Kumama wam epheka, kwaye kutata, amandla okufumana amanqaku - uqhelene? Leyo yindlela abahlule ngayo uxanduva lwezemfundo kwangethuba kwiminyaka engama-20 ukuya kweye-30 eyadlulayo. Ngethamsanqa, kumzali wale mihla, indima yakhe ekuqulunqweni kobuntu bomntwana abuphelelanga kwi-stereotypes yesini. Ngoku oomama bafundiswa ukuba bakhwele abantwana ngebhayisekile, kwaye oopopu bazifundele ebusuku - abazali banokutshintshana kulo naliphi na ishishini. Nangona kunjalo, kolu phawu kumzekelo wosapho oluqhelekileyo, sijonga indlela imfundo katata iluncedo ngayo kunyana omncinci kwaye ingaba yintoni anokufundisa umntwana lowo anokufundisa umntwana.
Iimpawu zesisa
Ukubawa yinyani yenyani. Abanye abantu abaselula bakholelwa ukuba ukuhlawula isidlo sangokuhlwa kwindawo yokutyela, thenga i-bouquet yeentyatyambo ngaphandle kwesizathu okanye itikiti lamazwe afudumeleyo - kakhulu kubantu olwalamano olufunyenwe. Umnqweno wokubonisa iimpawu zokuthathelwa ingqalelo ihambelana nokuziphatha okungalunganga- Ngaba ikhona intombazana encinci engathethekiyo ithemba? Utata kufuneka achaze kuNyana ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe akufuneki zilinganiswe ngemali. Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo xa umntu esenokungakholiswa nguwe ngonxibelelwano olusondeleyo, nangona kwintlanganiso yokuqala wayebonakala ngathi uliqabane lakho elifanelekileyo. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, unike unyana wakho ukuba eze nezipho ezincinci kwintombazana yakho oyithandayo kwiSikolo saseKindergarten kunye neSikolo samabanga aphantsi. Nika kunye naye i-bouquets mama, oodade, ootatomkhulu kunye notata, balungiselele izalamane ezisondeleyo, emva koko kwingqondo yomntwana, imodeli enjalo iya kuhlanganisa njengokuphela kwelungelo.
Ukhule i-theaman yokwenyani
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Ukukwazi ukuqonda ngaphandle kweengcebiso
Ngalo lonke ixesha uneefoto, amagama okanye enye into ehlekisayo kumntu wakho othandekayo kwinto oyinqwenelayo, kwaye wasiqonda nantoni na, uyakukhohlisa. Amadoda angabi saba sisidenge kwabasetyhini kwaye aqonde ngokugqibeleleyo iingcebiso zakho- awunguye umntu ophuphayo banqwenela ukuzalisekisa. Xa abantu bethandana, bazabalazela ukuzisa uvuyo kumntu obiza ixabiso kunye nesenzo. Nikela ingqalelo kulowo umhlobiso wajonga kwivenkile, yiza nepisi yakhe ethandayo ngokuhlwa, ukuza kwimovie yefilimu yothando - ezi zibonakalayo zezinto ezibonakalayo zabantu. Oku kuyasebenza kubomi: Ukuhlamba izitya, ukuhamba nenja kunye nexesha elichithwe yimidlalo kunye nomntwana - yonke into ayikho kumthwalo xa ufuna ukuqaqamba emehlweni akhe. Chaza uNyana ukuba yonke into kufuneka yenziwe kwifowuni yentliziyo. Kwaye ukuba ayifuni kwanto, oko kuthetha ukuba akukho mntu ecaleni kwakhe.
Ukhathalelo oluqhelekileyo
Utata, othatha ishawa yonke imihla, ungcangcazela, ubeka ithontsi leziqholo kwaye ukhathalele iinwele zakhe kunye nezikhonkwane - imodeli entle yenkwenkwana. Umzali kufuneka achaze ukuba iinkqubo zemvelo zomsebenzi womzimba-ukuthuka, ukubeka indawo yokuhlala emazinyweni, ulwabiwo lwe-sebum ebusweni njalo njalo. Kwaye emva koko xelela umntwana ukuba angandikhathalela kakuhle: Kukangaphi kufuneka uye kwishawa, tshintsha impahla yangaphantsi, tshintsha impahla yangaphantsi, shave, hambani kwi-haircut kwaye wenze i-haircut. Emva koko, kubalulekile ukubonisa ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwezithambisi kukusebenzisa unyana kunye nendlela.
Khathalela ikamva lomntwana
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Ukufuna nokuzabalazela imisebenzi
Ukubeka intando ukuze uloyike kubuntwana bokuqala yenye yezona zinto zixabisekileyo ekufuneka uzinike abazali. Utata kufuneka anxibelelane nonyana wakhe okungenani uMama kwaye abe yinkxaso yakhe, kwaye angagxeki. Cacisa ukuba ngexesha lobomi aphulukana noCones ezininzi kwizigqibo ezingalunganga, kodwa ngamnye kubo uya kumnika isifundo esibalulekileyo esifanelekileyo ukukhumbula. Inkwenkwe kufuneka ilwele imisebenzi esebenzayo-kuya kuba kuhle ukuyitsala kwishishini losapho okanye ukuqhuba i-ofisi kangangemini. Emva koko uya kubona ukuba uzabalazele ntoni, kwaye uTata uza kukuxelela indlela yokufezekisa.
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