Konke kwaqala ngencoko emfutshane kwi-relieling kunye nomhlobo. Ubuzile ukuba unjani, kwaye ndaphendula kumkhwa owam kakuhle nje. "Kwenzeka kuphela kwabantu abaziziyatha kakhulu," yayiyimpendulo yakhe kuphela, ethi, ngokubanzi, yasebenza njengempembelelo yokubonisa.
Ukuba uyavuma ngokunyaniseka, ukungazithembi, ukungaqiniseki ngomso kwaye imeko yokukhanya etywiniweyo yile nto sijongene nayo yonke imihla. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mntu ufuna ukuvuma kuye, kwaye nangaphezulu nangakumbi kwabanye into ebomini abuphelele. Ewe, ewe, ndibonise umntu onovuyo kwaye ecacisa ngemibala kunye nokuchazela iintsilelo zakho kunye neengxaki xa zithetha kuphela malunga nokuphumelela kobuqu ngeenxa zonke? Kwakungenakwenzeka ukuba ukukhalaza, kodwa ngaphandle komboniso, 'ubomi obufanelekileyo "kule nkulungwane yama-21 ayinakwenziwa. Kwaye kwelinye icala, kuhle, kuba kumnandi ukufumanisa ukuba ujikelezwe ngabantu abonwabileyo, kwaye ungasebenzi kwiingxaki zabahlobo. Kodwa ngokuchanekileyo nje ukungafuni ukuthatha ilizwe langoku kunika iingxaki ezininzi kakhulu.
Uye waqaphela ukuba maninzi amanqaku akwisihloko esithi "Indlela Yokususa Imozulu embi", njl njl. Kwangelo xesha, andizange ndikucebise ukuba uthathe into eyenzekayo ngaphakathi iinkqubo kwaye uzinike ithuba lokuphumla kumlo ochasene nabo. Ngayiphi na imeko, andibizi uxinzelelo kwaye ndiyonwabele. Ngaphezu koko, ngenxa yethemba layo lendalo, mna andifane ndivume iingcinga ezimbi, kodwa ayindithinteli ekubekeni amava angaphakathi. Khulula ulawulo lwakho kwaye uvumele ukuba uzive ukuba ufuna umzimba wakho, kwaye ayisiyonto ilungileyo iya kufaneleka. Umzekelo, ebuntwaneni, asizange sihleke xa sasifuna ukulila?
I-Vladislav Makurkuk ikholelwa ukuba kufuneka ufunde ukuba ungayithatha njani imeko yakho embi- kuya kuphucula ngokukhawuleza
Umzimba uphilile kwaye ungakhathalelwa kakhulu. Ukuba siya kucinezela imvakalelo yexesha elide, ke kwixesha elizayo iya kuzinika imvakalelo, kwaye iphosa umntu ovuthuzayo. Khawufane ucinge ukuba ufuna ngokwenene iqhekeza lekhekhe, kodwa ukutya kufuna ukuba umgubo luphawu lutshaba olufumileyo. Masithi, iintsuku ezimbalwa okanye iiveki ungqubane ngenkani, kodwa kwangaxeshanye uvuka "yonke into kwikhekhe kwaye ungayiqondi kakuhle. Kwaye ngoku ndixelele ukuba yintoni engcono: Ukufumana isiqwenga somfanekiso okanye ufe emva kokuba utyiwe ngokupheleleyo? Ndikhokelela kwinto yokuba ukuba ufuna ukulila, ukukhwaza (kungenjalo kwabanye, ngokwemvelo; Musa ukoyika iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo, funda indlela onokuwathatha ngayo, emva koko uyakuqonda indlela yokuhlangabezana nazo.
Umntu kufuneka azivume kuye ukuba unemood embi okanye ngomhla ongaphumelelanga. Kuya kufuneka afunde ukuthatha isibakala sokuba akanakuhlala egudileyo. Enkosi kule, amaxesha xa igqitha, kulula kakhulu ukusinda kubo. Kukwi emva kokuthatha "ukwamkelwa" kwengxaki, ingqondo yethu iqala ukukhangela iindlela zokuyicombulula. Kwimeko oya kuyikhanyela "imeko embi", akunakwenzeka ukuba le meko iza kutshintsha.
Andicebisi ukukhalaza abanye, umnxeba phakathi kobusuku ukuya kubahlobo kunye ne-snap-emabalini. Ndizama ukukuqinisekisa ukuba kufuneka ufunde ukuziva imvakalelo yakho. Ngaba umntu uvakala ngokulula, ewe? Ndikholelwe, ndiyazi ukuba kubi kangakanani ukuthatha iingcinga zam. Vumela ukuba uzive into endiyifunayo le ngcaciso imfutshane-imnandi, kodwa kwezinye iindawo ingumtsalane kakhulu. Ukwenza buthathaka kulawulo lweemvakalelo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuziva uguqulo oluncinci kwimeko kwaye ekugqibeleni luqonde ukuba ayisiyo "yingozi." Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukwenza ngathi akukho nanye into elungileyo kwaye akenzi ngcono / yomelele / iyacekiseka emehlweni abanye. Ukongeza, ukukhohliswa kwiimvakalelo zabo bonke ubomi babo, awuyi kusebenza nokuba yeyiphi na (oku akuyongxaki!), Ke, kungcono ukuqala ukumamela imeko yakho yangaphakathi.