Mhlawumbi akukho mvakalelo womeleleyo kunothando, ngelishwa, ayingabo bonke abantu bakwazi ukufumana umntu oza kubangela impendulo emangalisayo. Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka ukuba umfazi akanamdla nje ngale mvakalelo, kodwa ukhethe phakathi kwamadoda amabini. Njengomthetho, kwinxantathu yothando, onke amacala amathathu ava ubunzima, ukuba ngamnye kubo esazi ngobomi bomnye omnye komnye. Ekuhlaleni, imeko enjalo ithathwa kakubi, ngoko umfazi uyawa malunga nokuba enze ukhetho lwakho lwelinye lamaqabane, okanye aphule ubudlelwane kunye nabo bobabini.
Yintoni unobangela wothando kube kanye kubameli ababini besini esahlukileyo?
Ngokutsho kwezengqondo, esinye sezona zizathu zithandwayo zokukhangela iqabane lesibini luphambili ngokomoya. Umtshato awuqinisekisi ubomi obonwabisayo, kodwa andifuni ukuyizisa kuqhawulo mtshato, ngenxa yesi sizathu, umfazi ukhetha ukuba umntu ongayi kuba njalo, kodwa uya kunceda ekusombululeni iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa ziya kunceda ukusombulula iingxaki, kodwa kuyanceda ekusombululeni iingxaki.
Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba uziva utsalelekile kwiqabane lakho?
Uninzi lwabantu abanxantathu luyabulala phantsi kwempembelelo yezinto zangaphandle: Isiqingatha sesibini siyaziswa ngobukho bomchasi, umfazi kunye nezihlobo ziyaqonda ukuba ngubani na obalulekileyo abantu. Ke uthini?
Thatha isigqibo ngokwakho
Mamela. Ithini izwi lakho elingaphakathi? Ukhuphiswano lwabahlobo kwaye nokuba abantu ababathandayo banokujongwa njengoncedo, kodwa isigqibo sokugqibela kufuneka sikuthathe ngokwakho, kuba akukho mntu uyakuqonda okwenzeka ebomini bakho.
Ngenxa yoko, kuya kufuneka wenze ukhetho
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Khumbula ukuba kutheni usiya kuyo
Kwenzeka ukuba isizathu sokuba umfazi afumane umntu omnye. Umzekelo, umyeni wayengamkhathaleli xa wabelana naye ngeendaba ezibalulekileyo, wakhubeka wagqiba kwelokuba aziphindezele, efumana "umphulaphuli" ecaleni. Nangona kunjalo, zikho izizathu ezinzulu, umzekelo, uyekile ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye neqabane lakho rhoqo, itshintshe isimo sengqondo sayo ngawe. Kwimeko enjalo, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngabo ukulungele ukuya phambili, kwaye lowo kufuneka uthini kakuhle.
Thetha nomntu ngamnye
Ngaphambi kokuba wenze ukhetho olubalulekileyo, thetha nelinye lamadoda. Kuya kufuneka ukuba uqaphele ukuba loluphi amaqabane olwaneliseke ngakumbi lolwaneliseko kunye nenani labo elikunika iimvakalelo ongenayo.
Imele iziphumo zoKhetho
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba iqabane ecaleni ngeli xesha lilungele wena ngakumbi, lusakhawulezi ukwahlukana nendoda eqhubekayo. Mhlawumbi kukho abantwana kwisibini sakho, cinga ngendlela isigqibo sokuchitha usapho siya kubachaphazela ngayo. Cinga kwakhona ukuba iqabane lesibini lingamaxhoba anjalo?
Okwethutyana, phakamisa iintlanganiso
Ewe, eyona ndlela ilula yokubona isithandwa sangaphantsi. Mamela ngokwakho, apho ubomi bakho butshintshile emva kokuba iintlanganiso zenu ziyekile ukuba ziphinde zibe rhoqo. Mhlawumbi awuzange ufumane uthando oluluqilima, kodwa lwalumalunga nokuncamathisela.