Omnye umboniso weBernard wabhala: "Ulutsha yinto entle. Olunjani lo mthetho ukuchitha abantwana! " Ewe, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje inani labantu bayala ukuba abantwana bakhula ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Umntu othile uvakalisa isikhundla sayo ngalo mbandela, ebiza ngokuhlelelekileyo, kwaye umntu othile wenza, emva kokulandela ukhetho lwakhe.
Siyintoni isizathu? Kutheni le nto abantu abasempilweni abanokwazi ukuba nabantwana babe nabantwana? Umphandi waseCanada uJ. Vints ubiza izizathu ezibini zeli phethanon. Eyokuqala kukuzingca kubantwana abancinci nayo yonke into enxulumene nabo: Inkqubo yokukhulelwa, ukuzala umntwana, ukuncancisa. Bambalwa abantu abanjalo, kodwa basekhona. Okwesibini ayifuni ukutshintsha indlela yakho yokuphila yabantwana. Oko kukuthi, abantu baqhele into yokuba banamaxesha amaninzi asimahla, amathuba abangafuniyo ukwala. Kuyamangalisa ukuba kwanabafazi basekhaya bafumaneka phakathi kwaba bantu: Baxhobisa ibhola yabo, bathenge ifanitshala entle kwaye bathengise ifanitshala entle kwaye bangayifuni yonke loo nto ukuze bonke baphanziswe kwaye bafumane yonke loo nto ukuze onke aphile onke abantwana abonakalisile kunye nabantwana abamdaka.
Kukho olunye uphuhliso lweziganeko. Abantu banako 'ukuvumba "bafuna abantwana, oko kukuthi, ukutshintsha isisombululo ngalo lonke ixesha: Ndifuna abantwana, andifuni kwakhona, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye ngelo xesha ndivela kwenye indawo Awufuni "ungafuni." Ke bona bayabuncamela bonke ubomi babo de bafike kade. Olunye ukhetho kukuhlehliswa rhoqo kwalo mzuzu "kamva." Abantu balinde imali eyaneleyo yokufumana, baya kwakha umsebenzi okanye bafudukele kwelinye ilizwe. Eli bali linokuphelisa okufanayo nelingaphambili.
Ngamanye amaxesha kangangeminyaka engama-40-50 amadoda nabafazi baqala ukuzisola ngokungabikho kwabantwana. Kodwa, ngokungaqhelekanga ngokwaneleyo, abanye bayazisola ngokwahlukileyo, njengoko bengalunxunguphele kwaye baneliseke ngumzali wabo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bazala abantwana phantsi koxinzelelo kwimilinganiselo yentlalo: "Wonke umntu une, kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ndibe" okanye "abazali bafundiswayo" Kwishawa, ndiyathemba ukuba, njengokuba uninzi, luya kuzisa ulonwabo. Kwaye inkanuko ayisoloko ingena ngexesha lokutya ...
Ukuba sithetha ngomahluko phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi, emva koko uninzi lwabantu abaphumeleleyo luba ngabafazi abaphumeleleyo kunye nemfundo ephezulu kwaye bengaphumeleli kwaye abaphumeleleyo.
Ewe kunjalo, ukuzalwa komntwana kuthatha umfazi ngakumbi - amandla, ixesha, impilo - kunokuba abantu. Kodwa abafazi kwaye bafumana okuninzi kuyo. Esona sibonelelo sibaluleke kakhulu kukunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye nomntwana.
Namhlanje, ngethamsanqa, sinenkululeko yokuzikhethela kwaye sinokucwangcisa izinto eziphambili ngokuba sithanda ukuchitha ixesha lethu kwinto yethu esiyisondeleyo. ;)