Siphila kwihlabathi elitshintsha ngokukhawuleza, apho namhlanje udlala indima yentokazi yobuthathaka nesesichengeni, kwaye ngomso kuza ixesha ukuze womelele kwaye uzimele. Mhlawumbi, soze kwimbali yoluntu iindima zentlalo zangatshintshwanga ngokukhawuleza: Kwinkulungwane edlulileyo, ubudlelwane bethu, ubudlelwane bothando, ubudlelwane kunye nemodeli yendima yahlanjwa. Akumangalisi ukuba abantu abaninzi badidekile kwaye bengayiqondi indlela yokwenza ukuze bangabi nakufaneleke kwaye bangafanelekanga.
I-Steemeotypes, i-stereotypes, i-stereotypes ... namhlanje, uluntu olusebenzayo luyekisa, kwaye ngeendlela ezininzi abantu ababhinqileyo basekunene: , icinezeli. Kodwa enyanisweni, akukho nto iphosakeleyo nge-stenomeno-yohlobo, kuba ngumfanekiso omiselweyo wendlela. Kuyanceda ukufundwa ngokukhawuleza "Kwakhe" kunye ne "Apham", ngaphandle kokuchitha ubutyebi kunye nexesha, kwaye ngokubanzi asisinto ububi obukhulu.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba yamkele inyani: Kwimeko yentlalo, phantse akukho mntu kunye nebhinqa alihleli, akunamsebenzi kangakanani
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Ixesha elingaphezulu kunye notshintsho lwentlalo, i-stereotypes ziyatshintsha, kuyindalo. Ngoku yonke imifanekiso yethu elungileyo kwaye "intle" iqondwe kakhulu kwaye iphinde yande, kwaye le yinkqubo emnandi, kodwa ihlala inzima. Kucacile ukuba abo bangabandakanyeki kwimicimbi ephambili kutshintsho lwe-stereotypes, bebhidaniswa: Yintoni ebonakala ikwiminyaka elungileyo, kangangeenkulungwane kwanakwiinkulungwane, ihlazo. Umzekelo, ukuba yayiyinto eqhelekileyo ngaphambili, yayijongwa nje ukuba ilinde i-cavalier yokuhlawula amatyala okubambisa i-case, namhlanje iya kuthathwa njengengafaniyo. Ngaba umnyango - okanye uya kugculela umfazi okhuthaze ububele kwisenzo sobubele? Ngaba uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali losapho luyasabelana? Ngaba iyakuya kummiselo okanye ucele iqabane malunga noku? Masijongane nento esiyala neyokuhamba kwethu.
Iintombi zonyana
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1. Ke. Sonke sizisiwe kwiparadigmm yoosolusapho: Indoda ngumsebenzisi, umgcini ojolise kuwo. Le modeli indala phantse njengelizwe ngokwalo, kodwa kufuneka livunyiwe ukuba ngoku iintsuku zakhe ziqwalaselwe.
2. Ngoku. Ungqimba lwenkqubo kunye nenguqu yayo, imilinganiselo emitsha kunye nemithetho-esikubonayo ngoku. Ngenxa yale nto, kunokwenzeka ukuba uqaphele ngokucacileyo - intshukumo yentlalo enobundlongondlongo, ethi iZano ikhusela amalungelo abo. Kunye nabo, kukho neendawo zokugcina ezinganqweneli utshintsho.
3. Ke. Sele namhlanje unokuyicingela indlela imodeli yesini yoluntu eya kujongeka ngayo ngexesha lexesha kungekudala. Amalungelo alinganayo aphendula uxanduva olulinganayo, kuba inkonzo emkhosini, ummiselo kunye nolunye uhlobo lwesondo lusenokuba luqhelekile.
Sonke sivela ebuntwaneni, kwaye kulapho ukuba sizithathele ezo modeli zokuziphatha, esiya kuthi sizilandele ekubaleni. ICandelo elicacileyo lamabhinqa kunye nendoda lenzekileyo kwasebusaneni, nangona umntwana ephila kwaye ephantse ibe yiminyaka emithathu, enjani into yokuba amakhwenkwe anayo - amakhwenkwe okanye amakhwenkwe okanye intombazana okanye intombazana. Kodwa ootata abaninzi batyhafa, beva ukuba oonyana babo bayavuya ukuba nedoli okanye bakhwela idlwesi - emva kwayo yonke loo nto, "ngamantombazana"! "Ngubani oza kukhupha ngaphandle ukuba uyadlala e-Barbie endaweni yebhola?" -Ukuba lusizi ooyise, ukuphazamisa kwaye kuxhalabile ngekamva lomntwana wabo. Phantsi kothintelo akukho zithombeko ezithile okanye impahla, kodwa ibonakaliso yeemvakalelo zabantu abancinci. I-whonc, iqulankring, iwele kwii-hysterics - kwigama, ukuveza iimvakalelo njengoko abantwana bayayazi indlela yokuziphatha: akunakwenzeka ukuba unike amantombazana ukuba akhuphe kwaye uqhubeke, kwaye uqhubeke.
Ifumana kunye nomgangatho obuthathaka: Ngokwenene, abazali bakwenziwe kumantombazana e-nymph engakhuselekanga kwaye engakhuselekanga, engakhange ahlekise, akhwaze okanye alwe okanye alwe okanye alwe okanye ilwe okanye ilwe okanye ilwe okanye i-run ijikeleze kumdaka. "Uyintombazana!" - Zonke izithintelo kunye ne-taboos zigutyungelwe libinzana lesakramente. Amantombazana akakufanelekeli ukuqhuba ibhola, dubula evela eLuka, ukulwa-kwaye ke iintombi ziye ziye kwi-ballet, umculo, umthambo wemiyobisi. Njengoonyana abafuna ukudanisa, banikwa amacandelo ezemidlalo.
Omnye umntu uya kuthi: bathi, abazali bazi ngakumbi. Awu, kodwa akunjalo. Namhlanje, oochwephesha bezengqondo bayaphoswa kubantwana ekuzalweni-kubuntu bomntu ngamnye, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuhlonipha iminqweno yabo kwangoko. Oku, ngendlela, inyathelo elikhulu kwingqondo yengqondo yobuntu- kwaye ukuyenza, ubuntu bathathe umzamo omkhulu. Ngoku uninzi lwabazali lukhetha indlela yentando yesininzi yokuziphatha ngokunxulumene nabantakwabo, kodwa izama ukulandela amabhongo azo, kodwa iziyobisi kunye nezinto ezinomdla zomntwana.
Kuthekani ngeendima zesini? Awu, ayilunganga kakhulu ngayo. Uloyiko lokuba ngenxa ye-Pink Pantyhose okanye i-dolls, inkwenkwe iya kuba "sincinci", sinamandla amakhulu, kwaye ke sisakhulela abazali abasecaleni kwendoda nebhinqa.
Ukusuka kuguqulo lweendawo
Ingabonakala, yintoni ingxaki ngaloo nto? Kodwa kufuneka uqonde inyani: Kwimeko yentlalo, phantse akukho ndoda nebhinqileyo, nokuba ingaqhelekanga kangakanani. Ukungakhanyeli iimpawu zomzimba (kuya kuba sisidenge kwaye kuyahlekisa ukwenza ngathi sinokufana), uluntu oluqhubela phambili luzama ukulingana kunye ne-cavalids zombini eluthandweni kunye nomsebenzi. Umntu wale mihla uyakothusa kakhulu ukuba uyathetha malunga nesiko lesiko okanye umsebenzi wabasetyhini okanye umsebenzi: Wonke umntu unokwenza into ayifunayo, kwaye angaqinisekanga. EFinland, kwakudala, ibhinqa lilungu elinelungelo elipheleleyo lobomi bezentlalo nezopolitiko: kwiPalamente kaZwelonke, i-EDuskont, iyonyulwa rhoqo ngamanenekazi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha inani labo liyinombolo ye amadoda (ngubani onokuthi acinge into enjalo?). Intombazana ekhokelela kwiqela (indlela uAndierson ukusuka kwiFinland enye) ayisiyomimangaliso kwaye ingabi yinto eyahlukileyo, kodwa inyani. Amadoda abe ngamagcisa ahlehlisayo, abanesitayile beenwele - ukukhumbula nakwiintandokazi zeHollywood Chris McMillana okanye iSerzh Norman.
Yonke into injalo, kodwa ukuza kuthi ga ngoku asinguye-hayi kwaye sijonga isikwere kwindoda enomfana othanda ubuchule bobuchule, okanye intombazana ephukileyo. Ngapha koko, i-AKOS, kodwa kumazwe angaphambili eUSSR, ireyithi yentokazi ikwisiseko esingaphantsi kwamadoda, ngaphandle kwento yokuba amanenekazi akwizikhundla eziphezulu aze enze yonke imisebenzi efanayo nabantu abasebenza ngayo ngokwesini.
Indoda nendoda yanamhlanje ayifani, kodwa ilingane
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Iintetho ezibethwe kuthi ngobunzima obukhulu zitshintshile, kwaye oko kuyinto eqhelekileyo: Akufanelanga uzame uthethathethwano ngemini enye. Unjani? Ukuzama ukuqonda kwaye wamkele: Kuyinyani, wonke umntu uhlukile, kwaye umntu okufuphi unokukhankanya okulungileyo, kodwa okubi. Xa kufikwa kubantu bangabanye abantu, bayithabathela ngaphezulu okanye kancinci, kodwa xa imibuzo ibonakaliswa kwabo bathandayo - ebantwaneni, kubahlobo, kumaqabane, siqhanqa ngalo. Kubalulekile ukujongana noqhanqalazo lwakho lwangaphakathi, akuzange kulungiswe kwaye kungapheleli kwabathandekayo: Ngokombono wakho nokuba kunjalo, akukho mntu uya kwenza, kodwa ukungakholelwa kwaye ulumkiso phakathi kwakho ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuvela.
Umgangatho onamandla, umgangatho obuthathaka ...
Kwiincoko ezibanzi-ukuziqhelanisa. Siye saqonda ukuba sisembindini wehlabathi elitshintshayo, kwaye apha utshintsho luye lwasichukumisa ngokobuqu. Owona mzekelo mkhulu kunye nowona mzekelo ubalulekileyo: Ubophe umntu omtsha othandekayo. Kwaye sele kukho imibuzo. Ngubani owaya (wabhala, wabiza) eyokuqala? "Yinyani" ngoku? Ngapha koko, ngaphambili, amantombazana anesidima akakwazanga ukubonisa inyathelo; Ihlala kuphela ngokuthozama ukuba idubule ngamehlo kwaye incuma ngokukhawuleza (ngokukhethekileyo ethe cwaka). Masisele isibindi kwaye sinobuchule: Yonke into onokuyenza! Akukho mntu uya kukutyhubela ngokukhuthaza, ukuba wenza inyathelo lokuqala lowokuqala - akukho esemgangathweni wakho okanye onolwazi lokumamela.
Kwaye ngoku ixesha ngumhla. Ngubani onokukhetha indawo? Khumbula, sakha ulingana, ke ziziva sikhululekile ukuxoxa ngokukhetha kunye neCalier, ihambisa izimvo zethu. Ngenxa yothethathethwano, khetha indlela oyithandayo. Umbuzo obuthathaka malunga neakhawunti awukafumani mpendulo enye. Ngokufanelekileyo, kuya kufuneka uthethathethwano "elunxwemeni" - ke uyakuthintela ukungabi nakuphikiswa. Landela umthetho olula: Bala ngokwakho kwaye kwiimali zakho. Akufanelekanga ukunyanga ukwazi okutsha, kodwa ke nokulinda ukuba akuthengele isidlo sangokuhlwa, musa. Awukaqhagamshelwe ngoqili u-Uzami oqinileyo, awazi malunga nomnye kunye nengeniso yomnye nomnye. Ngapha koko, awulindelanga ukuba uza kuphathwa ngomhlobo odibene naye ukuba usela ikofu, okanye umntu osebenza naye ekhwele kwi-Ofisi ye-Buffet Tea?
Kwixa elizayo, ukuba intlanganiso engahleliwe iya kukhula ibe yinto engaphezulu, umcimbi wezezimali kufuneka uxoxwe ngokwahlukeneyo kwaye ngokucokisekileyo. Akukho nto imbi kwaye engaqhelekanga ekuthetheni izihloko ezinjalo - ngaphezu koko, ezi ncoko ziluncedo, zomeleza ukuzithemba. Isibini ngasinye sihlala njengokuba sicacile kwaye sikhululekile kuye, kwaye ke akukho kuhamba kunye nezisombululo. Ngaba uyayithanda ingcinga yohlahlo-lwabiwo mali olucacileyo? Okanye usondele kwaye uyaqondakala umbono wokuba neengxowa-mali zakho "zilahla" ukuba kukho imfuneko? Wamkelekile! Eyona nto iphambili kukuba omabini amaqabane avumelana nesixhobo semali sosapho.
Ukuba uqhubeka ngomhla wokuqala, ngaphandle kokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kuba neakhawunti efanayo, hlawula! Musa ukulinda imfesane kwimfesane engazi nto, unethemba kuye nakwimibono yakhe malunga nento elungileyo. Ekugqibeleni, akanyanzelekanga.
Ukuba isimo sengqondo soMthandi onokwenzeka kumalungelo alinganayo kunye nemisebenzi icacile kuwe kwaye ayikufanelanga, awuzukukhathalela umanyano olude olunempumelelo.
Kuyenzeka ukuba utshintshe umntu kwimeko enye-ngomnqweno wayo oshushu nozinzileyo kunye nomzamo. Ngaphandle koko, umahluko kwiimbono malunga nokuba ngubani ofanele ukuhlamba izitya aya kukhokelela ekunyukeni.
Ngendlela, amadoda anengxaki kakhulu kwi-stereotype, esele ilahliwe, kodwa ingamaxesha ngamaxesha iphakamisa intloko. Sithi, kunjalo, malunga nomfanekiso wesandla somntu ongu-Omnipointer kunye nomgodi, nto leyo, ethi ngandlela zonke ibonelela usapho. Ewe kunjalo, iqabane lakho elikwazi "ukugubungela" kunye nomhlaba wayo kwimeko xa iqabane lesibini lihlala lingenalo ngaphandle kwendlela, kodwa sisebenzisa igama elingathathi cala "iqabane elingathathi hlangothi". Uxanduva lwempilo-ntle lezemali alinakuba nendoda kuphela, kwaye akukho nto isaphuli-mthetho. Abanye abameli bomhlaba "bomeleleyo" (enye i-stereotype, ngendlela) bajamelana ngokugqibeleleyo nolawulo lwekhaya. Kwaye ngubani, njengowasetyhini, kwiinkulungwane ezizibandakanyekileyo endlwini nakubantwana, uyazi ukuba luhlobo luni lomsebenzi onzima nolubalulekileyo! Sukuzikhulula i-gusts yomlingane ukuba ufumana umvuzo kwaye ungabi naluthando ukuba ugxeke indlwane. Khumbula: wonke umntu uyakwazi ukujongana nento elele emphefumlweni.
Isetyenziswe i-nian
Amalungelo alinganayo aphendule kwiimbophelelo ezilinganayo, kuba inkonzo emkhosini, ummiselo kunye nolunye uhlobo lwesondo "luhlala luqhelekile
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Ngendlela, malunga nabantwana. EYurophu, ngendlela engaphaya kweRussia, ukujonga kumzali sele etshintshile. Unonophelo lwabantwana luyekile ukuba luxanduva lukamama ngokukhethekileyo-kude kube lo mfazi akanakushiya umsebenzi kwikhefu lokuzalwa (ngaphandle kokuba kufuneka udanile ngexesha lokuzalwa ngqo), kwaye i-stereting iya kuya endodeni yakhe. Kwilizwe lethu, le ndlela isenokubonakala ngathi injalo, ukuyibeka ngobumnene, iyamangalisa - molo, stereotypes! Kwaye njani enye into, ukuba ekubeni ubuntwana inkwenkwe iqonde ngokwenene ukuba kukho imisebenzi afanele ezenze, kodwa yintoni na inkosikazi yakhe?
Ukusuka apha inani elikhulu loqhawulo-mtshato oluye lwenzeka kwiminyaka emithathu yokuqala ethi "Mabelekayo:" Abazali abasebatsha abanakuvuma, uMama oSameleleleyo "aphumle" (le yindlela ekubuleni ngayo ukuba ngumsebenzi, kwaye ngaphakathi Ngokuhlwa, ukuza ekhaya, kufuna isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nokuzola. Kusapho apho ukwahlukana koxanduva kwakungekho, kwaye abazali babengamaqabane apheleleyo, abantwana baqhele ukwenza enye imodeli yokuziphatha - izicwangciso-qhinga zoncedo kunye nenkxaso. Imbono esempilweni ngentsebenziswano ikhuliswa njengeshishini eliqhelekileyo, apho wonke umntu enoxanduva lomntu ngamnye.
Saye sahlala kwindawo enomdla kwaye enzima: Sijonga umaleko wenkqubo kwaye ngandlela thile bathabatha inxaxheba kwinkqubo enomdla yokutshintsha kwendima yesini. Musa ukoyika okanye uyaphikisa. Khumbula ukuba utshintsho lobomi, gxila kwingqondo eqhelekileyo, kholwa intuition kunye neminqweno yakho. Ngapha koko, ukuba uyalandela, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kujikeleziswa ngabo banqwenela ukubona kwisangqa sabo esisondeleyo.