-Maria, ndixelele ukuba ungakuqonda njani ukuba umntwana unotshutshiso? Ngaba unawo amaqhinga okanye intanda-bulumko yakho kule nto?
-Bazali akufuneki baqonde ukuba kutheni umntwana etyekele. Ngesizathu esithile, kukholelwa ukuba umntwana uluhlobo lwesicelo somzali '. " Ingayikhutshelwa "ekukhutsheni" kufuneka ucime "ukungafunelwa. Ukuba izolo wayefuna ukudlala umculo, namhlanje - umzobo, kwaye ngomso-ukufundisisa ubume beseli, oko kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ngaba thina sibadala, asifani? Kutheni umntu omdala unelungelo lokuqalisa umnqamlezo, emva koko waphosa lo msebenzi, kufuneka unyanzele umntwana? Ndinika abantwana bam ithuba lokuzama kunye nelungelo lokutshintsha ingqondo. Unyana owayethanda i-biology kunye ne-chemistry wayengoyiki ukundixelela into afuna ukwenza i fiziks. Ukuba uthe angathanda ukuba ngumdlali-mlilo, andizange ndityhafe. Ekuphela kwento endiyinyanzela, kumacandelo emidlalo. Nabani na. Kodwa umdlalo kufuneka ube njalo. Ngaba uyafuna ukuphosa i-tennis? Ewe, yintoni indawo? Ngaba ukuqubha? Ngokugqwesileyo. Ufumana ntoni endaweni yoko?
-Ukukhetha njani iyunivesithi yasekunene kwaye kufuneka uphathelele kule nkqubo?
-Ubazali kufuneka banciphise ukuphazamisa inkqubo yokukhetha iyunivesithi. Unyana wam ubhalisile kulo nyaka kwiYunivesithi yaseMoscow State, i-faculty yenzululwazi yendalo-yenzululwazi, kunye nohlahlo-lwabiwo mali. Emva kweminyaka emibini edlulileyo ndeva ngeyunivesithi ethile, enye, awayephupha ngayo. Kwaye ngokoqobo ngelo xesha uNyana watshintsha ingqondo yakhe apho. Ngokwemvelo ndihamba ndijikeleza, ndibangelwe izandla ndingenise izandla. Icetyiswe ukuba ihambe kwisebe elihlawulelwayo, ukuba lo "amaphupha eyunivesithi." Kulungile ukuba uNyana unophawu, lokwenyani, oyindoda. Wenza isigqibo. Kwaye uxanduva kuphela kwesi sigqibo. Kwaye unekratshi ngokukhetha indlela yakhe kwaye uya kufunda kwiSebe loHlatywa woHlahlo-lwabiwo mali. Uthe ibinzana elimangalisayo: "Iyunivesithi inika amathuba, kodwa ixhomekeke kum, njengoko ndizisebenzisa."
-Udinga abahlohli bomntwana okanye kungcono ukunceda ukuba usebenzise isihloko?
-Sikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ukulungiselela i-EG, ooTitshala babalulekile. Njengezifundo ezongezelelweyo, ezikolweni ukuphuma. Phambi kwebakala lesihlanu, ukusuka kwindawo yam yokujonga, umntwana ungoncedo olwaneleyo nguMama okanye utata. Kwakhona, kwibanga lesihlanu, unyana wayenomfundisi ngeelwimi zesiNgesi nangeJamani, engazange anike ikharityhulamu yesikolo, kodwa ulwazi.
- Xa umntwana sele engumfundi, ngaba kufuneka umvumele ukuba aphile ubomi obuzimeleyo?
-Vunela idinga kakhulu. Kunzima, kodwa yimfuneko. Ndinike unyana wam ukuba ndihambe nabahlobo kwezinye izixeko, bathabatha amagumbi, amatikiti, bakukhathalelayo. Ndizivelela kwiminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu ubudala kwaye ndikwiminyaka efanayo. Uninzi lwabahlobo bam bahlala ehostele. Unyana, izandi ezingaqhelekanga, ikwaphupha ngehostele. Ndicinga ukuba kamsinya nje xa eqala ukufunyanwa, isuse ngokukhawuleza igumbi nabahlobo kwaye bahambe. Kwaye ikhaya liza kuza kanye ngeveki ukuba litye i-choles ye-dadewethu okanye isobho. Eyona nto iphambili kukufundisa uxanduva lomntwana ngezenzo zakho. Unyana, umzekelo, uyazi ukuba ukuba andimbizi, naphi na, kuya kubakho abantu ngexesha lakhe ngemibungu, abahlobo bethu abaqhelekileyo okanye abo siya kuphakamisa ixhala. Kwaye emva kweeyure ezintathu, ndiza kuma emnyango, kwaye ke ayiyi kuba mfutshane. Unyana uyazi ukuba ukuba ufuna ukundibiza okanye utata. Siqala ukusombulula nayiphi na ingxaki, kodwa kuphela ke siya kuyikhuphela intloko yam. Ayinangqondo yokubamba. Ngoku ndimfuna kwizixeko zaseRashiya, kodwa kwaka nje ukuba ibe lishumi elinesibhozo, uya kumshiya umHathohiker eYurophu, kwaye ndiza kumkhangela iihostele ezithile. Kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Okubi, xa ndibona indlela amakhwenkwe, esele esele ishiye iholide noonina abavela kwiihotele.
- Ngokubanzi, njengoko ucinga, ngeli xesha umntwana unokuyeka "- okokuqala ukuba angaphantsi kweyakho (kwenye indawo) indawo yokugcina imali?
-Ukunyaniseka, andikulungele ukubiza ubudala. Ewe, ndisithi ndim, ndim, ndisekuqalekeni, ndimncinci. Ngale ndlela, ndingumama ophambeneyo okanye, njengabafundisi bengqondo bathi, "Ukothusa". Ndihambe nonyana wam ngemirhumo, ndiqeshiwe ngu-Animator, umpheki oncedisayo. Ngoku ndiqhuba nentombi yam. Ndihlala ndisondele. Kufutshane, kodwa kumgama wesandla eso. Mhlawumbi, kuyimfuneko kuqala kubo bonke, hayi abantwana. Kodwa kukho intetho kusapho lwethu. Ukuba uguqulela isiNgesi, kuvakala ngolu hlobo: "Ukuba umama akonwabanga, akukho mntu wonwabile."
- Uninzi lweengcali zengqondo ziqinisekisa ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba ube ngomnye kumntwana wakhe. Ngaba uyavumelana nolu luvo? Ngoba? Yintoni embi ngayo?
-Udinga ukwahlula-hlula ubuhlobo kunye nokucokisa. Kufuneka ube ngabahlobo nomntwana wakho. Kumnandi kwaye ngovuyo ikakhulu kumzali. Le yindlela yokuthetha-thethana ngokukhawuleza, joke, iikona ezibukhali ezibukhali. Kodwa andinakuba nako ukucinezela. Umntwana ufanele ayazi umphetho, "iibhokisi zokukhangela" ongenakuphuma ngaphandle. Andinguye intombi, ndingumama. Kwaye into evunyelweyo nentombi-ukusuka kwisigama sento, ekukhubazekeni nonina. Ndingathi abazali abangabahlobo abaninzi njengamaqabane amadala afuna ukuhlonipha kuqala.