Izazinzulu zaseMelika zazicinga ukuba kutheni abantu kwelinye icala balinde ukwamkelwa kuthando kwiqabane labo, kwelinye icala bayoyika. Ukuya kwinyani yokuba amagama malunga neemvakalelo ezithobileyo kunokubangela i-hysterics okanye ingqumbo ebantwini.
Abameli boMbutho weGlendon yaseMelika, efunda ngokufunda i-psychology ye-Psychology, eqhuba wonke umjikelo wokufunda.
Into yokuqala abaye bakwazile ukufumana ukuba izifundo azisoloko ziqaphela ukuziphendulela ngokungalunganga kwimbonakalo yothando kwidilesi yabo. Ngaphezu koko, bona ngokwabo abanakuyichaza i-sub yokuqhutywa kweemvakalelo. Kubonakala ngathi, ngokuchasene noko, babelinde la mazwi kwintanda yabo.
Izazinzulu zagqiba kwelokuba le yinkqubo yokwazisa. Ukwamkelwa kukuthanda abantu ngandlela ngandlela thile, kutshintsha ubomi babo, oko kukuthi, ibonisa indawo eqhelekileyo yentuthuzelo. Ngumzuzu obangela ukucaphuka.
Indoda eyakhe yanamava angaphumelelanga: Uthando olungafanelekanga, ukungcatsha, uqhawulo-mtshato, alufuni ukuphindaphinda. Ingqondo igcina inkumbulo: "Ngaphantsi kweemeko ezinjalo, kwakubuhlungu." Kwaye umntu ngokuqatha uqala ukuzikhusela ekusondeleleneni ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuncamathisela, ukuzama ukuthabatha umhlala phantsi kwiqabane lakhe.