Kwimilongiso yam, ndihlala ndifumana ukungazithembi kum kunye nokungakwazi ukuvavanya ngokwaneleyo. Ngapha koko, ukubaluleka kwezi ngxaki azijongwa. Umntu uza athi: "Bandakanya" ukuzithemba, "kuphakamisa" ukuzithemba. Ngaba kunokwenzeka, zonke iingxaki zisonjululwe. Iingcambu zeengxaki zokuzithemba zinzulu kakhulu kwaye zisebenza nabo ngokucwangciswa.
Ingqondo
Ukuzithemba okungachanekanga kuvela kwinkqubo yexabiso engalunganga. Kwaye inkqubo engalunganga ivela kwindawo engathandekiyo yobudala bokwenyani kunye nengqondo. Khohlwa malunga neenombolo kwiPasipoti, nokuba kubudala, abantu bayakwazi ukuhlala kwinqanaba lokuphuhlisa isikolo. Iminyaka emininzi yengqondo ibalulekile - isiphumo asizizo iinkqubo zokwaluphala, kodwa indinyana yobuntu beenkqubo ezithile zokukhula. Xa umntu ezelwe, kufuneka afunde ukuba ngumzimba wakhe, emva koko ufunda ukulawula iimvakalelo, umntu okwishumi elivisayo utyhola ulwazi kwaye ufunda ukuhlala eluntwini, njl njl. Izigaba zokuqala ziphantse zonke, Kodwa emva koko ukusilela kusenzeka. Ngenxa yoko, umntu mdala ngokusesikweni, kodwa akakulungelanga ubomi babantu abadala, kwaye ke ngoko akukho nto yenzekayo.
Kwindawo yasemva kweSoviet, uninzi lwabantu lubambekile kwinqanaba lomntwana okwishumi elivisayo, kwaye le yintlekele. Yintoni umntu okwishumi elivisayo? Umntu oxhomekeke kumbono womnye umntu, elungele ukukhwela ngaphandle kolusu ukuze avunywe ngomnye umntu. Kweli nqanaba lokuvuthwa komntu, umthetho wokuziphatha (ngokwe-kant) awukabunjwe, ithatha indawo yokukhangela igunya langaphandle kunye nokungabikho koluvo lwakhe ngemicimbi emininzi. Apha unengxaki zokuzithemba, kunye nokungaqiniseki okungapheliyo.
Ekuphela kwendlela yokukhula. Ungafundanga malini i-mantra phambi kwesipili, ukuzithemba kokwenyani kuqala kwinqanaba lomntu omdala. Mdala-le yile nto ndiyifundisayo abo babuyela kum.
1. Ungavumeli intando yemvakalelo.
2. Khuthaza iziphumo zezenzo.
3. Cebisa ngexesha elizayo nekamva, hayi kwixesha elidlulileyo.
4. Qwalasela ibhalansi phakathi kweembophelelo zentlalo kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo.
5. Chaza ukuqonda kwakho "okubi" kunye "okuhle", ungayikhathaleli ukugxekwa kwabantu ngezimvo malunga nokubi nokubi.
Sukuzikhulula
Kweminye imiba, ingqondo yethu lolona tshaba lokwenene. Ibhunga "alizinqabi" ndilinikele kwintshukumo yam, mhlawumbi, amaxesha asisigidi. Xa siziphazamisa, sihlala singekakhi kwaye siphangwe kwimicimbi esele yenzekile ayinakutshintshwa. Sijija la maphepha ezihlazo entloko kwaye sisohlwaye ngenxa yokuba ayinakukwazi ukutshintsha. Ewe kunjalo, ukungazithembi kum, ukungazithembi kunye nentetho. Weminyaka imashumi mabini eyadlulayo, ndatya i-Babushkino Jam kwaye yalahlwa kwikati! Oh hayi hayi! Ngokuqinisekileyo, umntu ombi onjalo akakufanelekeli ukuhlawula umvuzo, akukho nto ithethwayo kuyo umphathi.
Ukuzithemba kuya kuza xa ukhumbula ukuba ixesha elidlulileyo alikho. Idluliselwe ngaphambili. Kukho kuphela inyani, efuna ukuqwalaselwa okuphezulu kunye noxinzelelo. Ke ngoko:
1. Ukukhwaza ukuyeka.
Ndikhumbula iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo ngenjongo yokuhlalutya kwaye ndingaphinde.
Funda ukuthi "hayi"
"Hayi" - olona phawu lubalaseleyo kwiLexicon yethu. Aba banobumba bathathu baya kukukhusela kwi-mansipulators ehlala ikhupha izicelo zakho zokucombulula zonke-zonke iingxaki zabo. Kutheni kubalulekile? Kuba xa usenza ishishini le-wivilator yakho, ishishini lakho alisebenzi. Yiyo loo nto ukungoneliseki kubo. Kwaye uyala ukoyikisa, kuba uya kucinga kakubi ngelo xesha - kwaye umntu wesigaba sengqondo womntwana ofikisayo ubaluleke kakhulu uluvo lwabanye! Ngoku uyasiqonda isizathu sokuba siqale ngengxoxo yengqondo yobudala bokomoya?
Ukuba olu lwazi luntathu lomlingo lunikwa wena nobunzima, funda le:
1. Qonda ukuba ukwala ukwala akukwenzi umntu ombi.
2. Qaphela: Ukusilela akuthethi ukuba umphatha kakubi umntu. Othe wathetha ngokuchaseneyo - ukuba i-wipilator.
3. Ekuqaleni, faka isilinganiselo-10 "Hayi" ngosuku. Unokwala amaxesha alishumi ngayo nasiphi na isizathu - intle kakhulu! Ukuba kunzima, ubuncinci izihlandlo ezihlanu.
4. Ukuba awukwazi ukufumana amandla okwala, zibuze xa uqala ukuba ucele uncedo kulomntu kwaye wafumana olu ncedo. Ukhunjulwa-uncedo. Kwaye kumatyala asithoba kwaba balishumi enesazela esicocekileyo, xelela i-manipure "hayi".
Kwesi sithathu, owesine, intelekelelo: umnqweno. Ukuba ukwinqanaba lokuphuhlisa "lokufikisa", ukukhula ngakumbi, kuya kufuneka wenze iinzame ezinkulu kwaye usoloko ubeka esweni izizathu zakho. Kuya kufuneka ube yi-baron munchhausen, owakhuphayo kwi-marsh yepigtail. Kubomi bokwenyani, iqhinga elinjalo aliyi kuvumela ukuguqula i-physics, kodwa kwi-psychology, inkuthazo ephezulu isebenza ngemimangaliso. Sebenza ngokwakho, unganikezeli, kunye nobuqobo bokuvuthwa kunye nokuzithemba.