Ingqondo yengqondo yeyona ndlela ixhaphakileyo yokunxibelelana. Kwiintsapho apho basilelayo ukwakha ubudlelwane bonxibelelwano ngqo (andifuni-funa, nceda), ndicela ukuba ndithobele, ndibumbelele, ndichuma. Uhlobo olufanayo lonxibelelwano luhlala lulandelwa kulwalamano lwabantwana abadala nabazali. Kwaye, kunjalo, kubangela iingxaki.
Rhoqo siphawula indlela yokunxibelelana yabazali nabantwana babo abadala, njenge-blackmail. "Ukuba awenzi, awuyi kubuya ngexesha, awuyi kuyaphula le ntombazana - ndiza kuba nesifo sentliziyo, uxinzelelo luya kutsiba." Kwaye ukutsiba nje, kwaye uhlaselo lwenzeka. Okanye ukhathalele ukuthuka: "Akukho namnye uqondayo, njengoko ndiziva ndibi, ndizimangalisiwe onke la mazwi,", "ndenze kakhulu kuwe, kwaye ...
Imvakalelo yokuziva unetyala yeyona ndlela iqinisekileyo yokwenza umntwana umntu omdala yintoni efunekayo ngumzali wakhe. "Ndikunike, obo babuhlungu kakhulu, ubusifa rhoqo, ngenxa yokuba ungakhange uye emsebenzini, andizange nditshatele ngenxa yakho, ndibeka ubomi bam bonke ... .. kwaye ke loluhlu, into ongayenzi umama okanye utata wakho. Ukuvalwa kwevaliwe, cwaka kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kujonge kuwe ngereyithi yeduli. Okanye ayijongi ecaleni kwakho konke konke, eqondwa kakhulu ngabantwana, nokuba kudala badala.
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Ukugxeka rhoqo kuba abantwana beve kwidilesi yabo, kwaye nomnqweno wokufumana uthando lwabazali kuqala ukwenza yonke into okanye uninzi lwezinto afuna umdala. Ukwamkelwa "Abantwana abalungileyo baneleyo" banokuviwe kwiintsapho. Nantoni na oyenzayo, uya kuhlala ubi, kodwa umntu ulungile: ummelwane, umntakwabo, umntakwabo.
Wonke umntu uyayiqonda indlela yokusebenza, kodwa imithombo yangaphakathi kunye nokunyaniseka ilahlekile kunye nabo ukuze angavumi ukuba ubuncinci. Abantwana abadala abaxhaphaza abazali bayazisola kakhulu 'kubantu abadala. " Bayakukhumbula ukuba lingakanani ixesha abalilungelo ukuba bakhule aba bantu ukuba bakhule, banike imfundo, indawo encama izilangazelelo zabo. Rhoqo, olu qaphela luyeza xa abantwana babo bazalwa, ke bakulungele ukunikezela ekuziphatheni kwabo abazali babo abalupheleyo. Kwenzeka ukuba abantwana abadala babonakala ngathi bafezekile ngabazali babo, benza yonke into kangangokuba yena, umntwana, wayenoyolo, kungenxa yoko le nto angenamsebenzi wakhe.
Abantwana abaxhaphaza abazali bahlala bevakalelwa ziimvakalelo, benovelwano, abaziva ixabiso labo, baxhomekeke kwizimvo zabo, baxhomekeke kwizimvo zabazali, ngakumbi bajamelana nazo kuyo yonke into, thintela ukungaboni ngasonye, phepha. Rhoqo badlala ngokungathandabuzekiyo indima 'yamaxhoba ".
Enye indlela yokusombulula imbambano kukwakha ubudlelwane bakho kunye nabazali abasebenzisanayo. Le yeyona ndlela iqolileyo, kodwa kwangaxeshanye kunzima kakhulu. Uninzi lwabantu alukholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane ababandakanyiweyo ukusukela ebuntwaneni bangenakutshintsha.
Ungayicombulula njani ingxaki yokusebenzisana nabazali ngabazali?
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1. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda kwaye uqonde ukuba ukupheliswa kwabazali akubobubi. Bavela kuxanduva olungafunekiyo, ekungazithembi kwimikhosi yabo, ukusuka kumnqweno wokwenza yonke into kakuhle kuwe. Ekugqibeleni, kuba uMama, mhlawumbi, ebuntwaneni, nawo onakalisa abazali bakhe.
2. Ukufumanisa ukuba uMama ukwangumntu, cacisa ukuba ungumntu onjani. Wazi ntoni ngobuntwana bakhe nolutsha, ubudlelwane nabazali, malunga nokuba kutheni ikhethe umsebenzi wakhe. Zonke iinkcukacha zibalulekile. Khawufane ucinge ukuba uqokelela izinto zebhayiloji yayo. Ndiziva ndingumdala wabazali babo. Ngokuqinisekileyo kwinto onayo amava ngakumbi, ngaphandle, uhombisa isisombululo esiqolileyo ukuze siyeke ukuba yiyo nayiphi na into. Zama ukunyanga umzali wakho-ukuya kugqirha njengogqirha ukuba nesigulana: Ecwecwe, ngokuqinileyo, ngomonde. Akukho sidingo sokufikelelwa, siveze, fumana ubudlelwane. Phambi kokuba ungumnqamlezo phakathi kwesigulana nomntwana. Sukwahlula "ukwahlula" kumzalizamo wokuzibeka kwisikrelemnqa kwaye unganikeli ingqalelo kuzo zonke iimvavanyo zabazali ezingena kwidilesi yakho.
3. Ewe, emva koko, kufuneka uqale ngokwakha kwakhona ubudlelwane bakho nabazali bakho. Kwelinye icala, ngokuthe ngcembe wandisa umgama phakathi kwabo kunye nobomi balo babucala. Musa ukuvumela abazali kwindawo yakho, musa ukwenza ithuba lokundoyikisa ngeefowuni. Kungcono ukuzibiza ngokwakho - kwaye hayi ngokweshedyuli, kodwa ngokungalindelekanga.
Kwelinye icala, abazali akufuneki babe nembono yokuba ubagxothe ngabom ebomini bakho: bonisa ukhathalelo, nika izipho ezincinci, ukuba unethuba - phuma kunye. Ekugqibeleni, ngubani oyena mntu uMdala apha- ngaba wena okanye abazali? Tyala abazali malunga nesifundo: Ukuphulukana nobunzima, ukutyelela echibini, ukumamela iincwadi ze-AudioBone, inzala, inzala, indlela yenkqubo eqhubeka ngayo, ngamanye amaxesha unokuyigaya i-back.