-I-Olga Nikolaevna, zeziphi iingxaki eziza kuwe?
- Olu luhlu lwamadoda luya kubiza ngokuba yiMillenium "yeMillenium", njengoko beyihlula iwaka le-rallenium, besebancinci. Kwaye ngoku ngabantu abaneminyaka engama-20 ukuya kwengama-35 ubudala.
Ngokubanzi, konke ukungqubana kwezindlu zabo kunokuncitshiswa ukuya kumaxesha amathathu, owokuqala lulwalamano nabasetyhini, okwesibini ngumfanekiso wendlela yabo ebomini, kunye neempawu zesithathu ye-neurosis eyomeleleyo kakhulu. Isiphumo-basishiya ubuso eludongeni kwaye bengahambi ndawo.
- Kaninzi?
-Ndikhetha eyona miba iphambili. Kukuphulukana nentsingiselo yobomi, ukuphulukana nomnqweno, ukulahleka kwentando, kunye nePhobias kunye neengcinga ezigwenxa. Nantsi iseti esekwe apho bahlala khona namhlanje.
Kodwa le ayisiyongxaki iphambili. Iziphumo ezifunyenwe kuphando zithi namhlanje sisizukulwane sabantu, sichaphazela ingxaki yesarcissive.
Hit! Ingxaki ye-Misciscis ukuba uninzi lwengqondo luthetha, phakathi kolutsha lwangoku, izihlandlo ezithathu ngaphezulu kwesinye sesizukulwane sabantu abadala. Amanani abonisa ukuba abafundi bahlolwe ngo-2009 bangamanqabelo ngaphezulu kwe-50% xa kuthelekiswa nabafundi bango-1982. Zonke ezinye iingxaki zengqondo ezidweliswe apha ngasentla ziyinto yesizukulwane sobume bezinto ezandayo kwi-narcissism yomntu.
- Indoda entle, iyazincoma - Ngaba kubi?
- Kubonakala kuphela ukuba le yi-disnosis engenabungozi. Imigidina ixakeke ngobuqaqawuli, kwaye oku kukhokelela kwinto yokuba abafuni ukusebenza konke konke, nto leyo engenatyala. Uninzi lwazo luzibona ngobuhlungu iindidi zabo, zikulungele nokuba ngumncedisi womntu owaziwayo, kuphela ukuze uqatshelwe. Alithandabuzi malunga nokuzibonakalisa, baqinisekile ngokuzithandela kwabo. Zihlala zixakeke zibonisa izikhombisi zazo, impumelelo yabo, kwaye kungenxa yokuba, ukuba ngabantwana, bafumana isimo esikhulu sezinto, ulwazi lokufunda nokubhala, amabhaso. Abazali kunye nesikolo khange badale iimeko zemeko, bongeza ubunzima obuyimfuneko njenge-injini yenkuthazo yomntu. I-Millenialys ivila kakhulu kwaye idlula, kuba izizathu zokuphunyezwa kwelona nqanaba liphantsi.
Inxalenye yenxalenye ivela kwinto yokuba abaninzi ukusukela ebuntwaneni benkosi kubazali sele yonke into. Yintoni onokuzabalazela?
Iminyaka engamawaka eminyaka ihleli ngokwazo nakwisizukulwana sabo, i-withmalinational, kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba banobuthathaka benkcubeko kunye nesizukulwane sabo selizwe. Kodwa zifana kakhulu phakathi kwabo, ukuhlala kumazwe ahlukeneyo. Ukongeza kwizinto ezidwelisiweyo, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba abameli besi sizukulwana seMillenium banokuba noxanduva kwaye bakuphephe ngokulula kwaye ngaphandle kokucinga. Azikho rhabaxa, banomnqweno ophuhliswe kakhulu kwizikimu ezigqityiweyo, imiyalelo, iingcebiso. Iminyaka engamawaka ayithandi ukwenza izigqibo, kodwa ngokubanzi baneempawu ezininzi ezintle nezilungileyo.
- Emva kokuba kudweliswe apha ngasentla, baneempawu ezintle?
-IMillenialys ibizwa ngokuba sisizukulwana sokuqala esingakhiyo esixhasa ubuhlobo obusebenzayo nabazali babo, abangafuni ukwahlukana nabo. Ngalo lonke ixesha sixhomekeke kuTata noomama. Abangonwabisiyo, balumkeke kakhulu, iikhilomitha, ukubetha, abanazo iingxaki, ziphawulwa ngumnqweno ophezulu wokuthuthuzelwa nobomi bobomi nokhuseleko.
-Umbuzo mnye kuphela. Ngaba ibhinqa eliselula lanamhlanje lifanele indoda eneempawu ezinje ukudala usapho?
