Masiyibone ngolungelelwano. Kwiintlonelo ezinjalo kukho imigibe yakho. Njengokuba, umzekelo, amantombazana amaninzi aselula ayamhlonela amadoda ahlala abantu abadala. Kwintombazana, le yindlela yokuvakalisa, njengomfazi onomdla onomdla onokuthi athembele kubahlobo abangenamava kuphela, kodwa namadoda. Isiseko sentanda-bulumko, ubuntu bethu buyenziwa ngeminyaka engama-28. Imigaqo esisiseko, iziseko kunye nemibono malunga nehlabathi kunye nehlabathi esilifumana kweli xesha. Ke, ngelixa abantu abancinci bakhangela indlela yabo, imiqolo yabo isondele kwiqabane elilawulayo elisele lizinzile.
Kodwa apha ayilula. Amadoda atshatileyo abe lixhoba elilula lamantombazana amancinci. Uninzi lwezinoveli azikhokeleli naphi na, njengoko la mantombazana akadingi amaqabane exesha elide. Uninzi lwabameli besini esonakeleyo, sivumelana namadoda atshatileyo, ziintombi zamashishini okanye abantwana abakhula kwiintsapho ezihlelelekileyo. Ulwalamano olusondeleyo lunxulunyaniswa nentlungu, isohlwayo, inkohliso ebuhlungu kunye nokulahleka ngokwazo. Ke ngoko, zaneliseke ngokupheleleyo bubudlelwane kumgama wokungakwazi ukuvala enyanisweni.
Kumadoda, izizathu zabo zezoloveli ezinjalo zezi: Ingxaki ephakathi, ukuzama ukubamba, eyona ntlekele inamandla kubudlelwane bomtshato, xa iindima zabazali zikhulile, kwaye abantu abatshatileyo bafumanisa ukuba bapholile kubanye ngabanye.
Imeko ebulela ngasemva bubudlelwane bomfana onenekazi kule minyaka. Abantu baninzi amazwi amaninzi ukunciphisa ukuhambisa inyamakazi yomfazi. "Ngowama-45 Baba - Berry kwakhona," mhlawumbi eyona ntetho ixhaphakileyo. Abafazi ngeendlela ezininzi banxibelelanisa ubutshaba babo nolutsha, ubutsha nolutsha olutsha nolutsha. Ke ngoko, iitoni zemizamo zityalomali ukugcina "iintlobo zorhwebo". Bayazi ukuba lulutsha, ubuhle kunye nokwabelana ngesondo kuphuphuma amadoda. Ke ngoko, isithandwa esiselula yindlela yokuxelela ukuba "ndisebudala nje," ubungqina bokuba kusekho kwindibano ephezulu.
Kwiqabane lakhe eliselula, le ikwasisivumelwano somphefumlo othile. Njengomthetho, unomdla ngakumbi kwinkalo ye-Matern yoluhlobo: umonde, ukwamkelwa, ubulumko kunye nokunyaniseka kumaqabane akhe ukuya kumanqanaba okukhula kwakhe. Amadoda anjalo afuna umama obalaseleyo kunawo kumava akhe.
Ukulalanisa okukhoyo phakathi kwabantu, osongelwe kwigobolondo lenkanuko, uthando nobomi bobuqu.
Ukufunda eli nqaku, mhlawumbi, unokucinga ukuba ubudlelwane kunye neqabane eliphezulu okanye elisezantsi eliphantsi yimidlalo eqinileyo, i-curipulations kunye neemotifis ezifihlakeleyo. Nangona kunjalo, ayisiyiyo inyani. Ubudlelwane bokwenene nothando lunokwenzeka nakweyiphi na i-deflovs kunye nomehluko wobudala, ngakumbi xa amaqabane azazi, iimfuno kunye nemisebenzi yazo.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umahluko kubudala yinto kuphela ekuya kuba yimfuneko ukuba ufunde ukuphila: Fumana izinto ezixhaphakileyo, imisebenzi, onomdla kubuntu bomnye.
UMaria Dyachkova (iZgkova), ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye nokuqeqeshwa ngokuqeqeshwa koqeqesho lomntu weZiko loQeqesho lweKhazin Khazin