Uvavanyo yeyona nto ithandwayo kwaye uqhelekileyo yokwahlula kunye nokuqhawula umtshato. Ewe kunjalo, yinto ebuhlungu into yokuba abantu balula kakhulu kunokuba baphile ngolindelo okanye osoyikayo ukuba uya kuphinda abuyele kwakhona.
UAlan noBarbara Piz, oochwephesha baseMelika, kuphikisana ukuba abantu babufihle kakubi ubudlelwane, kodwa abafazi, ngokuchaseneyo, ngokugqibeleleyo bagcine le mfihlo. Kwaye ukuba abafazi abafuni kuyenza loo nto, iqabane labo liya kufuneka liqagele okwenzekayo. Kwangelo xesha, amadoda atshintsha kabini njengabafazi. Ngapha koko, iinjongo, zityhalela ezo nabanye ngokuhambelana nolwalamano olufanayo nobudlelwane, zahluke ngokupheleleyo. Abaphandi abafanayo bathi umzimba wendoda waveliswa kakhulu yi-hormone enoxanduva lokunyanga. Enkosi kule hormone, baba ngobuqhophololo kwaye bambange, bafuna indawo emfazini. Ngokuqala kweqabane elisisigxina, ukuphuculwa kwale hormone kuncitshiswa kancinci, kuhlawulwe, kodwa akuyi ndawo. Indoda kufuneka iphinde iphumelele, ifune, inkanuko yovavanyo kunye nenkanuko. Kule, iqabane lakhe limele "liphinde lilahle kwakhona." Kodwa kaninzi, unyango lwenzekile ngenxa yeemeko zokuphila: Ukuvalwa emsebenzini, abantwana, ubomi, ukulahleka kwefom. Lo mfazi ukwahlula i-hormone enoxanduva lokuthandeka, uthando, ukudala indlwane. Iingcinga zakhe kunye neenjongo zakhe zijolise ekomelezeni iintsapho kunye nolwalamano, ngokufuthi akacingi malunga nento ebaleka incinci kwiqabane. Ke ngoko, abantu boyisa abafazi ecaleni. Ubuncinci oku kuchaza ukuvukela i-biotical indlela yendalo.
Ukuvukela kwabasetyhini, ngokuchaseneyo, nezizathu zengqondo kuphela. Abafazi baya kwi "Ekhohlo" ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi: Ukuziva ukugula kwendoda yakhe, ufuna ukuzingqina ngokwabo ukuba basafunwa ngabantu. Okanye ukuziphindezela ngokuvukela kweqabane.
Ingqondo yengqondo yosapho ibonisa ukuba ukungcakaza kukukhala koncedo kubudlelwane bomtshato. Amaqabane afumana intsilelo enkulu kubudlelwane (enokubakho, ukuthembeka, ukwamkelwa, uhlaziyo, ukhuselekile "komnye umntu. Rhoqo, ukuvutha ngumbuso njengokuphambuka komhlaba okhululekileyo kunye nobunzima kumaqabane. Zonke izinto ezingenangqondo zifumana owesithathu, umgama ophakathi kwamaqabane onyuka kwaye ubakhuseleke ngakumbi. Imitshato emininzi ilawulwa ngendlela yokungcatshwa, ivumela amaqabane ukuba anikezele kwaye agcine ubudlelwane obuchanekileyo, obuhloniphayo kunye nezinzileyo. Ingxaki kuphela kukuba ubukho belitye lesono, njengonxibelelwano olufanayo, aluvumeli amaqabane ukuba avale kwaye athembele ngokupheleleyo. Kwiimfihlo zabo, bahlawula ukusondela kunye nokusondelelana, okunokudalwa kunye neqabane.
Isihloko akukho lula ukutshintsha unyango. Kuwo omabini amaqabane kuya kufuneka avume ukuba ukuvutha yindlela yokuhlangabezana nengxaki kulwalamano. Nangona icala elichaphazelekayo lityekele ekugwetyweni kweqabane kwintlungu kunye nenxeba elichaphazelekayo, ukuziphilisa ngoku kunye nokuxolelwa kuza xa amaqabane atshintshileyo, kwavunyelwa kwale nto.
Lowo waguqukayo, uyimfuneko ukuze udumise ngokwenyani ukuze uhlangabeze yonke intlungu ayenzileyo iqabane lakhe. Sukuzama ukuthambisa, bonakalisa izithembiso zobuxoki, nceda uvalelwe. Qaphela nje isibakala sokuba uyayibona inxeba, eliya kuhlala phakathi kwabo ukuya kwinqanaba elinye okanye kwelinye.
Ngapha koko, omabini amaqabane kufuneka afumane into yokuba esi siganeko soze sizenze ubudlelwane babo bufanayo. Kwaye xa zombini ziya kulungela umntu omdala ukuba avumelane ngolu tshintsho, emva koko ukuhlangana kwakhona kunokwenzeka.
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