Rhoqo, amantombazana kunye nabasetyhini bafuna ukufumana isiqingatha sabo, tshatani ngokunika intliziyo yakhe kwaye banikele eluthandweni, banomdla kumnika uxanduva lobomi babo nenkululeko,
Ufuna ukuba uphilele ubomi bakho, kodwa ubomi bomfana okanye umyeni. Endaweni yoko, unokukhohlisa kangangokuba sele uyifumene iqabane, ubomi bakho buzaliseki. Wena uziva "uphelele" ecaleni kukaYe. "
"Ubomi bakhe bubalulekile kwaye bunomdla, kwaye zezalo, ngokungathi akubanga njalo kangako, nakwesibini. "Uluvo lwakhe" luhlala luyinyani, kwaye nokuba awuvumelaniyo emphefumlweni, zikhutyekisiwe kwaye zinomsindo, akunakwenzeka ukuyichaza. Imvakalelo yakhe kunye nemeko yakhe ubamba ngelo xesha, iyangena ngaphakathi kuwe, ngokungathi isibini sakho sisitya sengxelo. Nakanye, "yena" uya konelisekanga ngumsindo okanye unomsindo. Kuya kwaoko woyika kakhulu, kwaye uziva kakubi kwaye unetyala.
Kule meko, iqabane libonakala lingumntu ongama-owo onke, onokwenza ukuba umntu abe ngubukho bayo okanye unothando, kodwa unokuthi ahlukumeze lula lonwabo, akhawuleze agungqele.
Ulinde iqabane lento enye elifunwa ngumntwana, osele eza kweli lizwe. Uthando, ubushushu, lwazalisa, ukuze aqonde kwaye enze iminqweno yakho, wandlala ixesha namandla am. Inxalenye ethile ngaphakathi ungakhuli. Ulambile ngaphambi kothando kwaye ufuna ukhathalelo kunye nononophelo. Mhlawumbi uziva ulungele ukunika uthando olukhulu kwiqabane, ngokuba ngumama wakhe. Nguwe kuphela kwaye yena, kwaye akukho namnye umntu odinga wena.
Kodwa kungekudala ufumanisa ukuba awuyifumani into oyithandayo. Awunalo ungqwalaselo oluncinci, amazwi akhe, ixesha elichithwe kunye, umvumela ukuba amphathe gadalala aze acinge ngesimo sengqondo esinjalo, kuba wayenomsindo. Emphefumlweni, iintlungu kunye nokuthuka, ukuphoxeka kunye nomsindo. Kukho amanxeba amaninzi ukungaqondakali nokwala. Kodwa umntu osemncinci wakho akakwazi ukuphilisa la manxeba, akukhathali ukuba ufuna kangakanani na, njengoko bebonayo emphefumlweni wakho kwakudala kwaye babangela ukuba ungene.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ubudlelwane buba buhlungu kakhulu kwaye banelise oko bafuna ukuphuma kubo. Kodwa isizungu esoyike ngakumbi kunentlungu ecaleni kweqabane. Kubonakala ngathi uzifumana ukutshisa kakhulu. Uya kwandula ke ungqinele ubheke kwintanda yakho, exolela, nokuzilibala konke ukuthuka, idrama evela kobukho bakhe. Emva koko uziva uncitshisiwe kwaye ungeyomfuneko, unomsindo kwaye uyithiyile, ngokwakho kunye nokukhanya okumhlophe, kugula ngokulangazelela ukulangazelela nokuphelelwa lithemba. Kwaye bakulungele ukunika yonke into esemhlabeni ukufumana "idosi" entsha kwakhona, eya kuthi isuse kwaye idlule iintlungu ezibuhlungu.
Phuma kuyo nayiphi na ukuxhomekeka, kubandakanya nothando, akukho lula. Ukuzimisela kwakho kunye nomnqweno wokutshintsha imeko yolwalamano olisebenzisayo ebomini bakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Kwaye nomnqweno wokutshintsha iskripthi sakho sangaphakathi.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba kukho ingxaki yokuxhomekeka kothando. Awucinga ukuba ubomi ngaphandle komntu kwaye awunakumka kuye, ngaphandle kwento yokuba ubudlelwane abukwaneli kakhulu. Ngale nto kufuneka wenze into, ingxaki ngokwayo ayiyi kukhupha, kodwa ikhulisa kuphela.
Kubalulekile ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Unokufuna uncedo lweengcali. Kodwa kufuneka wamkele kwaye uyive inyani yokuba ulungile kwaye uxabisekile kuba beza kweli lizwe. Awukho okubi kwaye akukho bhetele kunabanye abantu. Uxabiseke ngokwakho ngokulinganayo kwaye inyani yobukho bakho, njengayo wonke umntu. Ukuze uzive wonwabile kwaye ugcwele, awudingi namnye umntu, kufuneka wazi ngcono.
Kubalulekile ukusebenza kwesakhono sokuyila kwaye sikhusele imida yakho, yithi "hayi" ukuba awufuni into, okanye into engenakuphikiswa. Rhoqo kwasoyika ukubala kwaye ishiyiwe, le ntombazana ayisonjululwanga nokuba ivakalise igama lomlingo "hayi", ngalo ", ngaloo", ngaloo ndlela kukuvumela ukuba unyathele kwaye ugalele iimvakalelo zakho. Kwangelo xesha liziva ngathi ayonwabanga kakhulu kwaye ingaqondakali.
Kubalulekile ukuba unxibelelane neemvakalelo zakho. Funda ukumamela okwenzeka kuwe. Hayi kwinto eyenzekayo kwiqabane lakho kunye nezinto azifunayo, kodwa kwiimvakalelo zakhe, iimvakalelo kunye namazwe akhe. Ungumntu owahlukileyo, uneminqweno yakho, iimvakalelo kunye neengcinga. Zingumqondiso malunga nento oyifunayo okanye into embi kuwe. Ukuba ufunda ukwamkela ezi zibonakaliso, unokuziva uyonwabile kwaye unoyolo kwaye uzaliswe. Uya kudinga kancinci ukukhangela inkxaso kwelinye.