Akunjalo kuba iphosakele malunga nephupha kunye nomnqweno. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba kukho iinjongo ezizimisele, njengokuba ehlekisayo: "Indoda egqibeleleyo ayiseli, ayitshayi, ayitshintshi kwaye ayikho." Ukusukela okona kulungileyo yenye yeendlela ezininzi zokukhanyela inyani njengoko injalo. Kuhle ukuphupha ngale nto, funda i-fale ngamaphupha anokugcwalisa kwaye uphilisa. Kodwa hlala, ukukhangela abantu abafanelekileyo kunye neemeko zekhonkrithi-ngumthwalo onzima, ngaphandle kokukhululeka kunye nokuncipha kwemibono.
Cinga ngomzekelo wephupha leqhawe elinye:
"Ndisuka kwimohamba yendlu yakho ndinendoda entle. Kwimbono yam-inkalipho, iqine, nje kwaye inxibe kakuhle. Ndiyazi ukuba ndicwangcise ukuhamba naye. Nangona kunjalo, okwangoku ndiziva ndidiniwe kwaye ndifuna ukulala. Ndihamba ndicinge ngento eneentloni zokuxelela umntu ukuba nditshintshe ingqondo kwaye ndifuna ukulala - ndathembisa! Kodwa ndithatha isigqibo kwaye nditsho njalo ngoku ndifuna ukuphumla. Kwaye malunga nommangaliso! Indoda ithi: "Ewe, ngoku uthunyelwe ekhaya. Ndiza kuhlala kufutshane." Ndihlala ndifumana isizathu esitsha sokuzila. "Owu, nonyana wam ulele ngoku. Ke uya kuvuka aze akubone. "Oko ndikufumanayo:" Endikufumanayo: "Siya kufumana ulwimi olukhoyo." Andinangxaki. "Sele ukhethe indlela yokuhamba?" Ndiphendule: "Owu, andikhathali. Uyakhetha'. Kwaye okwangoku ndizixelele: "Mamela, lo ngumdlalo wakho wakudala - ukuqwemba iminqweno yakho. Uya kukubuza ngexesha, babini baya kubuza, baze bayeke, akusekho impendulo. Kwaye ke ukhubekile ukuba bayakuhoya. Uwutshabalalisile umtshato wakho. Yima ke "Ingoma" ngoku. Ndikhumbula ukuba kukho iindlela ezimbini endifuna ukuhamba ngazo ndizivakalise. Indoda ithi: "Kulungile! Ngelixa uza kuphumla, ndicinga indlela yethu. Ndiyekile ukuqubuda ngehlazo, kulula.
Ewe, ukulala okumnandi ngefuthe lokuphumla. Ngoku makhe sithethe malunga necala elinentsingiselo. Le ndoda ivela ngaphambi kokuba intsha yomsebenzi ofanelekileyo, ithathela ingqalelo umnqweno wakhe, uphendula incoko yakhe kunye naye. Kulula ukuyenza, ukuba ngumntu wokulala. Ndingazama ukuba yindoda yokwenene kunye neencoko zam ukuba zinobuthathaka kwaye zinikela ingqalelo ixesha elide kunenyanga "yenyanga".
Umntu wokwenene uza kwenza isenzo sakhe kunye naye, kunqabile nokuba sisixhobo esinye nebhinqa elinayo le ndoda, ngempazamo ukuba ilunge!
Amaphupha afanayo amaphupha angeyondoda, kodwa malunga nenani elifanelekileyo eligqibeleleyo, elihlala liyindoda konke konke, kodwa mama. Kwaye ngoncedo lwendoda, ufuna ukuzisa into kubomi bakhe, yintoni ephosakeleyo noMama: imvakalelo, ebangela ukubangela, inkxaso kunyulo, inkxaso oyenzayo.
Njengomntu owayehlonelwayo wabhala: "Ibhinqa lizama ngoncedo lwendoda ukuba ivale umngxunya emphefumlweni, owenziwa ngunina, kodwa ayinakukwazi ukuyifumana."
Ngamanye amagama, iphupha lendoda efanelekileyo liphupha elithengisayo lomna ophuculweyo, uMama, owoyileyo.
Ukunyaniseka ukuba ubheke kubudlelwane xa enye ingenguye uluhlu olugqibeleleyo "lwenqindi", kodwa ngumntu nje
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Ukufunda le migca, umfundi ongenakutshiwo unokutsalwa aze athi: "Enjani yona into engento! Andiphuphi ngomama, ndilungile nomama, ndiyamncoma ngeholide kwaye ndincedise kwi-cottage! Umama akananto yakwenza nayo! "
Nangona kunjalo, malunga nendlela esakha wakhangelene ngayo, akukho namnye wabhalwa ngenkulungwane, eqala ngoFreud kunye nabalandeli bayo, umzekelo, uMelanie Klein.
Ukusondelelana, ukukwazi ukwenza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, inento ethethayo "ye-latin echazayo" - umama ngaphakathi kwam. Ukusondelana kukuphazamiseka kunye nokhathalelo, okuthile kuthi ubanjiwe ngexesha lokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane nomama okanye umzobo, endaweni yakhe. Ngokungazi siya kongeza olona lwalamano lusondeleyo, uthando oluye lwafunda kumaxesha okuqala bobukho babo.
Ke ngoko, sicebisa abafuna iqabane elifanelekileyo ukuze enze nzulu kumbuzo wokuba ngubani na utitshala wobuso bakho. Kutheni ndidinga iqabane elibambe iminqweno yam ngomphefumlo? Ngamanye amaxesha akukho mfuneko yokuba uyisebenzise le, ukusebenzisa indoda. Kuya kuba kunyaniseke kakhulu ukuba ungene kubudlelwane xa omnye engenguye uluhlu olugqibeleleyo "ofanelekileyo", kodwa ngumntu nje.
Sinqwenela amaphupha ethu ukufumana isigqibo esifanelekileyo kwesi sihloko.
Ndiyazibuza ukuba uphupha ntoni? Imizekelo yamaphupha akho ethunyelwa ngeposi: inforhit.ru. Indlela, amaphupha alula kakhulu ukubhala phantsi ukuba uza kubhala phantsi ukuba uza kubhalwa khona ukuba uza kubhala phantsi ukuba uvule kweli phupha.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin