I-Alexander Poleev, i-Psychotherapist, ugqirha wezesondo, umgqatswa weSayensi yoNyango, uNjingalwazi ukwenziwa kwe-Psychoshalysis kwiYunivesithi yaseMoscow:
"Ndicinga, ngomhla wokuqala, nabani na ufuna umbono ofanelekileyo. Ke ngoko, kumaqabane omabini, kunqweneleka ebhedini ebhedini icocekile, ivumba elimnandi; Umfazi, kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba unxibe iimpahla ezintle zexabiso, yenza ukuhlutha. Kwaye le mithetho ilula kufuneka ilandelwe bubomi bonke, kwaye ayikho kuphela okokuqala. Ukuba umntu uzithanda, kulula.
Ukuzenzela ngokweentlola zendalo kwezi zibini izinto, kodwa kukwenza umbono wam, ukungafumani ntshukumo. Njengokuziqhelanisa nemidlalo, isini sokuqala asifumaneki iphumelele yonke into eyikhulu: Abantu, bengakwazi omnye komnye, ibhinqa elihlala linengxaki yokwakhiwa, umfazi ongenako ukufumanisa iingxaki kunye nentshukumo, yoyika ukuba indoda iya kuqaphela I-ilokisi yakhe okanye imascara yayo. Omabini amahlakani akasonjululwa ngokuthe ngqo komnye nomnye, ukuba loluphi uthando oluhanjiswa kubo olona lonwabo lukhulu. Ke ngoko, kunqabile ukuba umhla wokuqala uzisa i-orgasm ubuncinci omnye amaqela. Ke icebiso lam: Nika elinye namathuba omnye okanye nangaphezulu ukuze azibonakalise emva kwexesha lokuqala.
Ukuba abantu baba ngamaqabane rhoqo okanye amaqabane, kunjalo, kufuneka baqhubeke nokuzilandela-masithi, bathabathe nje ngaphambi kwexesha lokulala, kungekuphela nje ivumba lentlupheko lingabeki intiyo kwintanda yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, unxibelelwano lwexesha elide lunemigibe yalo iphantse yabakho i-gin-raredom yesondo, eyenzekayo malunga neminyaka emibini yokuphila kunye. Nokuba yeyiphi na impahla yangaphantsi yomfazi yayiza kwenza ntoni, nokuba iphazamiseka njani neenwele, nokuba ingakanani na indoda ihlawule ngayo ifomu yakhe yomzimba, ayikhuselekanga kwi "ntlango ye-sexy." Ukuze ungapholi omnye komnye, kufuneka ufunde ukuthetha kunye nomnye umnqweno wakho oqhelekileyo kunye neminqweno yakho. Kwaye ngaphezulu. Akunakwenzeka ukuxelisa i-orgasm - kungenjalo badidekile kubuxoki babo, ekunzima ukuyivuma iqabane.
Ncedanani omnye komnye otyhilwe ngesondo! Ngaphandle koko, ezimbini ezihlanjululwe ngokupheleleyo, zinxibe "oonodoli", kwaye ababandayo kunye no-doll banako ukulala kancinci phantsi kwengubo enye.
U-Anna ECalcevich, oqhelisela ugqirha wezengqondo, i-psychotherapist:
"Kwaye abo baqala nje ukwakha ubomi babo, kwaye abo bafuna ukuliphucula, ukuze bakuphephe ukudana endikucebisayo. Zithabathele njengoko unjalo, kwaye mna "me," kunye nomzimba wakho wenyama. Ukuthathwa komntwana abengowomnye umntu ongamzalanga abe ngowakho akuxhomekekanga kwizimvo zikawonke-wonke, ukuyalela, okuthathwa njengento entle neyokwenene. Thatha ngokwakho-kuthetha ukuthanda umzimba wakho njengoko kunjalo ngoku. Kwaye apha imimangaliso iqala! Indoda ekwazile ukwenza eli nyathelo libe nomtsalane ngokungaqhelekanga kwabanye ngalo naluphi na uhlobo lweLizwi! Ivela kumtsalane okhethekileyo. Abantu abonwabileyo bade banuka njengokukhethekileyo!
Ukujonga okuhle ngokwayo akuxhomekekanga kwidatha yangaphandle. Kukwaqondakala ngokwesayensi ukuba phakathi kwamantombazana anembonakalo yemodeli kukho abo bazithathela ingqalelo embi, banokuzithemba okuphambili kunye nethamsanqa elibi eluthandweni. Ingqongwe ngenxa yesizathu esithile siyababona njengabangasebenziyo. Kwaye uninzi lwamantombazana apheleleyo avakalelwa kukuba ubuhle, kwaye abahlobo babo kunye nabantu ababaziyo banxibelelana nabo, ngokwahlukeneyo.
Ke indlela yokuziphatha kumhla wakho wokuqala ngokwesondo ukutsala umntu kwaye ufana naye kwixesha elizayo? Impendulo ilula kakhulu: ngokwemvelo! Umntu ngamnye uyahlukile kwaye ahlukile. Ukuba uphumle, ngengozi, ke uhlala unomdla, kuba akukho nto injalo (enjalo), kwakungekho mntu. Xa ungokwemvelo, awukadingi ukuba ungcungcutheke kwaye udlale indima engaqhelekanga kuwe - Masithi, isilingo esibulalayo. Ukudanisa iqabane lakho kungenzeka kuphela xa ungakhange uhlangane nalo (yena) ulindelo. Ukuba uyile ndalo ukusuka ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho kwaye awuzami ukufikelela kulindelo lomnye umntu, ukuphoxeka akuyi kuvela. Ngokuphatheleleke kumjikelo onyanzelekileyo wemithetho yococeko ... ukuba uyazithanda wena kunye nomzimba wakho, awuyi kuba nzima ukuzilandela-ukuthathwa, ukuhlamba, ukunxiba kakuhle. Hayi ngenxa yokuba iyimfuneko komnye umntu, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uthanda kakhulu. "