Masiqale, mhlawumbi, kwiyona nto iphambili - kuyo yonke imibuzo yabantwana ngaphandle kokuba kungaphendulwa. Kwaye ukuyenza ngokunyaniseka kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ngokunyaniseka. Le yimeko eqhelekileyo - xa umntwana enomdla kwinto ethile kwaye ebuza into, kuba ngale ndlela uyaliza elazi umhlaba. Ngelishwa, ayingabo bonke abazali abakulungele ukuphendula ngaphandle 'kwesizathu' somntwana wabo. Uninzi luza kucela ukuba ungabuzi imibuzo kwaye ungaphazamisi. Kuyavela ukuba inyathelo lokuqala lokufumanisa ukuba eli lizwe lilungiselelwe njani, lihleleleke. Uya kufumana impendulo kumbuzo wakhe okanye kwifom enzima- "Musani ukubuza imibuzo, ungakhathazeki," okanye kwi-bird- "ndiza kukuxelela ngolu hlaselo", njl njl. Yonke le nto ikhokelela ekuvelisweni zokuziphepha ezichaphazela ulwazi olutsha nolwazi. Umntu onempilo wengqondo usoloko enomdla kwinto enkulu, uhlala elungele ukukhula. Lowo wumbi ebuntwaneni yayinguZombie ukuba angabuzi imibuzo eyongezelelweyo, ekuphuhlisweni kwawo uZuda. Abantu abanjalo bahlala bodwa, ngwevu kwaye hlanya.
Kutheni le nto (kufuneka) isuswe etafileni, ukuba uyatya yonke into?
Entsatsheni, wonke umntu unabantu abadala kunye nabantwana banemisebenzi yabo, onke amalungu osapho ancedana kwaye ahambe omnye komnye. Kwaye kungekudala uyamcacisela umntwana wakho le nyaniso ingonakali, kuya kuba lula ukuvumelana naye xa eba yishumi elivisayo. Unokucela nje uncedo ekuphenduleni kumbuzo: (Lopha loft udweliso) kwaye wena ngaphandle komncedisi. Okanye umncedisi akanakuhlangabezana nangeyiphi na indlela, kuyimfuneko ukuhlamba izitya okwangoku.
Le yimeko eqhelekileyo - xa umntwana enomdla kwinto ethile
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Kutheni le nto impahla yam ihamba ngexabiso eliphantsi kunabasebenzi bezandla?
Umbuzo okhuphayo, onokuthi, onokuphendulwa ukuba uzama kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni ethu usapho kwaye ngokukodwa umntwana wakho afuneke. Imibuzo enjalo icelwa sele ikwiminyaka yobudala xa umntwana eqalisa ukuqonda umahluko kwisikhundla sentlalo nezemali, esiya kuthi, njengoko sinokuthetha ngokufutshane nomntwana wabo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana kunzima ukuyiqonda yonke imizamo oyithumela eceleni impumelelo yempilo-ntle, kodwa ayifanelekanga kwaye ayihlambulukanga. Ingxaki inokusonjululwa yingxoxo engagungqiyo kwaye ukuba umntwana unephupha eliphezulu, uya kuvuma ukuba kungenziwa: kungabikho kwangoko, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe. Kodwa umntwana uya kuyiqonda ngokuchanekileyo imizamo yakho.
Ngaba unayo ilala noTata?
Ndiyavuma ukuba lo mbuzo uchaziweyo ngaphandle kokulungiselela uyakwazi ukothuka kunye nokunyanzela ukuba atshintshe nawuphi na umzali ixesha elide. Ungaphendula ukuba bonke abantu abadala kunye nabantu abadala babandakanyeka ngesondo abathandana kwaye banobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ngokubanzi, kufanelekile ukunikela ingqalelo kwizinto abantu ababelana ngesondo ukuhambisa isidanga esincinci kunye neemfuno zomzimba zomntu ngokomoya. Ngoku kubudlelwane obuphambili, hayi ngesondo ngesondo.
Onke amalungu osapho ancedana kwaye ahambe omnye komnye
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Sonke siyafa?
