Mhlawumbi, wonke umzali wesibini ujongene nemeko xa umntwana wakhe ethatyathwa indawo yokugcina umhlobo omtsha kwindawo yokudlala okanye de azama ukuhlasela abazali ngokwabo. Izizathu zinokuba lukhulu: kwi-onissions ekukhuliseni ukuthotyelwa kwengqondo apho unokujongana khona nokuthatha inxaxheba kwengcali. Sigqibe kwelokuba sithathe indlela yokuziphatha ngayo abazali ukuba umntwana uhlala kwimood embi kwaye ulungiselelwe abanye abangenabuhlobo.
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba umsindo yimvakalelo yendalo, ngokufanayo, usizi, uloyiko kunye nenkuthazo, kwaye ke kubalulekile ukuba uqhagamshelane naye.
Thanda umntwana wakho ngaphandle kwemvakalelo yakhe
Ewe kunjalo, akukho mfuneko yokukhuthaza indlela yokuziphatha ehlaziyiweyo, nangona kunjalo, imfundo kule meko ayikokuvavanya isazisi somntwana, kodwa kwihambo yakhe: ngobubele, kodwa ngokunyanzelisa ukuba umntwana aqonde, Umntwana akakwazi ukuzimela ngokuzimela kwiimvakalelo zakhe, kwaye ke kufuneka uyithumele amandla kwijelo elifanelekileyo, hayi ukubulala ukuthoba.
Fundisa umntwana ukuba aziqonde iimvakalelo
Nje ukuba umntwana aqonde apho iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo zivela khona, kwaye wenze ntoni ngazo, kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuba akwazi ukujamelana ne-negative. Ixesha elingaphezulu, uya kufunda indlela yokulawula kunye nobukrwada. Ungakufundisa njani oku? Xa umntwana eqala ukuxhaphaza, zama kunye nomntwana ukuze afumane isizathu: "Unomsindo, kuba ..." okanye "Masicinge ukuba kutheni uphoxekile ..."
Inkxaso
Musa ukoyika ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo kwaye uvuleleke emntwaneni. Akukho tyala aliyi kukhalimela unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ukuba ibonakalise ukubonakaliswa, kungcono ndikuxelele: "Ndiyaqonda ukuba ukhubekile ...", "kubonakala ngathi ..." emva koko, phuhlisa isihloko, Ukuba nomntwana ongenele, kwaye unokukuthemba ngokupheleleyo ukuba ufuna uncedo.
Yiba ngumzekelo womntwana
Akukho mfihlakalo yokuba abantwana bonke bathathe umzekelo nabantu abadala, ke ukuba ungumntu ovuthayo, akufuneki umangaliswe kukuba umntwana wakho efuna ukuthotyelwa kwabanye. Jonga indlela oziphethe ngayo, zama ukulawula ukuqhambuka kobundlobongela kwaye, kunjalo, ungafumani ubudlelwane emehlweni akho. Yiba yinguqulo yakho engcono ukuze umntwana wakho angahambi ngendlela yokuziphatha.