Khumbula ukuba zingaphi amabali malunga nendlela abantu abadala babantu abadala njengabazali babo, ngelixa abazali nabo benza yonke into 'yomntwana' kangangoko kunokwenzeka kubo. Ubandezeleka ngenxa yamacala omabini. Isizathu sokuba iskew ivela kubudlelwane babona bantu basondeleyo kunye nendlela yokuvumela ukuveliswa kwesisa somntwana wabo abadala, ngaphandle kokutshabalalisa ngokupheleleyo ubudlelwane.
Isizathu sokuba abazali bazibambe abantu abadala
Umnqweno wokuqonda iinkanuko zakho
Rhoqo, abantu babanjwe kwimeko enjalo, bonke ubomi babo bafuna ukubonisa ukubaluleka kwabo kwabanye. Rhoqo, ukubaluleka kungqineke ngoncedo lwabantwana, ukunyanzela ukuba bafezekise zonke iziphumo ezilungileyo. Kulula ukuqikelela ukuba i-psyche yabetha njani ingcinezelo yabazali bahlala bekwimeko yokulinda olunye umchasi wabo. Kubalulekile apha ukuqonda isizukulwana esidala sokuba umntwana ngumntu owahlukileyo ongafanele ungqine kwabani na nakubani na.
abazali banzima ukuthatha isigqibo malunga notshintsho
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Bonke ubomi bujikeleza umntwana
Ngokwemvelo, emncinci, umntwana akakwazi ukujamelana naye, ngenxa yoko, ufuna abazali ukuba bacinge ukuba bahlonela. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana uyakhula, kwaye bonke abazali abanakukwazi ukwamkela into yokuba izikimu ezindala zingasebenzi kwaye zisiphathe umntwana, umntu okwishumi elivisayo kunye nomntu omdala wayefuna ngokwahlukileyo. Ukuqala ukungcungcutheka okunganiki umntu okhulileyo ukuba enze isigqibo ngokwahlukana, kwaye unokuhlala iminyaka.
Umzali akaqondi ukuba yintoni injongo yayo
Kubantu abaninzi, ukubonakaliswa kothando kuhleli ngokusisigxina kufutshane. Ngapha koko, uthando lunokunyangwa, ke ityhefu, ngakumbi okwangoku xa kuzalisekisiwe isicwangciso somzali. Lungisa umntwana ukuba abe mdala, aze emva koko ayeke - eyona nto ibonakalisa uthando oluvela kubazali.
Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba akukho mandla wokuyeka umntwana "kwimidlalo ye-freeming yasimahla"
Sivelisa imbeko
Njengommiselo, umzali ophethe umntwana kunye nemikhosi yabo kufutshane, nokuba sele emdala, engazivanga ukuba phambi kwakhe umntu ozimeleyo. Kumzali onjalo, umntwana wakhe, nokuba ngumntu omdala, usengumntwana ongasayi kusinda kweli lizwe, kwaye ke iminqweno ayinakuthathwa-iMinqweno ayinakwenziwa - utata / utata / utata ubonakala ngakumbi. Cinekelo lo ufakelo kuwo onke amakhosi. Ngaphandle kokuhloniphana, akunakwenzeka ukwakha ubudlelwane obungabizwa ngokuba sempilweni.
"Hayi" Ubuqhetseba
Rhoqo, ukuvelela okukhulu kuya kumanyathelo agqithisileyo- uqala ukuqhekeza, ngaloo ndlela batshabalalisa nayiphi na imizamo yomntwana ukuba ahambe emzimbeni. Umntwana okhulileyo uya kuba nzima ukulungelelanisa kwiimeko ezintsha ukuba umzali akakuvumeli ukuba "zama" eli lizwe. Wenza umntwana wakho kuphela, umnyanzela ukuba atsibe eli nqanaba libalulekileyo lokukhula.
Rekhoda uncedo lwengqondo xa ususa umntwana wakho
Uninzi lwabazali lufihla amanye amaxesha abalulekileyo ngokunxulumene nendawo yokuhlala nganye, ngethemba lokuba umntwana uya kuyonakalisa ubunzima kwaye uya kubuya kwangoko. Iingcali zengqondo zichasa isikhundla esinjalo, njengoko uxanduva lwabazali lukwayingcingo evela kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu ezinokuthi zenzeke nangomntu okhulileyo. Awudingi ukwakha imiqobo ngelo xesha ukwahlukana, uya kwenza mbi ngakumbi kukuzingca kwakho. Endaweni yoko, nikezela ngeentsuku ezimbalwa oya kuchitha kunye nomntwana wakho wabantu abadala kwaye uxoxe ngayo yonke "imingxunya" yendawo yokuhlala eyahlukileyo.