Uthando yinto enzima. Awusoze wazi ukuba ngubani ekuthatheni umntu okhuthazayo, kwaye nokuba unolwalamano kwixesha elizayo. Nangona kunjalo, umfazi ngamnye e-arsenal unabahlobo abambalwa abanceda ukukhawulezisa utshintsho oluvela kunxibelelwano olunobuhlobo kwiintlanganiso zothando. Iza kwabelana ngeemfihlo kunye nabo, ngenxa yobudala, engekafundanga ukufumana indlela eya ebantwini.
Uncumo-Isixhobo esiziintloko
Ngubani onokufuna ukuqhubeka nonxibelelwano-nomntu oncumisa kuwe okanye abo babethayo okanye bengabonisi iimvakalelo kwaphela? Inengqondo yokuba uninzi lwabantu luya kukhetha ukhetho lokuqala. Singathandeka kakhulu kubantu abanethembayo- kwaye oku kuqinisekisa isayensi. Ke iMagazini yaseForbes ibhala malunga nesifundo u-UC Berkley, esasibanjelwe iminyaka engama-30: ifundwe iifoto zabafundi kwiifoto ezindala, emva koko zahlalutya ubomi babo ekufundeni isikolo. Kwavela ukuba abantu abaqhelene noncumo baba nempumelelo ngakumbi kune-Sullen Peoers kuzo zonke iindawo - ubomi bomntu, umsebenzi, ubudlelwane bobuhlobo. Ke uncumo, zihlobo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kudibana nothando lwakho!
Mbukele kanye esweni
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Ndisemathandweni
"Ndingamlinganisa njani uthando?" -Ubuza. Kwaye siya kuphendula into ekufuneka yenziwe yiyo ilula: Buza iimodeli ezinobungcali njengoko zijika iqhinga lemifanekiso enesitayile kunye nefilimu yothando, apho kufuneka zilubonile okokuqala ebomini. Ukungena ngaphakathi, kufuneka ukhumbule uhlobo oluthile lwexesha lobomi bakho xa ubuthando okanye isenzo somntu esimthandayo. Emva koko siyayonwabela indlela yokuthandana nomntu: Ukuhamba kancinci kwentloko ye-lobby, uncumo kunye neembombo zomlomo kwaye ngamaxesha athile ujongane nomnxibelelanisi. Ungalungisa iinwele ngasemva kweendlebe okanye zomoya kumnwe wakho. Nditsho neyona ndoda ibalulekileyo iyazi ukuba uyakuthanda - kwaye emva koko uya kubona uthanda ukuphendula, okanye ukungakhathali ngokupheleleyo kwaye uqonde yonke into ngokwakho.
Ukucaca nkqo
Nje ukuba ucofe umva wakho kwaye ususe amagxa ngasemva, inkangeleko yakho itshintshiwe. I-Spark ivele emehlweni, inani liba lilile, kwaye incam ye-prake yempumlo iphezulu. Kwinqanaba elingenaxabiso, le ndoda ifunda isibonakaliso sakho esikuxelela ukuba uyazithanda kwaye uyayixabisa. Kwaye abantu, banelisekile kwaye bonwabile, njengoko uyazi, tsala ingqalelo eyandisiweyo kwabanye - bafuna ukuzitsalela. Ukuba uhlala ulukhuni, ukuba ubuyiselwe ukunceda wonke umntu ngokusebenzisa ngencwadi kunye nokunxiba izihlangu kwisithende esiphantsi.
Incoko esondeleyo
Kwintlanganiso yokuqala, akunakulindeleka ukuba ukwazi ukuthetha ngokugqibeleleyo: Ngexesha lokuthandana, abantu abaninzi bangazi kakuhle ukuba indlela yokuziphatha komntu. Kodwa emva kwemihla embalwa, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kwaye uqhubekise kumabali amabali ahlekisayo ukuya kwiingxoxo ezinzulu. Xa umntu ekuthemba ngamaphupha akhe kwaye athetha ngobomi, kunjalo ngalo mzuzu ubonakala eyinyani. Abantu abanovelwano ephucukileyo balula kakhulu ukuba bathandane nomntu ophilayo kunomfanekiso oboniswe esidlangalaleni.
Hug ndoda ye-goodbye
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Ukuchukumisa ukukhanya
Iingcali zengqondo zinokwamkela imfihlo esebenza ngokuthandabuza. Ukucwangcisa umntu ngokwakho, kwintlanganiso kufuneka uchukumise umphambili wesandla sakhe sasekunene. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba indoda ngokwayo ingayiboni le nto - jonga iqhinga elinje ngencoko ephathekayo xa umi phambi komnye nomnye. Ungalichukumisa rhoqo igxalaba lakhe, thatha indoda esesandleni okanye hug therewell. I-Tactile Puqulane nomntu othandekayo ukuba sidibanise ukukhula kwehomoni ye-oxytocin kunye ne-Dogamine, "ukuphumla" kwengqondo ye-euphosia kwimovel yenoveli entsha.