Isondo ingakwenza njani ulibale kwiingalo zeqabane, kwaye ubangele i-peumarical ye-psycholocal yengqondo ukuba awukulungele ukuvula ngaphambi kweqabane. Izizathu zokoyika ngaphambi kwesondo kunokuba sisixa esimangalisayo, sagqiba kwelokuba sithethe ngeendlela ezisebenzayo zokulwa le phobia.
Vuma ngokwakho ukuba ingxaki ikhona
Akukho nto imbi ngakumbi kunokutyeshelwa kwengxaki ekhoyo. Inyathelo lokuqala kumlo wokulwa uloyiko luyakuqonda ukuba sithini isizathu sokuba kufuneka ukhethe ixesha kwaye wenze uluhlu lwezinto ezinokuphazamisa kakhulu. Inkcazo ebonakalayo yengxaki iya kunceda ukuba ithathe amanyathelo okuphelisa, koku ungaqhagamshelana nomntu othembisa ukuba unika icebiso elifanelekileyo kwimeko enzima. Okukhona uya kujongana nomxholo woloyiko lwakho, kuya kuba lula ukuphelisa ingxaki kwaye ekugqibeleni lulonwabo ezandleni zeqabane.
Ukuziqhelanisa ngakumbi
Njengommiselo, isondo siyala ukuba amava angasecaleni aphelelwe buhlungu. Ke loo nto yoyika ngokupheleleyo ayizange ilutshafele ubomi bakho, iqalise ukuba nenxaxheba, ebizwa ngokuba igxile kumaxesha amnandi ngesondo ngesondo: Cinga ukuba uzisa uyolo ngakumbi.
Ukongeza, musa ukutyhala iqabane, kodwa yimbonise nje indlela yokwenza, mhlawumbi ingxaki yakho kukuba ungayazi into oyithandayo.
Musa ukoyika ukuvula ngaphambi kweqabane
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Sukuzifihla iimvakalelo
Ukwabelana ngesondo malunga neemvakalelo, ngoko ke ingcinezelo yesicwangciso somzimba neyokwengqondo ayizukufumana ngokuchanekileyo. Ukuba uva ubunzima, ke xelela iqabane lakho: Akukho sidingo sokuthatha amandla. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukushiya ingxaki engasonjululwanga: Ukuba awukwazi ukoyisa imeko ebhedini yentsimbi, ziva ukhululekile ukufuna uncedo kwingcali.
Soloko ucinga ngokhuseleko lwakho
Abafazi bahamba nenani elikhulu lokuphazamisa isini, umzekelo, ukukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga, usulelo, uloyiko lokulimala. Ngethamsanqa, ngelo xesha zineendlela ezininzi zokunciphisa umngcipheko, usebenzisa enye yezona ndlela zifanelekileyo zokuthintela ukukhulelwa. Ukuze ungabinayo ingxaki esondeleyo, ayizukufumana izinto ezingalunganga zokulandela le mithetho ilandelayo:
-Ngaba bathathe utywala ngesixa esikhulu kwangoko ngaphambi kwesondo, kuba ukuqinisekiswa okungaguqukiyo akuyi kukuvumela ukuba uzikhusele ngokukhuselekileyo ngexesha lokunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo.
-Ukuvuma ngesondo kuphela xa ulungele ngokwengqondo.
-Ukuba uyazi ukuba ngokuhlwanje uya kuqhagamshelana nomntu oqhelene naye, xelela abahlobo bakho malunga nendawo yakho kwangaphambili.
-Ungakhathaleli inzalo!