Emva kweziganeko ezibuhlungu, sinokuphila, ngokungathi akukho nto yenzekileyo. Sibuyiselwe emva kokuthatha inxaxheba, ukwahlukana, emva kweziganeko zentlekele. Ngeefom-njengoko kwenzeka nto. Kodwa amava ethu angayi ndawo. Ubungqina besithi-amaphupha ethu.
Nanku umzekelo wabafundi bethu abaqhelekileyo:
"Kwisikweri seSixeko, apho bendihlala khona ukuya kwiminyaka eli-15 ukuya kwengama-20, kufutshane nendlu yenkcubeko, apho ndabaleka ndaya kwi-disco, ndabeka inkwenkwe, apho indukuba. Ndidinga ukuya kwi-disco. Kwaye andikwazanga ukudlula kule ndoda. Bendisoyika.
Ingcinga yokuqala ephupheni ukuba le ngutata wam ulele endleleni enxilayo, njengoko kwakunjalo xa ndibuyela ekhaya. Kwakuneentloni kakhulu kwaye kubi, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba ungadlula. "
Eli phupha lalidlalwa phambi kwethu le ndoda yakhe yehlazo lehlazo, xa imbone eyakhe inotata onxilayo nongenakunyamezelwa.
Kumntwana kunye nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo, bona umzali wabo ngesigulana, benxila, bengakwazi ukuhlala kubomi obuqhelekileyo - ukubetha kakhulu. Umfanekiso kaBawo wethu othembeka, ukhuseleko, inkxaso kweli lizwe. Abantwana benxila bakhula bexhala olukhulu kangangokuba umhlaba uyingozi, ungathembekanga, ungalindelekanga. Bayaba mfutshane, baqine ukuba balawule izithandwa zabo ukuba bangakhathazeki malunga nehlazo kunye neziphithiphithi kwakufuneka zikhule kuzo.
Ngendlela, malunga nehlazo. Abantwana benxila bakhula benemvakalelo engacacanga yehlazo kunye netyala ukuba banobangela wokuginya nokunxila kwabazali babo. Le mvakalelo ivumela ubomi babo kwaye ikhule kwikona efihliweyo yomphefumlo. Rhoqo ukujamelana nala mava, ukuba namandla otywala abakhulileyo abantwana baphule iifomu ezingaqhelekanga nabanye: qhubeka umgama ophezulu, thintela ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Okanye, ngokuchasene noko, icima ngokupheleleyo iminqweno kwaye kufuneka isuke. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuphepha ukutshabalalisa ihlazo kunye nokuthotywa.
Ngokwenyani, iphupha lamaphupha ethu. Umfanekiso wenkwenkwe yebhere ayiyomfanekiso wakhe ngumfanekiso wotata osele unxile, lowo wabona phakathi kwesikwere, oko kukufanelekileyo. Kuyingozi kuye, isongela ukothuka kunye nehlazo elibi.
Amava akhe eminyaka edlulileyo awayeki naphi na, ayaqhubeka ngamaphupha ukunkqonkqoza kumaphupha ethu. Kuyabonakala ukuba, ngoku uvuthile ngokwaneleyo kwaye ubotshelelwe ukuba uhlangane nezi mvakalelo uze usinde, ungazami ukulibala, sharkete okanye umonakalo ongaphantsi.
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UMaria Zmvuskova, ugqirha wengqondo, ugqirha wonyango losapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqesho loQeqesho loQeqeshe leMarika Khazina