Hayi rhoqo ngababini kukho ubudlelwane besini sasimahla. Uninzi lunokuba neentloni ukuveza iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno yabo, nokuba lixesha elide kubudlelwane. Umntu omaqabane unokuthi azolile, uyanyamezela kwaye woyike ukuvuma ukuba angathanda ukutshintsha okanye ukwahlukahlukana. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ngokuchaseneyo, yenza ngathi, ukuba yonke into ilungile, nangona inyani inokwenzeka.
Ndiyakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba eyona ndlela ilula nesebenzayo yokuqhula kunye nenkululeko inokubizwa ngokuba "yileta yesini". Ukubhala umyalezo onjalo, esi sibini siza kugqithisela kwangoko kwinqanaba elitsha le-Alliance.
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Inyathelo 1. Thatha kwaye wenze
Musa ukuba livila, thatha umphatho kunye nephepha. Hlala etafileni kwaye ujonge. Akukho mfihlakalo yokuba kwihlabathi le-tekhnoloji yetekhnoloji ephezulu kakhulu kwaye ngaphantsi kokubhala esandleni. Iigajethi, iinombolo zefowuni, iitafile-imibhalo-ngqangi ishiywe ngasemvelaphi. Kodwa yintoni imfihlo yeleta ebhalwe ngesandla? Uyaphoswa ziimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngokuthe ngqo kwisandla. Ayimangalisi ke loo nto kukho amazwi malunga nokuthululwa komphefumlo kwincwadana enemihlahla. Imibhalo ebhaliweyo ihlala ingqine ngakumbi kunetekisi eprintiweyo. Fumana kwitshathi yakho eqinileyo ye-30-40 yexesha. Hlala, phumla, cinga ngeqabane lakho kunye neminqweno yakho malunga naye. Iingcinga ziyahamba ziye ephepheni.
Inyathelo 2. Incoko ngomzimba
Emva kokuba ufumene ixesha leeleta zakho ngokwesondo, yiya kwinqanaba elilandelayo. Apha uhleli kwaye ulungele ukubhala. Kodwa ukuqala, thetha nomzimba wakho, ngokuhlelelekileyo kwaye ngokungafihlisiyo. Mcele: "Umzimba wam othandekayo, yintoni engekhoyo kuwe ngoku? Yintoni endifuna ukuyifumana? Ulungele ntoni? Zeziphi iimvavanyo ezizayo? " Phumla kwaye uqale. Bhala, uphulaphule uphononongo lomzimba wakho. Mamela umnxeba wakhe. Khawufane ucinge, uphuphe, uyitshise kwaye uzame ukubamba impendulo. Mpela kuqala kunye nawe.
Zibhale ileta egameni lomzimba wakho
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Inyathelo 3. Musa ukuba neentloni
Ucinga ntoni, kutheni ndifuna ukukuxelela ngokuchanekileyo indlela "yeleta yesini"? Rhoqo, kunzima ngakumbi ukuchaza iimvakalelo neengcinga ngamazwi, ukujonga emehlweni eqabane. Yonke into iqala ukudideka entlokweni, into elilibale. Ingcinga entle, njengoko besitsho, izahlukana. Kodwa ngeleta, eyahlukileyo. Phambi kwakho kuphela kwephepha, kwaye akukho nto iphazamisekileyo! Nika intando yeemvakalelo kunye ne-fantasy. Vula ngokupheleleyo. Bhala yonke iminqweno yakho, iimvakalelo, iingcinga. Sixelele malunga nokuba zeziphi izinto ezimbi kwaye yintoni onqwenela ukuyenza ukuthanda neqabane lakho kwixesha elizayo. Ungavumeli imida kunye nezakhelo. Mhlawumbi woyika ukutsho okokuqala ukuba ungathanda ukuzama isini somzimba, okanye ukuphakamisa ngomlomo kwezi ndawo zikhethekileyo zomzimba wakho. Okanye mhlawumbi ufuna ukutshintsha igumbi lokulala ukuya kwindawo engaqhelekanga ngakumbi. Iqabane, emva kokufunda le leta, iya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba yintoni elungile, kwaye nokuba kubiza ntoni. Kwaye qiniseka ukuba ndikuxelele into engonelisekiyo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungaphazamisi nantoni na ngalo mzuzu. Nqamla ifowuni. Kwaye qiniseka ukuba uza kwabelana. Ukuba ubhale ileta yedwa, amandla akho angaphakathi uya kukhawulezisa ephepheni, kwaye iqabane liqinisekile ukuba liyaziva xa ufunda.