Umbhali, ugqirha wezengqondo kunye ne-psychologist alina i-diadis ngaphandle kwesizathu ikholelwa ukuba zonke iingxaki zethu kufuneka ziqhubeke nazo. Mhlawumbi, uya kufumana abantu abambalwa abatsala abantu ngelishwa kwizinto ezijikelezileyo, ezinamathela kuzo. Bonke abantu bajongeka kade okanye bajamelana nobunzima: iingxaki emsebenzini, iingxaki zobomi bomntu-yinto eqhelekileyo kakhulu. Kwaye apha isimo sengqondo somntu kwimeko yangoku idlala indima enkulu.
Abantu bathambekele kwinguqu yexhoba, ukwahlula imvakalelo yokuba wonke umntu abakungqongileyo kufuneka abancede, ihlabathi liphela linyanzelekile kubo. Ngesimo sengqondo esinjalo ebomini, kunzima kakhulu ukufezekisa into, kuba abajikelezileyo baziva le "parasism" kwaye uyekile ukudibana. Ewe, kulo naluphi na unxibelelwano lukhona "notshintsho" oluthile, ulwazi, uncedo. Konke oku kufanele ukuba zenzeke kwaye imihlaba yodwa. Kwangelo xesha, kukho umbulelo! Abantu banokuncama njani, bangazi ukuba bobulela njani abo ubanike, kwanesimo esihle kunye neemvakalelo ezintle.
Iziseko zokuzibona ezifanelekileyo kwengqondo ngokwazo zibekwe ephakadeni. Imbono echanekileyo yehlabathi yenziwa ngobuntwana obunzulu. Umzekelo, abantwana bahlala befuna ukudlala kuphela, bangaqondi ukuba uMama okanye utata uxakekile, basebenza okanye bediniwe. Rhoqo, abantu bathi ebuntwaneni into ayizange ingenzeki, bayithiyile into, abaqondanga. Kwaye oku kukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi kakhulu ebomini.
Ngokuphathelele ukuba abantu bahlulelene badweliswe baba ziindidi ezi-2: Abo bathabatha ubunzima, bazolile, bafumane amava amanye ukuba baphembelele kwixesha elizayo kwixa elizayo, emva koko baqhubeke nobomi, bephethe olo lwazi. Kwaye abo iingxaki bankqonkqozayo ezivela emagadeni, banokubangela umothuko lwengqondo, baphoxekile ebantwini, ebomini, baqala ukuzibandakanya. Ngokwesiqhelo abantu abanjalo kuzo zonke iintsilelo zabo bagxeka abajikelezileyo, abaziboni iimpazamo zabo. Babonakala kubo ukuba wonke umntu ojikeleze kubo: Zihlobo, osebenza nabo, kunye nesikali ngokwawo. Ukuphila ngale njongo, baqala ukuziva belixhoba leemeko. Abantu abanjalo banamandla abuthathaka kakhulu, akukho mandla aya kuthi, bobuthathaka. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, sinokuthi rhoqo sitsale iingxaki.
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Umntu okwimeko "yexhoba" akakwazi ukufumana amandla okoyisa ubunzima obukhulu. Kubonakala kuye ukuze akwenzi oko, umphumo uya kuba ngumnye - akazukuphumelela. Akakwazi ukuyikhangela le meko, alungise iimpazamo zakhe ukuze angaziphindeli kwixesha elizayo, ukuze aqonde apho ahamba khona ngakumbi. Ngokuthe ngcembe, ikhula kwingxaki engapheliyo. Uqala ukuzivalela kuye kwaye akakwazi ukubamba ithamsanqa ngumsila, nokuba ulungile phambi kwakhe. I-bloumy ijonge ebomini ithintela ithuba lakhe lokubona.
Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze ungaguqukeli emntwini owakha wakhonwabanga ubomi bakhe kunye nehlabathi elijikeleze?
Okokuqala, Sukukhalaza! Kanye ngelo kwaye ngonaphakade uyeke ukhalaza kwabo kwihlabathi liphela: Musa ukubaxela ukuba ufike njani na ukuba ungowedwa owedwa ogama limhlophe.
Okwesibini, Musa ukuhlala wedwa! Ukuba ukhalaza malunga nexesha elide, abantu bayeka ukunxibelelana nawe - ukumamela izikhalazo zabanye abantu, ekukhutsheni iingxaki zabanye abantu, ngalo lonke ixesha ukunceda kwinqanaba elithile. Kwindoda efana nexesha lonke libe lihamba kwaye lifuna i-goone eqinileyo, engafuniyo ukuyisusa.
Okwesithathu , musani ukubamonela abanye. Abantu "ngelishwa" babonakala ngathi abanye baphilile. Emva koko umona ujika ube luluhlu, olubandakanya iingxaki zempilo: ngee-nerves, ngenkqubo yentliziyo. Kwaye kule sangqa esivaliweyo, kunzima kakhulu ukuphuma.
Okwesine Nxibelelana noncedo! Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba iinyanga ezi-3-6 awungekhe uhlukane nesangqa esikhohlakeleyo solwaphulo-mthetho, ubumyeke, ugqirha we-psychologing, emva koko ungoyena mfuneko yokuba ungakunceda kuphela ukuba ulahle imiphumo emibi, kodwa Iza kubonisa indlela apho uza kuqhubeka khona, aqiniseke kwaye ulungisa iimpazamo zakho.
Kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nabantwana bakho, chaza imeko, ukuze abafundi babafundiswe kungekuphela nje ukuba bathathe, kodwa banike. Sukuzisola ngeli xesha, ke uya kubanceda abantwana bakho ukuba badala. Eyona nto iphambili yokuqonda ukuba ungayisusa, kufuneka ufuna uncedo kwaye wenze imizamo. Kwaye emva koko uya kuziva ungomnye umntu - uyavuma, kwaye awusoze ulixhoba.