Ndiyazi ukuba abazali bayandithanda. Le ngxelo ayizibuzwa entlokweni yam; Ndiyayiqonda le nyaniso njengoko ivunyiwe. Ngamaxesha engqumbo eyomeleleyo okanye ingxabano yobudenge, ndiyazi ukuba umama notata akanayo iti kum. Kwaye oku, kunjalo, kunye nangokomtshato! Kodwa ngaba yanele ngokwaneleyo?
Ndineminyaka engama-22, kwaye ndihlala endlwini yakho yabazali, ndivuka ntsasa nganye nabo kwaye ndifunge ngenxa yeengxaki zemihla ngemihla. Ukunyaniseka, andicingi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ndiziphatha kakubi, kuba ndicinga ukuba ndindikhulisile ngomntwana ongumzekelo: ndiyasebenza, ndifunda kwaye kungenzeli kwaye ndifunda kwaye kungenzi nto kwaye ndineluncedo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqonda malunga nothando olutsha akukhange kube ngaphandle kokuphicotha omnye komnye. Ngelishwa, njengakwelo naluphi na olunye ulwalamano, amaxesha okwenzekayo xa ndiyeka ukuxabisa ukhathalelo kunye nomsebenzi, ukhathazwa sisidenge kwaye ucwangcise ukuba "uthando" luqhubeka).
Mhlawumbi ukuba siphila ngokwahlukeneyo, emva koko kuya kubakho iimeko ezinqumko. Ewe, uyazi, njengoko kusenzeka: Andizihlambanga izitya, ndalibala ukudibanisa inja, ndafika emva kwesiqhelo, ndaphakama kolu lunyawo. Nangona, becinga, ndingathi ezi zenye i-otmashka. Ukuhlonipha kwaye kuyayixabisa - musa ukuhlala komnye umda wehlabathi. Kwanele ukukhumbula ukuba phambi kwakho abo bantu babiza kakhulu abangenatyala ukuba ukungavisisani kwenzekile phakathi kwakho.
Ngesizathu esithile, nabahlobo kunye nabo sibathandayo, siyazithintela, siye sazithintela ukuba sikhulisa ukucaphuka, soyike ukulimaza iimvakalelo zomnye, kwenye indawo inkxaso. Kodwa ukunxibelelana nabazali, ngamanye amaxesha siyalibala ukuthi sibathanda. Kutshanje, uMama wathi "Asisebenzi ngokufuthi ukunxibelelana", nto, ukuba sithethe inyani, ndothuka kakhulu. Ndacinga ukuba sikwelo nqanaba xa yonke into ihamba kakuhle. Ke, hayi kwiingxoxo, ityala: Sele ndiqinisekise ukuba wonke umntu uyabona ulwazi oluye lwathetha ngendlela yakhe. Endaweni yoko, ingxaki ilele kwizenzo. Mhlawumbi kwinto endandingalunganga. Kodwa masigqibe, hayi mna kuphela!
Ayilunganga ukuba bagxeke abantwana bonke. Nabazali banokuphosa iphosakeleyo, bakwimihla eneengxaki emsebenzini okanye emzimbeni. Bayazi kwakhona indlela yokuba begcwele kwaye bakhubekise kwiqhina. Umahluko phakathi kwethu akangengawo kwisizukulwana kunye "ubulumko", kodwa umntu uyakwazi ukungamqondi kakuhle, kwaye umntu okholelwa ukuba uhlala elungile. Kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Mhlawumbi xa umntwana ebonakala, ndiyazi ukuba ilunge kuye - le yimvelo. Umzekelo, xa abazali bam bebenomgca esibhedlele, bagqiba kwelokuba andikwazi ukwenza ikhadi ngokwakhe. Kwaye indlela yokubacacisela ngayo ukuba ndenza imihla ngemihla kuphume imiyalelo ukuze ndonze imiyalelo ngakumbi kunokuliphula igama nefani nefani? Ewe, ndiyaqonda ukuba abazali bazi wonke umntu kwaye benza ngcono abantwana babo, kodwa kufuneka kubekho "ubuchule" onokuba nemidango ekugqibeleni.
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Ndiyavuma ngokunyaniseka, andifuni ukuxelela abazali ngeengxaki zam, ndifuna ukusombulula. Oku akuthethi ukuba ndingu "mdala kwaye ndizimele," kubonakala ngathi zanele ngezinto ezibaxhalabisayo, kwaye andiyiboni inqaku lokuphazamisa abantu abathandayo xa ndikwazi ukujongana neemeko. Kodwa xa abazali bezama ukunceda apho bengayicelanganga nto, ndiqala ukuba nomsindo.
Kwaye kwenzekile, ndancomeka ngenxa yempumelelo endikuyo, ngokubanzi, kwaye andiyi kuyigqale le nto, kodwa ndilibaleka ukuba le nto ibaluleke ngam. Sukucinga, anditsho ukuba abazali bam banomdla kwaye abanamdla ebomini bam, sinezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka, yiyo yonke loo nto.
Andicingi ukuba ingxaki ilele kumahluko kwizizukulwana. Ndingabaxelela yonke into: ukusuka kumnyhadala omncinci ukuya kwisigameko esikhulu, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ndiza kundiqonda. Enye into kukuba akusoloko kukho imfuneko yokwabelana noko kwenzekileyo; Amanye amaxesha kufuneka ashiywe nawe. Obu budlelwane obuya kululula kakhulu okanye bubuxoki.
Mhlawumbi isizathu 'isizathu sokuba singasebenzi ", silele kulindelo olugqithisileyo. Okwabantu abathandayo, sihlala silinde izinto ezilungileyo, silibale ukuba wonke umntu "ulungile". Andithethi ngoku malunga nemiyalelo yesixhenxe kunye nemilinganiselo yokuziphatha eyaziwayo. Nantsi enye into: kwiifowuni zeminyaka yemihla ngemihla okanye iingcebiso. Umntu akazange acinge ukuba bekulindelwe kuye, kwaye ngengozi wanika ngengozi into entsha, eyathi enye yagqiba kwelokuba cwaka. Ke qinisa ibhola yokungaqondani.
Ngendlela, malunga nokungaqondi! Iintsuku zenzeka xa ndifuna kakhulu ukutshintsha yonke into "ukusuka kwintloko egulayo ukuba ibe sempilweni", kodwa ngesizathu esithile sihleli emagxeni am. Apha ndiyavuma ukuba i-shones kum: Kuya kufuneka wenze iminqweno yakho ngokucacileyo. Rhoqo silibala ukuba abanye abangabaTekspaths, basenokungaziqondi iingcebiso zethu kunye nezithembiso ezifihlakeleyo. Abazali bayandazi ngcono kunabo bonke abanye, kodwa abakwazi ukufunda iingcinga.
Kodwa ngoku ngokubanzi, ndixelele, ngaba kufanelekile ukumba iimpahla ezingcolileyo kwaye kuhlalutya onke amanyathelo? Mhlawumbi kulula ukuthanda abazali ngaphandle kokucinga malunga nokuba kutheni, kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha sicela uxolo ngokusongela? Iingxabano kunye nokungaqondani zisiphumo salo naluphi na ulwalamano. Kuyimfuneko ukuyithatha kwaye uzame ukunciphisa inani lamaxesha amabi. Ke yonke into izakulunga.
Konke malunga nento endithetha ngayo, - i-Blaltal kwaye kudala yaziwe, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka ufunde umbono wexesha lekhulu ukuze usukelo. Umzekelo, ngoku ndiza kumbamba umama notata.