-Ubomi bomfana wanamhlanje uyaphuma kumnqweno wokufumana ulonwabo. Ziyimidlalo yokwenyani, njengemidlalo eyahlukeneyo kwaye ithanda ukuyidlala. Ngobuchule, kodwa, njengabuntwana, imidlalo ifanele ukuba ilungelelanise, evelisa yonke imizi-mveliso yoShishino.
Isondo ikwaba yimidlalo yabo eyahlukeneyo, yiprint entle ngaphandle kwemiphumo, loluphi unyango olunenyameko. Ngokunyaniseka bavakalisa ukuba bafuna ukuba nosapho, abantwana, kodwa abakhange bathathe inyathelo elinye eliphelelwe li phupha. Isiqubulo seMilleniav: "Kutheni le nto namhlanje onokuyenza ngosuku!"
-Ukuba bayabalazela ukonwaba, basebenza njani ngelo xesha? Yintoni ekhethileyo?
- Nawuphi na umsebenzi kufuneka udlule kwaye ubahlangule. Bazixabisa kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo: "Ndihlala eJamaica, ndiye kwi-t-shirt ebomvu. Ukuphumla kunye nokuthimba ilanga- Umsebenzi wam! Amadoda ale mihla ahamba kakhulu, ayokhangela ngokwabo, awazisa ngovuyo umhlaba ngoncedo lwenethiwekhi yentlalo yabo emzimbeni nasekulungelelanisweni ngokomoya. Zonke ezi zinto kufuneka zigcine unxibelelwano nazo kwaye ziphendule kwindalo esondeleyo, ikakhulu irejista yokuthandwayo aziyifunayo ngenxa yobubi kunye neengxaki zokucingisisa.
Ke ngoko, umfana ubalekela ekukhanyeni kwesandla esiphelweni sakhe, esinyathela esiya kuye.
Kwaye umbono wakhe ngokwakhe uthatyathelwe indawo yezabelo ze-PR yezakhe kwaye iimpendulo ezibhaliweyo kwi-Intanethi.
Uninzi lwabo lunomdla kuyo nayiphi na ingcaciso ekufuphi, ethandwayo, ethandwayo, kuba isemazantsi omphefumlo abonakala ngathi ayiqondakaliyo kwaye ingaqondakali kangako njengomntwana omncinci onabasebenzi abazifundiswa zizibonelelo.
Abafana bathanda zonke iintlobo "zezinto ezipholileyo", "Nyashki", "Nyashnyhh" lilizwe lezinto ezithenjiweyo kumazwe akude athengwayo ngokuzonwabisa ngokwesondo.
Ngokubanzi, babangela uvelwano olunjalo kwaye bajongeka ngathi abakaze babe nalo naluphi na ubuqhetseba, ubunzima, iingxaki. Ngale nto intle, bajonga kakhulu.
Ngaba le yingxaki yoluntu lwanamhlanje, ngaba ikhona indlela yokuphuma kwemeko yangoku okanye ngaba sisiphelo esifileyo?
-Ilungisa iingxaki zesizukulwana esikhoyo kwingqondo yehlabathi kunzima ukuba singatsho ukuba ayinakwenzeka. Nditsho neengcali zengqondo ngoku sele zilayishwe emqaleni nabantwana abanikwa abazali ngelinye inzame enye ngenye indlela yokuba bangafuni ukuba bafundile iinethiwekhi zentlalo. Ngokubanzi, kunqabile ukuba kufezekiswe iziphumo ezilungileyo, kuba i-Milleniria ibambekile onamandla kutshintsho kwaye uzisebenzele ngokwazo. Aba bantwana abaziboni iingxaki zabo, zilungile kwaye kunjalo, kwaye eyona nto ibalulekileyo enokwenziwa kukuzishiya zodwa.
Eyona ndlela yokuphuma kule vallock kukunyamekela inkcubeko yokukhulisa abantwana, apho abantu abadala mabangayime kumzamo wokunika abantwana bawo kubabini - ngokucacileyo, lo mdala wayedume kakhulu. Uthando oluncinci lubi, kodwa kakhulu ayilunganga. Kuthando lwabazali, izinto kufuneka zibekhona, zijolise ekuhlakuleleni inkululeko, inkululeko kunye nenkululeko yomntwana omncinci. Akufanelanga ukuba athathelwe ingqalelo ukuba ukuqhubela komzali, malunga naloo mzali wazi ngaphezu kwalo mntwana ngokwakhe. Oku kufumanisa umntwana wemvakalelo yemvakalelo yalo eyodwa. Kwaye kule meko, iya kuba luncedo kakhulu ngexesha lokwahlula abantwana abazizimeleyo. Xa bejongana neengxaki xa bephila, abayi kuba nolunye ukhetho, indlela yokulwa nomlo wokusinda kwabo. La ngamanyathelo anyanzelisiweyo, kodwa le yindlela yokuphuma kule meko.