Kungabonakala ukuba abantu ababini bayathandana, yintoni abanokuthintela kunye? Eyona nto ibalulekileyo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kuyavela ukuba uxanduva alunakuthatha kuphela umfazi okanye umyeni wakhe, kodwa nabantwana babo baphume kwimitshato yokuqala. Kule mihla, le meko inokubizwa ngokuba yibanzi. Kwaye, ngethiyori, Akazange owoyikise mntu, kodwa ngokusuka kwindawo yokujonga ubunzima obuvela apha, emva koko. Kwaye ubunzima bobo bomi ayonakaliyo kuphela indoda nomfazi, bona, bakuqala kubo bonke, bavezwa ngabantwana: Bakhokelela ekuziqondini okungalunganga, baveza ubunzima, ukubathintela Ukuthabatha ukwakha ubudlelwane babo bobuqu kunye nabameli besini esahlukileyo kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, bangavumelani nabantwana, ngamanye amaxesha bayayeka ukuziva ngathi yimfuneko kwaye ubathandayo.
Njengomntu uphephe iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo kubudlelwane nomfazi osele unawo umntwana:
Nye. Awunguye. 1 kubudlelwane kunye nomntu obhinqileyo onomntwana kumtshato wokuqala. Kumfazi, "inani eliqhelekileyo" lihlala lihlala linjalo, linjalo ke imeko yakhe, iya kubakhusela ngenzondelelo amalungelo abantwana, ayinamsebenzi, ivela kuqala, nangona kunjalo, Ikhosi, kukho okwahlukileyo kulo mthetho).
2. Uthando lomntwana kufuneka lizuze! Musa ukucinga ukuba umntwana womfazi wakho uyakuhlonela i-Mericari. Uthando olungenamiqathango, ukuthembana kunye nentlonipho kuthathelwa ingqalelo kubazali babo, ubungqina bufunwa kumntu omtsha! Kuba uyindoda - wena namakhadi ezandleni zakho: bonisa into onokuyithemba.
3. Ukuba uyamthanda umfazi, zama ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nabantwana bakhe -Yiyimfuneko nje. QAPHELA INDLELA YOKUZIPHATHA, UMNQOLO OBALULEKILEYO kwiingxaki zabo kunye nenxaxheba encinci ebomini babo.
ezine. Abantwana banekhwele! Abantwana bangabanini abancinci: Abafuni ukuba babelane naye uthando lwabo naye nabani na. Le nyaniso ifanele yamkelwe njenge-Axiom engafuni bungqina.
Ntlanu. Ungaze ubeke umfazi wakho owuthandayo ngaphambi kokukhetha : "Nam, okanye umntwana wakho." Oku kungaphi na naliphi na icala akuyi kukhokelela kwinto elungileyo.
Ukuba umthanda ngokwenene umfazi, abantwana bakhe baya kuba ngabahlobo bakho, kwaye wena, ukuba uyazama, uya kuba ngumntu osondeleyo. Abantwana bacetywe: ukunyaniseka abazivayo emva kwemayile, bakulungele ukwamkela nayiphi na indoda entsha ukuba ilungele i-fessicaus yeyona misebenzi ihlekisayo kunye nezenzo zamadoda okwenyani. Bantwana, ngokungafaniyo nabantu abadala, jonga intliziyo.
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Unokwenza ntoni umfazi xa indoda emtsha ivela ebomini bakhe kunye nobomi bomntwana wakhe:
1. Khumbula ukuba Umyeni wakho kufuneka athandane kwaye ahloniphe . Ngamanye amaxesha ihamba ecaleni kwakhe, nokuba kubonakala ngathi uhlala ulungile.
2. Sukuphinda-phinda rhoqo : "Ngumntwana wam lo, ndiza kumphatha!" Ulwalamano olunjalo luyayicaphukisa indoda ukuba iphendule kube kanye ukuba iphendule kube kanye: "Umntwana wakho, uyazingca!"
3. Umyeni wakhe makathathe inxaxheba ekukhuliseni umntwana wakho . Njengommiselo, amadoda ahlala ebona imeko kancinane phantsi kwekona eyahlukileyo, ke, bayakwazi ukusombulula iingxaki ngezinye iindlela.
ezine. Khuthaza umntwana ngentlonipho yokunyanga oyikhethiweyo Ubuncinci kuba yindoda endala.
Ntlanu. Sukunyanzela umntwana ukuba abize umyeni wakho omtsha "utata" . Umntwana uyakwazi ukugqiba ukuba ngubani kwaye ngubani oza kubiza.
Ebomini, sihlala sizenza iimpazamo, kuba impazamo ezininzi zomtshato zangaphambili ziba. Kodwa abantwana bazalwa "ngo" umtshato ongaphumelelanga "ngabantwana bakho, ke, ukuba bangene kubudlelwane obutsha, qiniseka ukuba ukufutshane nomntu onokuthi ubambe abantwana bakho. Zama ukuba kwindawo yezopolitiko. Cinga ngamanyathelo akho, musa ukuzibophelela kwezo zinto ziza kuzisola, thanda bobabini abantwana nendoda yakhe. Hlalani nimamele abantwana bakho, musa ukuya kuye nabani na, ngenxa yokuba umqhubi weli nyustra elincinci elibizwa ngokuba "yintsapho".