"Nguye lo bendikhangela ubomi bam bonke!" - Uqinisekisa amantombazana, ehleli nabo kwi-cafe kwaye exoxa ngeendaba zakutshanje. Yintoni, bajika etempileni batsho ukuba awuthethi nto ebantwini? Eyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yokujonga kukuphonononga uluhlu lwethu oluchaza abameli besidoda esiqhelekileyo abanokubopha iingqondo zezona zidumileyo.
"I-Wiy yangaphambili yintwana yokwenene!"
Umgaqo kukuba amahlakani e-Ex ayijongwanga ukuba athethe kwintlanganiso yokuqala, uninzi lwamadoda lufundwe. Kuyinyani, kungekudala, umxholo uphakamisa-ke umntu osele ekwazi ukukuthemba, kwi-krasya epheleleyo iqala ukuthetha ngabo bamqhawula umtshato. Nangona kunjalo, ikho into enye: Iinkozo ezikhoyo zencoko zinokulandelwa kuphela xa umntu ethetha ngezenzo zeqabane lakhe, hayi ukuboniswa kwakhe kokuziphatha kwakhe. Kodwa ungangxami ukumisa intambo yomlomo oyikhethileyo: Thola kwaye uphulaphule. Ukuba ukubona kwakhe kweemeko zahlukile kweyakho, oko kuthetha ukuba awukho endleleni. Kungenjalo, kuya kufuneka kwakuphulaphule iingcikivo ezifanayo, ngaba uyafuna ukububulala ubomi bakho bungenanjongo kuwe?
Mamela indlela umntu athetha ngayo malunga ne-ex yakhe
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"Amehlo akho anjengelwandle ezimbini ezingenasiphelo ..."
Sinethemba lokuba ngoku ungqengqele amehlo akho, kwaye akachukumisekisi yintsebenzo yokuncoma, engeyiyo eyedwa amadoda ayinzileyo iminyaka eli-10 ukuya kweli-15 ngokulandelelana. Vumelana, kungcono ukuthi "ubonakala umhle namhlanje" kunokwakha isifuyi esihonjisiweyo, apho ukuthelekiswa kwentyatyambo kubalulekile - into eqhelekileyo yentshukumo. Umntu ongaphezulu uthi, Ngaphantsi awenzayo: Kungcono ukubakho umhla ongaqhelekanga kwisiqingatha sakhe sesibini kunokuthumela iintliziyo zakhe ekuphenduleni kwi-Instagram ye-Instagram. Nje ukuba ufike kwi-rake yothando yothando, ngaphezu kwamadoda olu hlobo ebomini bakho akunakuvela.
"Uyazi, andikwazi ukudibana nendoda yam ..."
Xa indoda iqala ukukuxhoma ii-noodle ezindlebeni, ukuyixelela ngokungathi ufuna isiqingatha sesibini, kodwa ungayi kufikelele kumfazi ofanelekileyo, unokuncuma kuphela. Nazi iindlela ezimbini zokhetho: Nokuba wayeza nentloko yakhe entlokweni yakhe, engafaniyo nobomi, okanye onamafutha obomi bengqondo kubudlelwane obudlulileyo, othintela ukuba ahambele kunxibelelwano olunobuhlobo. Kwimeko yokuqala, umntu akancedi naphi na - kufuneka akhule kwaye aqonde ukuba ngamnye kuthi uneentsilelo apho iqabane elinothando liya kuba nakho ukwamkela. Kwimeko yesibini, umntu ufuna ukubuyiselwa kwimeko yesiqhelo ngengqondo: Sele eqondile le ngxaki kwaye ukulungele ukulwa naye. Thetha naye kwimiphefumlo kwaye unikele ukuya kwindawo yokwamkelwa kwi-Therapist.
"Ndihombisa nje uqhawulo-mtshato nomfazi wam"
Ngokwesiqhelo, amadoda akhuselekileyo anikiwe, yinxalenye yepropathi ephinda iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde yedwa kwizalamane ekufutshane. Abasoze babeka esichengeni impilo-ntle yabo, nokuba umhle ngokwenene. Ungayithatha indima yenkosikazi engapheliyo, okanye inxalenye yoxolo nendoda, echaza ukuba indima yesicwangciso sesibini ayikufanisi. Ukuba, emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa, isithandwa sangaphambili sivela kuwe ngepaspoti esinetampu yoqhawulo-mtshato, unokunika ithuba lesibini-kukho ithuba elikhethekileyo xa umntu efezekisa iqabane lakhe kwaye lithatha isigqibo sokwahlulahlula iqabane lakhe. Kwaye ukuba akukhange kubenjalo, kuthetha ukuba wawela ngentonga yesiqendu esiqhelekileyo - mhlawumbi unentombazana entsha entsha kwindawo yakho.
Ngobudlelwane be-groedy guy akenzi
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"Masisele ikomityi yekofu? I-CAMO YAKHO "
Ukubawa emntwini sisisono esiyinyani. Ewe, wonke umntu unokudibana nobunzima bokwexeshana. Kodwa kunzima ukuyithetha ngokunyaniseka intombazana ngabo kwaye inikele ukusela ikomityi yekofu kunye ne-dessert kwi-cafe akufutshane? Esi sixa sifanelekileyo kwinto yabantu abadala abangabantu abazimeleyo, nokuba ishishini lakhe lingabi ngcono kunamaxesha amahle. Kunye nabo bakulungele ukuhlala entanyeni yakho kwaye baqhubeke nomhla wokuqala, incoko kufuneka ibe mfutshane. Ngendoda enjalo, awuyi kuba nakho ukonwabisa okanye ukwakha usapho- okokuqala kakhulu, kodwa ngenxa yomsebenzi wesibini.
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