Uqonda njani, ewe. Ewe kunjalo, umntwana akafanele akwazi ukuchaza iinkcukacha ze-Aatomical. Umntwana unokuxelelwa ngeengelosi ezihleli emafini kwaye esisibukele, kwaye sonke, sinelithuba lokuba ziingelosi ezinjalo. Abantwana abadala banokuxelelwa kwaye baqiniseke ngakumbi kwisihloko esinzulu. Kwenzeka ukuba lo mbuzo ufanelekile xa umntu esigula okanye esishiywe entsatsheni, kwimeko enjalo umntwana ngokuqinisekileyo ufanelekile kwa kwangaphambili, kodwa ngaphandle kwenaliti yeemvakalelo. Ukulula nangazolileyo, sisabela kwaye sithetha ngezihloko ezinzima, kokukhona bayaziqonda kakuhle abantwana.
Kutheni le nto ndineempumlo ezinkulu / iinwele ezibomvu (ezi zezona zinto ngembonakalo)?
Kuba abantwana bafana nabazali babo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha nangakumbi kootatomkhulu. Ke umhlaba ucwangcisiwe. Ubulali yinto esisiseko. Kwaye le mpumlo inkulu okanye iinwele ezibomvu, i-freckles kwaye ke kukufumana uvela kuTata okanye uMama. Bakunika amandla kunye nobuntu. Ngalo lonke ixesha gxininisa izibonelelo zomntwana, ukudumisa kwaye umxelele ukuba zincome. Ihlala intembelo, inika imvakalelo yokhuseleko, ivakalelwa kukuba uthando lwakho, umntwana ufunde ukuzithanda. Kwaye oku kuluncedo kakhulu kubomi babantu abadala.
Kutheni i-petit / vasi (okanye imaski / i-mask / kati) phakathi kwemilenze eyahlukileyo (indlela yokuthetha nomntwana malunga nokwahluka ngesondo)?
Kukholelwa ukuba okokuqala ngqa malunga nomahluko kwimigangatho, umntwana uqalisa ukucinga malunga neminyaka emi-2-3. Ke ngoko, ukumangaliswa kukuba umntwana unomdla kwindlela abacwangciswe ngayo abantu kwaye kutheni bebahlukileyo, eqhelekileyo. Kwangelo xesha, oochwephesha bengqondo bathi kwincoko, kutheni amakhwenkwe namantombazana acwangciswe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ugxininiso kufuneka lutshintshele ecaleni, kwaye okubandakanya abanye nabanye. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uyavuma, indalo idale ukuba ingafani, kodwa ihambelana nokunye ukuze sikwazi ukuthanda kwaye sizenze izibini, ukuqalisa usapho kunye nabantwana.
Ndazalwa njani?
Umbuzo ophambili onikwa umzali ngamnye. Kwaye ekubeni sihlala kubudala benkqubela phambili, kungcono ukungakhankanywa ngeklabishi kunye neengwamza, kuba umntu sele eqonda indawo yokudlala okanye kwi-kindergarten. Umntu othile ovela kubantwana wanelisekile yimpendulo: Kwi-tummy kamama. Abanye banomdla: Into endiyenzileyo apho. Ngendlela, ungaxelela malunga nendlela abantwana abajika ngayo, balwele imilenze kwaye bancanca amaxesha ngamaxesha. Umzekelo: "Ndabona ngoko nangoko ukuba ungayithanda ibhola, ngenxa yoko ukhuphele." Ewe kunjalo, kukho udidi lwabantwana "ndifuna ukwazi ukuba yonke into", ngokuqinisekileyo iya kubuza: "Ndingene njani kwi-tummy yakho?" Kwaye nantsi ukuba uye nzulu kwi-biology incinci: Yimalini, uyithathele ingqalelo. Konke kuxhomekeke kubudala obuthandekayo. Awunakho ukubiza izinto ngamagama akho. Kodwa okuninzi kwinyaniso yobomi akulunganga, ndiyakuqinisekisa, kuya kuxutyushwa ngabantu abanengqondo efanayo.