Kwaye kwanomnqweno ocacileyo wokuzala umntwana, iimeko ezahlukeneyo ziyafuneka: Ukulungela ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo kwabazali, ukuzithemba kunye nokuthembela kubuhlakani, ulwazi lokuba ubomi buza kutshintsha ngokuzalwa komntwana.
Abafazi abaninzi babuthintela lo msebenzi kwaye babele umntwana kufutshane ne-40, ngaphambi koko, wawazalisekisa amaphupha abo kwaye eqonda amaphupha abo. Makhe siqwalasele ukuba ngawaphantsi kwamanzi ahamba phantsi kwamanzi kwaye afihla i-cuif ezifihlakeleyo ekuhleleni abasetyhini ukuba bahlehlise ukukhulelwa kunye nokuzalwa komntwana.
I-OSTALOTION: isoyikisa kwaye ayisebenzi
Amava abakhulelwa kwixesha elidlulileyo. Uninzi lwaba basetyhini bafuna nzima ukuma ngeenyawo, behlawula imali-mboleko, enyanisweni, kumava abo sele benamava abuhlungu enxulumene nokukhumbula komntwana. Okanye kwanyanzelwa kwasebuncinaneni bakhe, banyanzelwa ukuba bakhuphe isisu, kwakufuneka bazifihle kwabo babathandayo. Ngapha koko ngokubanzi ukuba ngumfazi kwaye uphumeze umsebenzi wasetyhini- le yinto ekhathazayo kwaye ibuhlungu. Rhoqo, ngokubonisana, ndiyeva ukuba abafazi bavela kwiintsapho apho yonke into inxulumene nesondo, ubunye, ubuntu obuhlekisayo kukuhlazisa, ukungcola kunye nokuhlazisa. Kwaye bayeke bambelele kwi-Free Free Shicilela kwesi sihloko, amava abuhlungu kunye neenkumbulo zokuphulukana nomntwana wokwenene kubenza babe sengozini. Kwaye xa sisenza buhlungu, sizama iintlungu ukunciphisa. Umzekelo, ukuphepha isihloko esinzima.
Umama uqolile ukuba nentombazana yesithathu
Unyango lwaseJungian lubonisa ukuba umfazi kwinkathalo yakhe yebhinqa kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana umbonele umama wakhe. Unika ilungelo lakhe lokuphila ubomi bakhe, ngeempazamo zalo kunye noloyiso, zinike ukuqhubeka kohlobo olungenalo imvakalelo yokuziva unetyala nomsebenzi, ukuba uyintombi engendawo ngunina. Kodwa kwimibono yaseRashiya, okuchaseneyo yinto echaseneyo. Oomama bahlala bahlasela ubomi beentombi zabantu abadala, babaxelele ukuba ngubani na ofanele ukuhlala, indlela yokuphila xa sele ebelekwa abantwana kwaye bafuna ntoni. Endaweni yokusikelela nenkululeko. Ngenxa yoko, abafazi abancinci bavumela oonina, bahlala bebulisa, ungenelelo lwabo kwintsapho yabo. Nokuba ubukho bendoda oyithandayo nabanothando, umama umi kwindawo yokuqala, etshabalalisa ngokungxamisekileyo ulwalamano nobuso bosapho onokuthi afumane ubomi isidalwa esitsha.
Ukuzithemba kunye nesalathiso sokulungisa
Ngumfazi kuphela ogqibayo: Ngubani oza kuba nabantwana. Ukungabikho kwabantwana kubudlelwane obuninzi kunye nokubonakala kuzinzo oluzinzileyo sisizathu sokucinga ngayo. Ukuba ukuthandabuza ukuba umntwana ubaliwe, akukho nto inokwenziwa. Ukuba elinye lamaqabane linyanzelisa, kwaye owesibini uyala kuyimpawu ezothusayo. Ukusilela ukuba nomntwana onomntu othile kububungqina bokuba ubudlelwane bubuthathaka, bungathembeki. Banentsilelo enkulu yokusondelelana, ukusondela - kuba umfazi akafuni kuzala abantwana ngoku. Ayiphumli ngokwaneleyo ukuba izelwe abantwana kwimeko engapheliyo.
Ngaba uMntwana - Ulonwabo loSapho?
Unyango losapho lubelwa amanqanaba aliqela obomi abambalwa ukuba usapho luyadlula. Ukuzalwa komntwana wokuqala kukutshatyalaliswa kwenqanaba elidlulileyo kunye nengxaki. Ngokuqala komntwana ekukhanyeni, endaweni yeindima zomtshato kuphela zongezwa abazali abanabantu abaninzi. Ndidibene nesibini esoyika kakhulu ukuba umntwana unqamle kwaye uyaqonda. I-fusion ngaphakathi kwesibini yayinkulu kangangokuba isikolo salo nakwesithathu yayisisisongelo lolonwabo losapho.
Xa umfazi engakhuli
Isikhundla esithandekayo somfazi kakhulu sisithintelo esikhulu. I-caenaile - oko kukuthi, ebuntwaneni kunye nokungakhuli kubudala bayo bokwenyani. Ukuba ngumama-oku kuthetha ukuba ungazithathi, kodwa nokunika umntwana wakhe into awayeyifuna ukuze ihlale ibekelwe ecaleni kwezicwangciso kunye nemisebenzi neminqweno yakhe, kwaye azinikele kwisidalwa esincinci. Oku kufuna ukukhula kwengqondo.
Ngokubanzi, iziphumo zeqela liphela ziya kuthi zingenakwenzeka ukuba zikhawuleze kwaye ziqinisekile ukuba ngunina. Kodwa ukuthetha nam ngokunyaniseka kwinto endishukumisela xa ndihlehlisa lo mbuzo, nganye. Yibanentlahla kuwe!
UMaria Dyachkova (iZgkova), ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye nokuqeqeshwa ngokuqeqeshwa koqeqesho lomntu weZiko loQeqesho lweKhazin Khazin