokuqalisa ukufunda into entsha, khumbula ukuba yeyiphi oyithandayo, ehlala ingenaxesha. Unokuza nezithethe ezitsha: umzekelo, ngolwesihlanu ukuthenga iintyatyambo eziphilayo okanye iziqhamo ezingaqhelekanga, yonke into eyoneleyo. Unokubuyela kumaphupha amade alityelweyo apho wala, uphosa amandla kunye nezixhobo zokukhulisa abantwana. Umzekelo, ungayithenga inja osoloko iphupha ngayo, kodwa ayikwazanga, kuba umntwana wayenengxaki, okanye ehamba esihamba ngenqanawa, kwaye angaya eBali.
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ubunzima kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga, kwaye awuzivanga ithuba lokuhlangabezana nemeko yakho, kuya kufuneka uqhagamshelane nengcali yengqondo.
Kunye ne-epilogue .... I-syndrome "engenanto" inkqonkqoza yabazali kwi-rut eqhelekileyo. Kodwa inokuthathwa njengendawo yokuguqulela ukusuka kwelinye ilizwe lolonwabo kwelinye, njengethuba lokugcwalisa ubomi bakho kunye nembono entsha entle kwaye ipeyinta ngemibala eqaqambileyo.