Umzali ngamnye ujamelene kade okanye kamva ujongene nabantwana, inkwenkwe yakhe kwaye izolile kakhulu emhlabeni. Yintoni omele uyenze xa umntwana ethula iinyembezi, kwaye kwindawo kawonke-wonke, ayazi ezimbalwa, ezona zinzima zinamava amancinci kunye notata. Rhoqo kwimizamo yokumqinisekisa umntwana, abazali bayayenza nangakumbi, siya kuxela ukuba ngawaphi amabinzana avaliweyo kuwo nawuphi na umzali.
Yiyeke ukukhwaza, kungenjalo uyakufumana!
Ewe, eli binzana liza entlokweni yabazali abaninzi xa uqhuba umntwana uphumle kwaye ukhwaza umntwana kwindawo yokuthenga kangangemizuzu eli-15. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka kugwetywe. Akuyi kuba lula kuye nawuphi na okanye umntwana wakho. Zama ukufumana indawo ethe cwaka apho kungekho bantu abaninzi kangaka, kwaye zama ukufumana isizathu sokuziphatha komntwana, emva koko, njengommiselo, kulula kakhulu ukuza kumvumelana nomntwana wakho.
"Uhlala njani!"
Zibeke nje endaweni yomntwana: Uyacaphuka, funa inkxaso evela kumntu omthandayo, kwaye uyagxothwa kuwe. Vumelana, imnandi kancinci, ngakumbi ukuba ungumntu omncinci kakhulu ngengqondo ephelileyo. Kumntwana, akukho nto imbi kunokukuva ukuba umzali wakhe akulungele ukwala.
"Uyakutyhwala, ndiza kukunika lo malume"
Kwaye kwakhona uzama "ukwala" umntwana wakho, ukutyeshele iingxaki zakhe. Indoda encinci akukho lula ukuchaza zonke iimvakalelo ezinxungupheleyo. Wena, njengomdala, kufuneka uyiqonde le nto, kwaye unganikezeli ukusombulula iingxaki zomntwana wakho. Ngubani omnye oya kumnceda?
"Uyinkwenkwe / intombazana!"
Ngaba intetho yeemvakalelo kufuneka ikhethe umntwana? Ewe, abazali abaninzi balikhoboka labanye, njengoko uninzi lwama-Mama lukhokelela kumzabalazo omangalisayo wesihloko esithi "Olona gama libalaseleyo lokudlala". Nangona kunjalo, yonke into ofanele ucinge ngayo yimeko yengqondo yomntwana wakho, hayi ukuba ngabahlobo bakho abaza kuxelelwa ngabanye abantwana. Vumela umntwana avakalise iimvakalelo ukuba akanakuzigcina ngokwakhe. Ukuvalwa kokuvalwa kweemvakalelo kukhokelela, njengommiselo, ukuphazamiseka okukhulu.