Iinkcukacha-manani zoqhawulo-mtshato ziyakhula ngokulinganayo. Ukuba amashumi eminyaka eyadlulayo, yayilinyathelo elikhulu, elalixelelwa malunga "nethemba" losapho, apho ixesha elide alinakuthatha isigqibo malunga nokujonga izinto ezibonakalayo, ngoku imeko yemeko yentlalo iguquka. Abafazi abafumani madoda amahlakani abuyela kubasebenzi abancedisayo boongikazi. Musa ukuba kunye ngenxa yabantwana, imali ayikabi yiglue yolwalamano. Ngaba loo mboleko ... iimeko zasekhaya nezentlalo zihlala zifana, ngaphandle komtshato wena okanye uqhawule umtshato.
Uqhawulo-mtshato luyanciphe, lungabonakala, kwaba lula. Kodwa yayingekho. Usapho kukuba, owona mthombo wamava: Indawo yokuhlala ehlala idibeneyo, eyoyisa iingxaki, iingxaki kwaye ikhule, ngamanye amaxesha, nokusinda. Akunjalo, nikezela nje iqabane elihamba ecaleni kwakho ngendlela efanayo. Ngakumbi xa kukho ubudlelwane. Kwaye badlula ngaphaya kokusebenza kwentlalo okanye ukuba ngumzali.
Ndiza kunika umzekelo wokukhangelwa kwangaphakathi amaphupha ethu. Ukusuka kumaphupha enye yenkalo yobomi bakhe iyaqondakala, kodwa iseyibhayirugrafi emfutshane. Uneminyaka engama-40 ubudala, kudala watshata, kukho umntwana. Ngoku uye wafunda kwi-psychologist. Kwaye kwiinyanga ezininzi ukhenketho ekukhangele impendulo: ukuba uhlala nendoda yakhe. Kwaye, ukuba akusenokwenzeka njani. Kwaye ukuba awuhlali, unganjani?
Nazi ukulala oku-2 ngoohluko ngeveki. Imiyalezo yabo kwaye ipeyinta i-contoours eziphambili yengxaki yakhe.
1. "Ndikhetha indlu entsha ndihambe notata, ndijonga. Kwindawo engaqhelekanga ngokupheleleyo, indawo enkulu kunye neyelelo eliphakamileyo eliphezulu likhulu. Inesiqingatha se-od Ndijonge kwaye ndicinga ukuba ukuba akukho babemi bodonga kwindawo engachanekanga, emva koko nayiphi na inqatyisiwe inqaba. Yoyikisa njalo. Le yeyona phobia yam. Ukuba isilizi sinokuwa.
Lo mxholo ubonakalisa igumbi, kwaye umntu othile wesiqingatha sonyaka wayehlala kuwo, kunye nekati. Ndicaphukisa kakhulu ukuba, njengoko unakho, umyeni wam une-allergies, akufuneki ukuba kubekho iikati, kwaye ngokubanzi andikayiqwalaseli ukhetho umntu awayehlala nalo kwigumbi elinye. Ndikhonza kuphela indawo yokuhlala entsha.
Ndicinga ukuba ndihlambe indoda yam ukuba ihlazeke. Kutheni ndikhetha indlu yokuqeqesha? "
2 "Ndifike kwiqela lonyango, sinento eninzi, iholo yonke, umntu 30. Utitshala uthetha ngothando. Uthi bonke, ngento oyiyo entsatsheni, uyakuhlanganiswa neqela. Ziingxaki zakho, apha, apha, kwiqela ziya kufumaneka. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba kukho iingxaki kusapho, ke kwiqela, mhlawumbi umntu uza kudlula umntu nomntu. Uthi, Ewe, uya kuwa eluthandweni, kunye nebhabhathane esiswini, nayo yonke loo nto. Sihlala, mamela. Kwaye intombazana imibuzo enye ibuza, ithatha inxaxheba ngenkuthalo, izimvo. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi ayikho kwiqela njengombonisi. Into utsho kwaye ithe yazisa ukuba uneminyaka engama-25 ubudala. Kwaye ndimjongele umntu ofunda naye. Kwaye sithetha naye ngelizwi elinye: "Kwaye kubonakala ngathi wonke amashumi amane. Yintoni i-25 ". Ndiyaqonda ukuba le yi-25 25 entliziyweni yam, kwaye ngaphandle kwawo amashumi amane. Kunye nebhabhathane, kunjalo, ndifuna ukuwa eluthandweni. "
Ewe, nantsi intetho yengxabano. Kwelinye icala, kwiphupha lokuqala, amaphupha ethu abona indlela "izakhiwo ezitsha" ezinokuwa ngayo. Bonke bakubo kwaye bathembekile. Kwaye ndihlala umntu. Ikhaya elitsha, oko kukuthi, ubomi obutsha, obusesengumhlomesi kakhulu. Ukongeza, iphupha uthi: "Hayi, ndinomxholo wokuphila nomyeni wam, kunye nabalingane bakhe kwiikati. Kwaye akukho uqhawulo mtshato.
Iphupha lesibini libonisa elinye icala lembasa. Yiwa eluthandweni lokuzixelela: "Ndiphinda ndineminyaka engama-25, ndisemncinci, bayandithanda, khetha, thanda. Ndinayo yonke le nto iphindaphindiweyo. Andifuni ukuchukumisa inyani yokuba ndineminyaka engama-40, kuya kubakho ke i-45-50. " Ukuba inkanuko sele inolunye uhlobo iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokubaleka kukukhula kwabo azisafuneki.
Kwelinye icala, ephupheni, linika imvume yokuzama zonke iindlela zamava. Ngapha koko, ukuba uza kuthetha nabo: "Hayi-hayi, kodwa nditshatile! Awunakho ukuwa luthando! "Impembelelo iya kubuya, kwaqiniswa. Ngendlela, ibona eli phulo malunga neqela, oko kukuthi, yazi ukuba le ngxaki ikwahlukile, inye kuphela ayinikiweyo.
Kwelinye icala, ayizizo zonke iinkanuko zobomi ezinokubonwa ngengqekembe ecocekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha yi-hoax kuphela, inkohliso yokugubungela izihloko ezinzima ngakumbi. Ezinje, njengeyona ngxaki idumileyo iminyaka engama-40. Ndineminyaka yobudala. Ukwazi ukuba amandla amancinci ayenokungasebenzi. Ngoku ufumana ngakumbi, kunentsingiselo ngakumbi, kodwa izibophelelo ezahlukeneyo ezahlukileyo. Kwaye akusekho ukunqanda kakhulu, ukupheliswa kobuhle bendalo, impilo, ulutsha. Ngoku yonke le nto iya kuba sisiphumo sokuxhalaba ngawe, umsebenzi kunye nedipozithi.
Amaphupha amahle, abonisa amandla amaphupha ethu. Ewe, akukho mntu unokumxelela ukuba unganjani. Ukusonjululwa kwalo mjikelezo emva kwayo, kwaye, kubonakala ngathi, wazingqonga iqela eligunyazisiweyo lendlela.
Kwaye ngawaphi amaphupha akho?
Imizekelo yamaphupha akho ethunyelwa ngeposi: [email protected]. Ngendlela, amaphupha kulula kakhulu ukuveza ukuba kwileta eya kumhleli uya kubhala iimeko ezingaphambili zobomi, kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu - iimvakalelo kunye neengcinga zelixesha lokuvuka kweli phupha.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin