Ngokuqinisekileyo akukho nto icaphukisayo njengemibuzo engenabuchule kubahlobo okanye kwizalamane. Umntu othile uzama ukuzichaza ngenkcitho yakho, ngelixa abanye bengayiqondi le mida. Ngayiphi na imeko, yiva imibuzo efana "Kutheni ungatshatanga?" Jonga ukuba ubuyile njani, ndiza kukuxelela indlela yokunciphisa umzimba "ongathandekiyo kuye wonke umntu.
Kwenziwe ntoni?
Okokuqala, ungaze uzive ngoluhlobo olunjalo, kuba ihlala ingumntu olindelekileyo, oko ke kuzama ukuzikhupha okanye kubekwe kwisikhundla esingathethekiyo. Siza kukuxelela ukuba ungayiniki njani inkohliso kumchasi.
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Owona mncinci, umntu ulindele ukuba afumane umba ophuma kuwe, ngoko kubonakala ngathi yinto engummangaliso "Kutheni ungazange ulwe? Kungekudala izakufika kudala, "ungathandabuzi ukutshata:" Kuphela emva kwakho "okanye" Umzekelo Wabaziyo obaziyo obaziyo onomdla. Njengomthetho, oku kwanele ukuba umntu acinge ngokucinga ngaphambi kokuba athethe into.
Guqula isihloko
Ukuba kusakunzima ukuphendula ngobukhazikhazi, Guqulela incoko umxholo ongathathi cala okanye undixelele ngokuchanekileyo: "Mhlawumbi masithethe ngawe? Uthanda ukuxoxa ngobomi bakho bobuqu, masiqale. " Kwixesha elizayo, umntu akafuni ukunyusa izigulana.
Sukuziva ngemicimbi engalunganga kakhulu
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Ukungahoyi
Khumbula ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uxele ukuba ichaphazela ubomi bakho bobuqu. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba wenze le nto ngokuchasene noko, umzekelo, uqalisa ukuphanda ngenxa yesihloko sembonakalo, edlulisela ingcebiso engalunganga, indlela osabela ngayo inokuba ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: "Andikhathali ukuthetha ngemozulu, sihloniphane indawo. " Nawuphi na umntu ofundileyo uya kuqonda icebiso, ngenye indlela, kuya kufuneka unyule amanye amaqhinga.
Thatha indawo yokungathathi cala
Eyona ndlela ibaluleke kakhulu inokuthathwa njengempendulo engathathi cala. Xa uqala ukungoneliseki kumbuzo wokuqala, yithi: "Enkosi ngokuthatha kwakho ukuthatha inxaxheba, kodwa ndikhetha ukusombulula le mibuzo. Ukuba ndifuna icebiso lakho, ndiza kukubhekisa kuwe. Ke awuyi kuyenza icace into yokuba awunguye umntu onokutsalwa imibuzo ngezihloko nakwezinye izihloko. Zihlonele kwaye uzijikelezile uya kuqalisa ukukuhlonipha.