Kumsiniso wemicimbi engapheliyo kunye neentsuku zokusebenza, iholide yenye yexesha lobomi bosapho xa unokuyilibala imicimbi yasekhaya, abantwana kunye nexhala lemihla ngemihla. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba awukwazi kuphumla kunye nomntu omthandayo? Izizathu zobunzima: Umphathi akavumi ukuba, akukho mali yaneleyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha iqabane ngokwakho alinakukwenza inkampani.
Nangona kunjalo, akukho mfuneko yokuba ucaphuke kwangaphambili ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala eMoscow, kwaye uye kwi-resort olilolo okanye umhlobo onekratshi. Ngapha koko, ngamanye amaxesha iluncedo kubomi bosapho. Abanye bababini bayadideka ukuba bachithe lonke ixesha kunye. Kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ngapha koko, oogqirha bengqondo bathi indawo yokuphumla eyahlukileyo iyacetyiswa ukuba abo baziva ukuba le ngxaki iyakhulisa kubudlelwane kunye nomntu othandekayo: udiniwe omnye komnye, uxinzelelo luhlala luhleli. Kule meko, iholide edibeneyo inokuyonakalisa imeko, kuba amaqabane anyanzeliswa ukuba anxibelelane ngakumbi.
Ke, ziziphi izibonelelo zokuphumla okwahlukileyo?
Nye. Yiba nexesha lokuphoswa . Xa sibona umntu, nokuba intanda yakho, yonke imihla, kungekudala, uqala ukuba anyanwe njengento eninzi. Ukuhamba kwexesha, nkqu nezingenelo zalo ziphulukana nomtsalane kwabo bangaphambili, kwaye izinto ezingathandekiyo ziqala ukucaphuka. Kwaye ulele kuphela ekuthiweni kwehotele yeToury, ungaqonda ukuba uswele ukuntywila kwentanda, ecaphukile ekhaya.
2. Uya kufumana ixesha lakho. Iholide eyahlukileyo iya kupaka, ekugqibeleni, umntu wakho amthandayo. Yiya kwi-SPA, owaphupha ngayo ixesha elide, funda incwadi elungileyo, wile, ekugqibeleni. Ndikholelwe, ukubuyela ekhaya, ekubuthoneni okunempilo kunye nexesha lokukhulula akuyi kwanela.
3. Khwaza. Ukuba kwindawo yokuhamba ngekratshi okanye iqabane elinekratshi, ungakwazi ukuhlawula ixesha lokugqibela malunga nokuba kwakufuneka lilibale emva komtshato. Iiklabhu, imivalo, ezihamba kude kuse-the Preyt ukuze iqela libe sisizathu sekhwele leqabane elisemthethweni.
ezine. Inkulu kakhulu ekude. Eli binzana linazo zonke iziseko. Ukuphumla ngokwamadwa ngokwamadoda, unokuba womelele, qalisa ukuqonda ubomi bentsapho. Kuyenzeka ukuba "isiqingatha" sakho, yonke indlu yedwa, iya kujonga ngendlela entsha, nangoku, nina nobabini niyigqala "ukutya". Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ivela kwimihla ngemihla kunye novuyo lokufumana intuthuzelo yasekhaya.
Kuyinyani, ukuya elwandle ngaphandle komyeni, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba akachasene nawo. "Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela ukuba nasiphi na isibini kufuneka siphumle ixesha omnye komnye, kodwa kwimeko apho kungavisisani kwaye bobabini bavumelana ukuba umntu uyavuma ukukhetha okuthandwayo Inye, - itsho i-Psychologist yosapho uNatidovna Savchenko. - ukuba iqabane likukhulule, kodwa kwangaxeshanye liqalise ukucwangcisa indawo yomona, ukubiza ngokukuko, ukumangala apho wena, ke loo nto iholide ibuhlungu kuphela ubudlelwane. Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuxoxa kwaye uve omnye komnye kwimeko yobomi. "
Uthanda ukuphumla njani?
Eva Avdalimova, umamkeli womfundi wokuqala